I need some serious advice...please help!?

Question

My best friend told me last night that she thinks an acquaintance of mine is stalking me. She indicated that he was talking about me yesterday and described in the building I work in. I live thirty miles from where I work and I don't know how this person would know that unless they followed me. Only my family and my best friend knows exactly where I work and I know they did not tell this person. Should I be concerned about this? This person has hit on me continually and is not getting the picture that I am not interested. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Answer 1

may be any of your colleague told to him.......

Answer 2

When you first met him (you said he was an "acquaintance") did he seem entirely creepy or even at all dangerous to you? Even so, you should try to keep a lookout at all times. People can be extremely nice one moment and kidnap you and murder you the next - Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that he will do this or that he is even the type of person that would do this. I would just be cautious if I were you.

There are a few suggestions that I would gladly make to someone in your situation:
- Don't leave work or home at night when it is entirely too dark by yourself until you know FOR A FACT that this ends.
- Keep personal belongings in a safe place as well as in reach.
- Keep your keys at the ready but out of sight, just in case you need them for anything in a split second.
- Don't dawdle around you car when you leave somewhere - get in, start the car, drive off. The same with arriving somewhere - turn off the engine, get out, go in. Also, the second you get into and before you get out of the car, lock the doors.
- Perhaps take some self-defense classes. Even if you never need them, techniques in self-defense are a good thing to know!
- A small bottle of mace or pepper spray, a key chain pocket-knife, and even a whistle would be helpful objects if you are ever "attacked". Any of these could possibly injure or at least startle an attacker long enough for you to get away!

If this sort of thing continues, I would suggest perhaps getting in touch with teh police. I don't think there is anything they can do unless he actually threatens you in some way however it is always good to have them on your side!

Good Luck and be careful!

Shelly

Answer 3

It's too early to panic because this isn't even something you noticed yourself but had relayed to you via a friend. It is time to be cautious, though and make sure your day-to-day activities don't make you unnecessarily vulnerable. Park in well-lit, well traveled areas,leave in a group, and try to make sure you always have your keys ready before you even approach your car. Get in promptly, fasten your belt, lock your doors and get underway. Make yourself completely familiar with what he drives so that you can be aware at a glance if you're being followed. When you arrive at home, have yourself similarly prepared to go inside the house in the most expeditious manner possible. And on the home front, check your entire house for vulnerabilities there and correct them. Hopefully, this is all just a misunderstanding, but everyone can benefit from a little tightened security from time to time. Your knowledge of his vehicle and any other relevant details will become useful if you should have to take the next step and file for a restraining order...but we're well premature of that eventuality just now. For now just make a more concerted effort to be aware of your surroundings and detect any anomalies. I wish you all the best in this regard.

Answer 4

Dear girl, I'm glad you're asking for advice because this could be a serious matter :)

Did you make it clear to him that you aren't interested? He could be thinking that he might have a chance with you because you aren't outright rejecting him. Face him in broad daylight. If he's really stalking you, catch him doing it. And make sure you're surrounded by a lot of people and that you're not in some desolated area, so he won't be able to do anything to you. Make it clear to him that you are NOT interested and tell him to piss off. If he doesn't, threaten to call the cops.

All the best sweetie. I'd be terrified if I were you. *gives you a big warm hug*

Answer 5

If it is that serious and you feel you are in danger I would go to the Police and they can get a restraining order against him. That doesn't always help but at least you could have him arrested if he tried anything. Otherwise I would possibly have someone you work with walk you to your car in the evening. Have your friend talk to him and tell him to leave you alone or you will go to the police.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Be aware of this, but there are many normal and honest possibility for him to know where you work. E.g. he works somwhere there and he saw you to go in and out of the building, but he could see you just by chance too. If you feel really unsecure of this you may report this story at the police. Thex have to ask him about his information ex officio. If you are just curiouis, then you may ask him, but happily smiling and not with hostile attitude. And you may make your decision on the seriousness of his interest in you after his answer.

Answer 8

k. well until you have soild proof that he's following you around. And to your home. I'd hold off. but when it's very clear that he is. I'd tell him that it's not right and you'd like him to stop. he still doesn't get the picture. always keep your self safe. walking to and from your car. and work. be watchful at night. and I always keep something close to me at all time's so if need be u can protect your self. and if it get's that serious report it. and get an restraining order. so that he has to be away from you. and you leave a paper trial. Good luck. be safe.

Answer 9

Hey girl, Wow that's crazy! Something similar happened to me and this is what I did: I was driving to work and once I got there I saw him there too and he was really creepy he would always try to talk to me and I wouldn't even pay attention to him. So then I got scared and so sick of it that I called my boyfriend and he came and hugged me right in front of that creep. Then my boyfriend saw him and came up to him and told him off. It worked!! What also works is if you tell your dad/older brother as well! He will be sure to get off your back and if not, just tell the police! I hope you will be safe! :)

Answer 10

You should take it very seriously..I had someone like that for 10 yrs and I didnt think hed ever leave me alone...He followed me everywhere and if he seen me talking to someone hed offer them money to stay away from me..Actually at work he pulled a gun on my boyfriend and they did nothing,they said he was kinda slow and didnt realize what he was doing..Id talk to the cops and see if a judge will give you a restarining order..They might not if he hasnt threatened you but you should try to get something done about it.

Answer 11

I would be very careful. You never know about guys like that. I would suggest you let a co-worker know what is going on. Tell them to be on the look out and give them a description of what the guy looks like. If he shows up then he is stalking you you and you should avoid him.