My son was caught writing about an inappropriate topic in school last week, and so they called me in to meet with administrators and such. During the meeting I was told it was of a sexual nature and rather explicit. He was answering another student's question about "glueballing"?? I had never heard the term before and when it was explained to me I felt sick to my stomach. What now? Do I follow the standard punishment procedures or is my son a sexual deviant?
2007-12-13 04:41:37 · 12 answers · asked by Laura P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My son is 14 years old. He's a freshman in high school. Thank you all for your excellent advice. Didn't know what to think about theharrysituation.com link. Was that for real?
2007-12-13 05:52:49 · update #1
That makes two of us but your son was probably jest being a boy
2007-12-13 04:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Cat Man 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He's 14. He's showing off. Glueballing is a sexual activity, so what? I've looked around and it appears to be fictitious, stemming from the material on the Harry blog someone posted the link for.Either way I doubt he's actually tried it.
Have a talk with him about the legal age of consent, and the need to bag up.Make him squirm.
Then lay down the law as to what is appropriate in school. Ground him, or whatever you usually do for being obnoxious. The school have, presumably, already delivered their sanctions. Insist on personally checking every piece of homework he hands in, until you are satisfied with both his behaviour and the standard of his work. This will REALLY make him squirm.
I doubt he's a deviant, just another teenager with a healthy interest in the idea of sex. No point in getting in a stew about it. After all, he was only answering someone else's question. You could, of course, also sort your firewall out and restrict his access to a lot of the sex-related sites.
2007-12-13 06:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by who me? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think any answers we give should be based on your son's age. Is he 7 or 17? I'm not sure punishment is the way to go. I think your son needs to talk to a responsible male adult that he feels comfortable with. Any questions he has should be answered without feeling shame. Another option is to ask the school counselor how to proceed. That is what they are there for and trained to do.
2007-12-13 05:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth he sounds like a normal teen that is curious about sex and certain gross terms. This doesn't mean he is gay or sexually active. It just means there is a lot of information at our children's finger tips and some of it just makes them curious.
I would talk to him about what is and isn't appropriate in school and out.
I wouldn't punish him for this.
My mother told me when I was young to always be careful of what I write down.
2007-12-13 07:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is a sexual deviant, but a hormonal teenager. I think you need to talk to him about appropriate behavior in school and a more serious talk about experimenting with sex, using precautions, and making smart choices.
Good luck!
2007-12-13 07:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably the kinda guy who just wants to have a little fun. At that age, he's just learning about his body and that stage should pass once he gets a little older. I would let him know it's not an appropriate thing to say, but I would not worry about him much.
2007-12-13 09:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by sci-girl1492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? Maybe a talk about sex and the facts of life as well as what is proper in public would help.
2007-12-13 04:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by 2A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would nip it in the bud and really hit it hard with disciplinary action and a whole lot of education about the subject!
2007-12-13 04:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by blahblah 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've never heard that term either so I'm not sure how to answer your question without knowing how bad or what it means. Sorry!
2007-12-13 04:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
men and women actually experimenting with hair glue in a sexual way, and sticking themselves together. It was a growing phenomenon now known as Glue balling.
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I think your son was just experimenting but I would be worried as this seems extreme so def punish him and keep a close eye on him.
How old is he?
2007-12-13 04:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by pensk8r 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋