I babysit a toddler (almost 2) at no charge cause her mom is going to school and her husbands in haiti still so she doesn't have alot of money, and I love her so much I'm like a mom to her to! But her mom doesn't make her mind and lets her do whatever she wants and the toddler runs her house! So when she comes to my house she doesn't listen and when I tell her no and put her in timeout she just gives me a smirk and does it again, and now she's been taking her diaper off and I have been telling her NO so many times but she doesn't listen and she just escaped from her crib somehow and smeared poop all over my floor and I told her no and set her in timeout but it didn't help any! I'm thinking about just telling her mom that I am going to stop babysitting her until she can make her mind even though i'll miss her so much!! but thats not the first time she smeared poop everywhere and I'm not going to ruin my stuff cause she lets her daughter do whatever she want! So what would you do?
2007-12-13 07:13:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Should I just tell hermom I'm going to sstop babysitting her or should I just keep babysitting her? any suggestion?
2007-12-13 07:14:25 · update #1
ai am so frustraded I just want to check on her cause she still supposed to be taking a nap and she took off her diaper again!!!
2007-12-13 07:24:11 · update #2
beata s- I don't live in Haiti so if you want to hire me I'll watch your kids! lol
2007-12-13 07:25:20 · update #3
desnlori- I'm only 17 so I can't drink yet but the bath sounds like a good idea!!!
2007-12-13 13:24:28 · update #4
starbig, That is so sad I am sorry for you and am also sorry for the little girl ! Obedience in a child"s life is key to them becoming a good person as they grow ! I understand that this is the moms doing and not yours. So yes stop unless the Mom does an about face,which in this day and age probobly won"t happen ! When I grew up getting swatted on the behind and stood in the corner was the best way to stop bad behavior ! It didn"t scar me for life, I learned right from wrong !
2007-12-13 07:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is alot of responsibity to teach someone else's child, the difference between right and wrong when they won't do it as the parent. I would tell the mom that unless her child's behavior changes you will not be able to watch her.
Hint: The baby taking the diaper off sounds like she might want to start toilet training. My daughter did the same thing and within a week she was using the potty.
Stay positive! You can't be anymore supportive than you have already been. Stick to your guns and hopefully the situation works out for the best.
2007-12-13 07:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by kam727 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her mom that you just want a little time out to yourself, and I'm pretty sure the kid will start missing u soon, so maybe when you decide to go back she'll be acting much nicer to u. I hope!! It's very nice of you to do this though, are u in haiti? I'd hire u! but we don't live in haiti though.
2007-12-13 07:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by acia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have a serious talk with the Mom tell her whats up and ask her to team up with you in disciplining her daughter until she behaves. Terrible two's can be really hard if there is no discipline, you gotta tell the Mom or she might be ticked if you quit babysitting but if the mom can't help you change how her daughter is then that would be your final solution.
2007-12-13 07:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop babysitting her!!! This child is wreaking havoc in your home and is totally undisciplined. The Mother's financial problems are her's and her husband's not yours. You are spending money cleaning the messes that this little demon spawn creates. Put an end to it and get a cat or a dog to lavish your caring and love on.
2007-12-13 07:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start weaning yourself away from the family. Be bold. Tell them that if x doesn't happen, then I'm not taking care of the child anymore. And you need to at least get paid a little bit.
2007-12-13 07:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Freud described this phase as the anal stage of a child. Do not get angry at her pooping otherwise she'll grow up to
constipated - I'm not kidding.
2007-12-13 07:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the question is worthy of a star I give it. My starred list has only 35 on it. Probaly small compared to some.
2016-05-23 10:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by desirae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...... I would tell her the rules and if she does not listen just say to her mom You know what I QUIT!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can not stand your child wiping poop all over my stuff If she keeps doing this I will quit. So please tell her to stop it or just take some time off to yourself and just relax and if you want to go back go back and if you don't don't Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hope this helps
HiHi x3 ;-)
2007-12-13 07:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by Hi Hi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her mom that you can't do it anymore.
Since she's not your kid, you can't really be tough with her to the degree she needs to be done.
Then sit down, draw yourself a bath, pour a glass of wine and relax. You've been through hell.
2007-12-13 07:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by desnlori 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋