I live in SC he lives in florida.We fell in love we have known each other for 3 months and have seen each other only for 2 weekends but have talked endlessly on the phone. I did not want to leave SC because I have a son 15 who is a freshman in highschool and I wanted him to finish his highschool years because he grew up here and loves it.My boyfriend hasn't met him yet.My boyfriend wants me to move to florida because of his career of 30 years he can't move and wants me to get married and start a life with him like maybe in another year. I wouldn't mind moving but will stay for my son.I am afraid I am going to lose him because he keeps telling me how lonely he is for me and calls me his soulmate. I know I am looking for answers probably no one can give me except myself but I would appreciate any input on this.I am visiting him for about 7 days after christmas my son was asked to come also but he is going on a trip with his Dad.
2007-12-13 05:33:48 · 4 answers · asked by eagle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a relationship with this man is meant to be, it will happen. You've only known this man for 3 months, so to uproot your life is moving really fast. You should take your time, let your son enjoy high school, get to know this guy, then when the time is right, if you still love this man, marry him.
2007-12-13 05:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too early to make a commitment with the guy you're in love with. You have been married once already. I suggest you take this very slow. You may have lust for him, but love is when you really know and understand the other person. If you really want to know some one then you need to be around them most days for around 3 to 4 months. After the first 6 to 8 weeks people tend to take off their masks and really start to show who they really are with their guard down. This is what you need to see. Just seeing him on weekends is not a good reason to get married or to live with him, or even to move for that matter. If it is meant to be then after your son graduates and you two are still hanging in there, then I would say go for it.
2007-12-13 13:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by DoogieT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't jump in too quick. Give it some more time. If he considers you his soulmate he will be happy to wait till you are free to move. Your son is setting himself up for the rest of his life and to up lift him now could be putting a spanner in his works. Put your son first for the moment. At fifteen, his stability is the most important. If your boyfriend is sincere he will understand and not pressure you. See how it goes after Christmas.
2007-12-13 15:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by pat j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is way to soon to make a descion... plus you think you know him, but you really dont. I bet everything is peaches and cream with you two.. i.e. no fights and everytime you see eachother you cant get enough of eachother. Well would it be like that if you were living with eachother. My boyfriend lived in TN and I lived in FL. We met online in 2001 and met face to face in 2003. He moved to Florida in 2005 and i have to say that is when we REALLY got to know eachother, but the love we had was still strong enough to deal with the "new things" we found out about eachother. So it has been 6 years now. I just think it is too soon to make a BIG descision like that... give it time.
2007-12-13 13:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by Gmarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋