Christians can you please help me with this?

Question

I'm 16 and I go to a Catholic school and I think that I believe in God, but I think I might be gay and I've tried to stop thinking that way but it always bothers me. I stop myself thinking of guys in a sexual way and instead I try to think of girls but it's not changing. Today we watched a video in religion class, and it was about young people having bad influences. It was sort of a dramatic movie and at the start it had flashing images of all the bad influences, like drugs, media, and then one of the images was two men getting married and that really bothered me because I don't want to be like that and I know it's wrong, but how do I change?

I really WANT to be straight, it's not just because it's what society expects it's because I believe it's right, and most people would just say "there is nothing wrong with that" but I think there is, so how do I change myself?

You're all saying I can't change, but that basically means my only option in life is to never have relationships, either that or become a priest (not gonna happen) and I'll probably go to hell... right?

Answer 1

Through prayer. We all have something in our lives that is sinful that we struggle to gain freedom from. Pray for deliverance. God bless!

Answer 2

I believe that you may have one of the greatest trials present in today's society. Find a good christian based counselor to talk to. I have not come to a conclusion on weather gay feelings are inherent, a result of crappy society, too many hormones in our food/water, or something some choose. I think it might be some of each. I do know that acting on homosexual tendencies is a sin. Having those feelings does not make you a sinner or even bad, it just means you are going to have to fight those feelings. Talk to the counselor, make sure he/she has the same view as homosexuality as you do or you may end up more confused than you were to begin with. I don't know if a priest at school or church would be able to look at this as a trial you are experiencing, or if they would just freak out and think you are sinning. My current ecclesiastical leader I believe would listen and help me gain strength and understanding. See if you could find a person/counselor like this. But no matter what everyone else says, you are not a sinner, and you can gain strength to fight this, and it is not God's desire that you or anyone else give in to gay tendencies.
I have several gay family members, it is something we are all trying to understand.

Answer 3

This is a very tough question for me to answer and even tougher because you are living it.

If sounds like you're confused more than anything. I don't know why you would be confused but - it sounds like you are. I wouldn't bear so much weight in thinking you are gay. It could be a phase you're going through - curiosity. Take time to sort out your emotions. Consider all things that affect you. Are you having problems in school or with your parents? Are you stressed over something? These things can lead young people into places they do not belong.
You should take time to think it through and experiment with this emotion. Could you picture yourself enjoying a homosexual experience? If not, then do not worry. You are confusing admiration for homosexuality. The Romans greatly admired the male anatomy - not in a homosexual way. They admired other men in order to perfect themselves.
It sounds like you don't like the idea of being gay - relax. It doesn't sound like you're gay at all. If you're engrossed by the idea of gayness, then you're in the clear.

Answer 4

It's a temptation that some people just have to live with. My best advice is remove yourself from whereever you are getting these bad influences if at all possible. The reason that you might not be interested in girls right now is simple because you haven't met anyone special yet. This could lead to a good trait that means that you judge only by the heart instead of the body.
Another idea of what you may be going through it because of something that happened in your past that you just don't remember that was bad, terrible to you. This again, just means you have to be patient. Whenever you start to feel tempted, dwell on something Christian.

Answer 5

Homosexuality is a choice. If it were natural then men would be able to have children and we'd all be asexual. Homosexuality is about sex and attention. I had a good friend that was gay and I was exposed to many homosexuals thru him. I found that they all had a great deal in common such as promiscuity and the need to be the center of attention. This is not to say that you are this way but you should look into yourself and find possible reasoning behind your feelings.

You should pray about it and talk to an elder. I'm not Catholic so I can't advise you on who to go to but I can tell you that confusion is natural at your age.

Answer 6

You might have to face the fact that it might never change. It's possible that it will but you can't really force yourself to be attracted to girls. That may mean that if you want to live in God's way you might never get married, which would be hard. But please understand that even if you feel like this it doesn't define you. God doesn't see you any differently from the way he sees other people, and it's not your fault if you feel like this. The thing you have control over, and therefore the thing you should concentrate on, is how you behave in response to how you feel. That's the bit that you're responsible for.

Answer 7

Temptation is not sin.
Perhaps this is something you will always need to keep a tight leash on. When I was your age I wanted to lay everything in a skirt. Forty years later, I haven't changed much, but I remain celibate now for over twenty years. Sex is like alcoholism, an alcoholic is never really cured. But one can never take another drink.

Answer 8

Am very happy to see what you have written, though most would feel irritated.
The reason why am happy is that your inner conscious is still alive, you are alive. congratulations. Your conscious is making you think what is right and what is wrong.
What is happening to you is just a symptom. The cause is somewhere else. You must discover what you are doing is inline with what your most loving creator wanted you to do?
If God loves you, and if you understand how deeply God loves you, you will find all the strenght in you to love Him by following what He wants us to do, the way He wants us to live our lives, and be rewarded in life after death.

Check out the link to see how and why some of most educated priests of Christianity discovered and followed a way of life that is so enjoying that the heart smiles with love of God.

Answer 9

All I can say is that you need to throw yourself on God's mercies.

Read the letters that Paul wrote (referred to as "epistles") to the church in Rome (ie Romans), Galatians, and Ephesians, for starters.

Learn about the grace of God through Jesus Christ our Lord, who suffered greatly under the hands of Pontius Pilate, was crucified, dead and buried, then rose again the morning of the third day.

Find out just who Jesus really is by reading about the life and times of Jesus Christ. They are called the four gospels, and they were recorded from four different perspectives to speak to four different kinds of people groups, and each one represents Jesus from a different perspective. They are called Matthew, Mark, Luke and John.

If you dedicate to reading 10 chapters a day starting with Matthew, going right through to the end of the New Testament, you can read it in something like a month or two. Read it and re-read it, until the Word of God soaks your mind and eventually sinks down to soak your heart, as well.

And above all else, put your trust in Jesus, and NO body else.

God bless you as you seek God, and do NOT be deceived by the satan-inspired answers telling you that God doesn't care and it's ok for you to be a homosexual. These answers are of the anti-christ, the devil!

Answer 10

If you THINK its wrong, then you are on the right track.....next pray and ask God for guidance. Anyone who tells you its ok is sin-sick and they are the ones who need help........you can do anything you set your mind to, so once you set your mind to doing what is right, it will be easier. Read the Bible. God Bless you....

Answer 11

remember the catholic church has always been open to gay peoples, being gay is not a sin, its participating in a homosexual act that is, talk with a priest at confession there are programs out there that work with 100% sucsess