I am nervous and scared to tell her but I want to tell her so she can possibly help me>... Thanks!
2007-12-13 03:43:27 · 14 answers · asked by lovehawaii_23 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You can certainly tell your RS President -- but I would also suggest you tell your bishop. Your RS Pres can go with you when you speak to your bishop for support initially.
Congratulations of seeking help. It's the first of many difficult steps. Remember, you are a daughter of God -- and your Heavenly Father is not pleased when His daughters are abused [imagine That interview!].
If there is any way we can support you here, let us know --
2007-12-13 04:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by strplng warrior mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely talk to someone.. either the bishop or your relief society president. It definitely isn't ok for your husband to abuse you or anyone, and they definitely will help you any way they can, and they won't judge you or your family. My mom is relief society president, and even though she doesn't tell me most things, I do know that one thing she has learned is that everyone has different things in their life and that what they are going through is usually not a reflection of the person. I would highly recommend talking with whoever you feel most comfortable talking to.
2007-12-13 03:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by moonman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is OK to tell. Don't be bashful about it. Do it now.
If the issue is physical assault then you need to contact the police. If it is yelling and screaming, they may not help. If you make a formal complaint, you will need someone to reinforce you and back you up when you begin to feel remorse.
If you are seeking counseling, then she or the bishop can give you their help. If you need to move out, the bishop can assist with welfare and employment.
2007-12-13 09:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by Isolde 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea, skip her, call the police, even if she tells, the worst the mormons can do is ex-communicate him, what will that do, it won;t stop him from hittting you, will it?!
I was abused for years and my mormon neighbor knew and then one day told my mom and all those years, she could have said something to somebody, but didn't. I don't think she knew I was being sexually abused, but she knew my mom wasn't doing her job (ignoring the abuse).
Its nice to have people agree with you, but you need to find a shelter were he can't hurt you!!! ASAP!
2007-12-13 05:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell the police and contact a domestic violence agency. You need to make a plan on how to leave the house when you are in danger. Maybe your RS pres. can help you with an escape plan.
2007-12-13 03:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes absolutely, but I would probably go to the Bishop first, because he has more resources at his disposal. Abuse is taken very seriously in the Church, and not tolerated at any level.
2007-12-13 08:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by notoriousnicholas 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not ok for your husband to be abusive. Yes, you should definitely tell your R.S. pres. or your bishop. They will help you! You should not live your life being nervous and scared.
2007-12-13 03:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by Open Heart Searchery 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your bishop and probably your local authorities, hurting someone is by NO means ok, for what you tell he's probably very violent so I advice you contact the police first.
2007-12-13 03:49:04 · answer #8 · answered by Some Girl From Manchester, NH 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your visiting teacher. It's her responsibilty to help you when you need it.
If she can't do much, then go to the Relief Society, if she can't help out, then go to your Bishop. Or talk to your home teacher!(the priesthood members)
Also, I would go to the police as well.
2007-12-13 03:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's okay! In fact tell your bishop, police and anyone that will listen. That is wrong. No one deserves that. Do you live in northern Utah or southern Idaho?
2007-12-13 03:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by plastik punk -Bottom Contributor 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋