I am 17 and I am in love with this 21 year old man. He lives in another state-AK, while I live in TX. We love eachother so much and it surpasses puppy love-its like that deep down SOUL touching LOVE! Earilier this year I got banned from talking to boys on my housephone, so this summer I SECRETLY got a cell phone and met my FIANCEE (Keather from AK). Should I tell my parents or wait? My parents are VERY VERY STRICT! Also, what do you think about the two of us and our engagment?
About him: Hes in college and sweet!
2007-12-13 03:34:31 · 15 answers · asked by Mieko M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Parents are strict because they want you to make the right choices in life and become a well rounded person. What you're talking about, seems to me, is pretty immature decisions. You have been keeping it a secret because you know it's wrong on some level. I think you are jumping into it. Grow up a little and really figure out your life & where you are headed. To a certain degree, I don't think kids that young know what they want and I'm only 24. Follow your heart with guidance from your head! Be smart & good luck.
2007-12-13 03:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Casie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is a 21 year old seeking out a 17 year old. Red Flag! he may want a girl that he can control. Remember, you don't know a person until you either live with them or spend time together on a daily basis... He can tell you all you want to hear and he may seem perfect, but be careful to do what your mind says and not what your heart says.. In order for you to have a relationship, you have to come out with the truth. Stand up for yourself and tell your parents that you need their help now more than ever. Sweet heart, 17 is young and you don't know the tricks of the trade yet... im 32 and have lots of experience. Please keep using Answers and listen to your inner voice.
2007-12-13 03:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by nyc independant woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah! From what I can understand, you have never actually met this guy, but you are "ENGAGED" to him!!??? Sweetheart, you don't even KNOW him - and don't tell me about all the converstations you had. You don't even know if he is 21. He could be a 41 Y.O perv who is playing you for a sucker & wants to rape you. Ppl can tell you all kinds of sh*t on the phone or on the internet, but it is only when you have a chance to meet, spend time with them, see how they treat the waiter, their dog, their job, etc., that you really can tell if they are for real, if you love them or whether it is just some infatuation. And what's w the secret cell phone? Your parents banned you from talking w boys on your house phone - your parents prolly figured out that you were obsessed w boys - you proved them right by still being obsessive, but now you are lying and sneaking around. There is something really really seriously wrong with what you are doing - get counseling, get a grip, and get a life that does not just revolve around soul-sucking obsession.
2007-12-13 03:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strict parents are the worst, but they can't control you forever. Soon you'll be 18 and be able to move out of their house and make your own decisions. Until then, slow down and enjoy your youth. Marriage is a big step and you should definitely make sure you are ready before running off to AK. I feel like maybe you are doing this to rebel against controlling parents.
2007-12-13 03:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by myluv115 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that as long as you're not getting MARRIED in secret, then there's no harm done. I know plenty of kids that got engaged at 17. I think you need to be honest with your parents at some point though, otherwise they won't trust you. And what if they find your cell phone?
2007-12-13 03:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that this is a little risky and im unsure of what to say....i do know however that u do need to tell ur parents they shouldnt be kept in the dark about something like this. its a big step in ur life and they should be a part of it...and i know that i sound lame but im 16 and not somebodies mom.
2007-12-13 03:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your emotions are involved but you need to understand most long distance relationships don't work out. You're really young and need to listen to your parents. They may be a little older but your well being is what's more important. Please be careful and focus on your future for now.
2007-12-13 03:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are both young. just make sure you're doing the right thing. college changes people, and you havent experienced that yet. plus you're under way too much guidance by your parents and need to break that before you can consider yourself mature enough to marry
2007-12-13 03:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Incredible 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents you shouldnt be hiding this from them, and maybe with the engagement they wil see how much you do love him
2007-12-13 03:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Pepsi cola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's good for you, but it's illegal if you two are....well you know.......wait until you are older or at least 18 before you make a serious decision like that..........things change in years time......you two may end up hating each other's guts
2007-12-13 03:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by MSW2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋