It doesn't harm anyone and it doesn't affect in any way anybody besides the 2 partners
2007-12-13 06:51:37 · 50 answers · asked by larissa 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
budleit2 we are asuming a normal situation, not a more complicated one. Answer my question, don't complicate it. I hoped it wouldn't be necesary to mention every detail, such as the thing that they are NOT cheating on someone by having sex (cheating can happen inside marriage you know, and it actually happens more frequent inside marriage)
2007-12-13 07:06:23 · update #1
behonest, the fact that my mother didn't have sex before marriage didn't save her from raising me alone anyway. My folks divorced when I was only 4 months old, and I am not a singular case
2007-12-13 07:09:19 · update #2
tahoe02_4me62, it is a responsability to protect yourself from getting diseases or getting pregnant. Indeed, those who are not capable of this, should not have sex
2007-12-13 07:21:44 · update #3
It is symbolic of the special nature of the marriage bond that something so intimate is shared by only the life partners. And as several people have pointed out, it cuts down on stds, pregnancy without a committed partner, and the emptiness that many people who are constantly sleeping around often feel, at least according to many studies that have been done on the subject.
(That last sentence should not be interpreted to mean I think anyone who has sex outside marriage sleeps around with everybody. I am talking there about only a certain percentage of people.)
2007-12-13 07:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a very bold statement. What about the babies aborted by unwed mothers? Or the people infected by STD's (possibly later married partners from the other partner's premarital sex with others.) I would say there was some harm there. What about the emotional damage when one partner sees the other as simply a sex object rather than a person? What about years later if/when you want a serious relationship and can't find a quality spouse because you are "damaged goods" from being so promiscuous? Or are unable to find one person you are able to commit to after playing the field for so long? Or get cervical cancer or some other condition that makes you infertile because of early/multiple partner sex and/or prolonged birth control?
And will you really feel the same way when we're talking about your 13 year old daughter who is the "flavor of the month" for some 17-18 year old thug?
Read the Bible--specifically Proverbs and the letters to the Corinthians for specific reasons why Christianity forbids it.
Sex was created to be the consummation of the marital union--a permanent bond and covenant between a man and woman committed to each other, and ready to accept the responsibility of any children that resulted from that union.
If this is a serious question, I urge you to pray sincerely, do some further Bible study on this subject and some deep soul-searching. Perhaps the Holy Spirit can convince you if I and others on here can't, before you live to regret your words and suffer some serious consequences.
That said, yes, it happens all the time, even with Christians. It isn't an unpardonable sin, so don't let Satan continue to beat you up over it. But like Jesus told the woman He saved from stoning, the ideal is for us to "Go and sin no more." A Christian should be striving to see sin as God sees it and not try to justify or excuse it but to repent and turn away from it.
2007-12-13 07:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The answer is really simple. Jesus condemned it. He did speak about sexual morality a good deal in the Gospels. He condemned lust, fornication, and adultery. He forbade divorce. He made it clear that God the Father's intentions for humanity was that "the two would become one flesh" and that "what God has united man must not divide."
St. Paul was often appalled at the sexual immorality he discovered. He often spoke out against sexual immorality specifically fornication. Such sins, he reasoned, defiled the body which is "the Temple of the Holy Spirit." To commit such offenses was to sin against one's own body.
You say no harm is done. If that was the case, why do we have the worst plague in human history? AIDS afflicts everyone - from those infected, the loved ones and children they leave behind, the devastating social conditions it creates. And what of the millions of abortions committed in America alone. No there is GREAT harm done by sexual immorality. Humanity is indeed reaping the bitter harvest of what it had sown.
VB8
2007-12-13 07:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
1) That's a lie.
2) That's a lie.
If you truly believe it doesn't affect anyone other than the 2 partners, you are deluding yourself.
First of all, you lose your virginity and your self-respect. Then the guy/girl leaves you after having used you and you get broken-hearted. Then you get a venereal disease and share it with everyone else. Then you get pregnant and have an abortion, and someone dies because of your selfishness. Then everyone in your family grieves for the baby you killed, the grandchild/niece/nephew they could have had. And then you fall into depression because of what you have done and turn to alcohol or drugs to ease the pain, or you learn to hate men and become a lesbian and chop off your hair. Or, you have the baby and now your family has to be employed as your daycare so that you can get a job to feed it because you have no husband to take care of you and the baby. Then, your future spouse loses out because, by the time he marries you, you are already "damaged goods", both physically and emotionally.
So, how is it that you think your premarital sex "doesn't hurt anyone"?
2007-12-13 07:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by FUNdie 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Well it would be immoral apparently? normal loving relationshsips are based on many levels,religion isn't one of them,abstinence until marriage means your wedding night will be a huge dissapointment,oh and christian girls dont have premarital sex....hehhehehehehe I slept with plenty that went to uni near me...sex is a biological imperitive and it is much better to know what you are doing so you have a great sex life..I thank the 46 woman who popped my cherry as a schoolboy..ex model very nice indeed and taught me all about what a woman needs...something you die hard christians will never have huh,lets hope your wifes never get drunk near a guy like me...they wouldn't want to go back to boring missionary man,and if a women isn't meant to get pleasure from it,why have a clitoris and G-spot....
2007-12-13 07:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by SkinAnInk 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a deception. We have been told not to commit adultery, nor anything like unto it. And for good reason. The only thing fornication can possibly lead to is heartache. You would have to sear your conscience with a branding iron to rationalize yourself out of the guilt that one experiences after the moment they commit a sexual sin. It's not like lying or stealing. It doesn't physically hurt anyone around you, but the emotional and spiritual damage that these sins cause is tremendous, and you can never fully heal afterwards - there's always something missing. When you commit these sacred acts outside of their proper setting, you give away a huge part of you, and it stays with the one who took it. Anyone who has committed these terrible sins can attest to the heartwrenching pain and despair of losing your soul for a moment of pleasure.
2007-12-13 07:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by catalyst 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The atheist explanation: When they made up that rule, they didn't have the convenience of contraceptives, so premarital sex usually entailed premarital kids. Marriage was (and is) promoted as a means to raise children in a more stable environment, i.e., you can't stay home and take care of the babies if you have to go out and tend your crops.
Modern conveniences have made it easier for people to raise children single-handedly, but the rules have stuck around, I guess for the sake of tradition.
2007-12-13 06:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mr.Samsa 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you are a born again believer, sin grieves the Spirit, and grieves your spirit. True believers cannot sin without feeling guilty. God has not given us a spirit of fear; but of power, love, and self control. The Bible addresses your thought clearly in I Corinthians chapters 5-7. Jesus addresses your thoughts directly in Matthew 5-7. The question is; are you born again? Do you or do you not have the Spirit of Him in you through the new birth?
2016-05-23 10:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the idea that you are "saving" yourself for the one special person that you believe is your "God" incarnate. Myths tell us that marriage is the reunion of the seperated duad.
Marriage is not simply a love affair, it's the sacrifice of ego to a relationship in which two have become one again. If you have sex extamaritally you are giving your sacred self to someone other than your own true partner.
2007-12-13 07:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by Missi B. 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you are a skeptic, it is so that you can be controlled. If you are not then it is because an emotional connection happens when you have sex and by staying abstinent you are protecting yourself from the pain of that connection being broken.
2007-12-13 07:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by Meg W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋