My boyfriend and I have been together for awhile and this morning he broke up with me over the phone and I was on my way to work which made it even worse. He said the reason was because he wants to be single and concentrate on work and goin back to school...in other words to "get himself together". I dont really understand that someone who says they love you and tells you that they want to hopefully marry you one day, could just say it's over and can't even do it face to face. This hurts so bad and I'm at work right now trying not to cry.
2007-12-13 03:45:24 · 25 answers · asked by diva804 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a complete coward. Tell him to take all the time he needs because you love him but that you can't promise you'll be there if he comes back. Then tell him not to even think about coming back until he figures out how to act like a real man.
2007-12-13 03:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Gentle One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, I know it's hard. But do not let a guy make you cry. There are SO many fish in the sea!... If he's too busy with school and work then he clearly doesn't have enough time to devote to you. You deserve a man who can give you love and affection and have time for you. And most likely if he did it over the phone.. he is not a real man, and never cared that much. That is just wrong. If he can't even say it to your face... then he may have been doing something he wasn't supposed to be doing. I'm sorry to hear about it, but please, don't let him make you cry, that only proves to him that he is stronger than you. Good luck.
2007-12-13 03:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm seeing alot of the females here bashing him about not being in person but the thing is break-ups are hard to do from a guys side. We don't want to see you cry especially if we really have feelings for you. If he really cared for you then not only did he think long and hard about the break-up but he also thought of the easiest way for it to be done from his point of view. Seeing you cry is closer to a bear trap than a prize. Also if he's getting life together this may prove beneficial in the long run.
2007-12-13 03:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with King Mizz, it's so much easier. If you're going to be broken up anyway, and it's really over, who cares how it's done. Take the path of least resistance and move on. If you want to hook up again later though, that's a whole other story.
Maybe he just didn't have the cash to buy you a good xmas present and he'll call you back to get together on new years!
2007-12-13 03:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jacko 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was too scared to do it to your face because he knows he is being stupid.
I am so sorry girl ... this is so hurtful and you have a lot of bad days ahead of you ... and today is no exception. It is hard for us girls when they do this because we want answers ... and they avoid the questions!!
Try your very best to occupy your thoughts and to keep as busy as possible at work. I realize that is like asking a blind man to see but you need to try in order to get through today and tomorrow and the next day. My ex and I were together almost 6 years and we lived together and he left one day out of the blue and left me a note! No call no nothing ... just a note. I came home from work and there it was and he was gone. Believe me I know how hurt you are right now.
Break ups are never easy and I am sorry you were hurt. He was insensitive and try to remember that. He did not care enough to at least wait until tonight ... or anything! What a total jerk!! I am sorry girl ...
I know you are NOT ok and you are not going to be ok for a while but try your very best to not think about it until you get home tonight! :(
2007-12-13 03:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because this guy has no guts. Let him go find himself and get himself together. You do not need someone in your life like this. It will be hard for a while and you will get over it. Give your self some time to heel, then when you are ready to go out start meeting new people and you will meet that someone who is just right for you. Someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I feel that he did not really care in the first place, if he could not talk to you face to face. Trust me there are better guys out there for you. Just remember about going through a lot of toads before the prince arrives.
2007-12-13 04:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by iceprincess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a Mediator and I deal with this situation dailly. Im sorry to say what the other person said is true. Most people that break up on the phone have some feelings for you and just wants to break up with you in a nice way.
2007-12-13 03:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by Chris: An Atheist With A Plan! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He didn't care for you enough to do it in person. It takes a strong man to do something like that face-to-face. You're better off without him, although I know you can't see that at the moment. Find yourself a better man and have fun with him. Good luck
2007-12-13 03:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that often the reason given is not the reason. You may never know the reason. As much as it hurts, if you don't have mutual feelings towards one another, it's better to end it.
He probably is too chicken to do it face-to-face. I know I've been guilty of that in the past.
2007-12-13 03:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your better off, if he has to do that over the phone, that screams he needs to grow a pair. Who wants a man without such an important entity?......that's no man
2007-12-13 03:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by reneej 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋