Im black and he's white
2007-12-13 04:11:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A relationship is a relationship. Neither of you should make a big deal about race. Just make yourselves happy.
2007-12-13 04:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by cb32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on where the adveristy is coming from. If you just find that random people in the street have an issue with it, ignore them. They're the ones with the problem.
If you find that friends are having a problem with it, just give everyone an ultamiutm. They have to accept who you choose to be with IF they are true friends.
But when it comes to family giving you flack, that's a bit more difficult. I know the last thing you want to do is upset people's applecart, but you have to live for yourself and date someone you like. Just because he's white doesn't mean he doesn't truly care and respect you - or even love you. Put it to them like this: would they rather see you date a white guy who is genuine and kind or a black guy who treats you like crap? (and you put up w/ it just b/c he's black) That's dumb. Go with your heart sister and enjoy the relationship!
2007-12-13 04:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always going to be some that will be haters but that's their problem not yours
You just tell them to grow up get a life and accept it cause it's your life not theirs
I have been in an interracial relationship before but i never faced that because the friends that i had in my life at the time were always cool about it
Whatever you do don't let your friends or people influence who you date that's your buisness not theirs and if you get problems because of this issue just tell them that
Who i date is my buisness not yours
As long as he treats you well and with respect and loves you nothing else matters
2007-12-13 04:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of drama?
I'm in an interracial relationship as well (I'm Puerto Rican, he is Irish)
Do you mean from your parents or his? Or from peers?
I've never experienced any trouble nor have any of my friends in interracial relationships, but maybe it's different where you live
If anyone gives you crap, just tell them to get with the times, people will date and fall in love regardless of color and that's a fact, they are very shallow if they can't accept that
2007-12-13 04:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by marm212 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in interracial relationships for a long period of my life. I am white and was attracted to hispanic girls. I finally got my sh*t together and am now engaged to a wonderful white girl. Although hispanic girls are beautiful, I feel SO much better being with someone who is the same race I am, speaks perfect English, and comes from an upper class home.
2007-12-13 04:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Phillip M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in your situation. People are always going to hate or be curious, so when you get into those types of relationships, expect drama....But to have the least amount of it, just ignore people and walk with your head up and only pay attention to each other, don't give into people's comments and make remarks. It only makes things worse and things can get out of hand. People are going to stare, like I said before, some people may be fine with it but they are just curious and just like to look at you and some people don't like it and will look at both of you in a nasty way. Not everyone will agree but just remember that you are the one who is with him not them and just be happy together.
2007-12-13 04:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by Mallball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the haters and focus on each other. I was in a relationship like that and not only did we have normal relationship problems we had added stress due to the black/white thing. If you care about each other then that's all that matters.
2007-12-13 04:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore everyone who has something negative to say. If you love him and he loves you, then forget the rest. Some people are so close-minded and they feel like you can only find love within your own race and that's not true. Do your thing girl. Love hard.
Besides, some white guys have the softest lips and they'll kiss your gently that you just melt. :-)
2007-12-13 04:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all remember you are both humans, color doesn't matter, and if you guys love each other that's what you both need, my wife is black as well, and we have a solid beautiful 11 years marriage.
Just get along, and forget about color, treat each other as humans who are in love.
F... the rest of the world, love is everything!!
2007-12-13 04:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Elias Bezerra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven couples in our immediate friend circle are inter racial marriages, longest being married for 10 years with three beautiful kids (one would be even more beautiful if he stopped rubbing pudding into his hair and general surroundings).
best bit of advice, no-one makes you feel inferior or wrong without your permission. Its their drama, not yours.
Second bit of advice, if you are babysitting a toddler, dont give him strawberry pudding when you have a cream sofa.
2007-12-13 04:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋