To those who have read my previous question, my boyfriend just told me that he was thinking of all the happy times we had together and he really missed them a lot. He also said that he doesn't know if he wants to get back together with me. Part of him wants to get back with me, but the other part says our major exams are at stake and he doesn't want us arguing over trivial matters and hence affect our studies. And then he says he's really confused.
When he told me that, I started crying again. I want him back so much and it's like he's giving me false hope by telling me he wants me back but that's not a very good idea. I keep crying and crying and crying. I don't know what to do, or what his point is in telling me this. He knows I want him back so much and yet he tells me this.
I'm still crying. I need help I feel like dying so badly...
2007-12-13 03:23:39 · 10 answers · asked by Krystal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry you're hurting. He is right about the exams. Neither of you needs the distraction of the relationship drama while you are trying to finish your semester up. Make arrangements to see him after you've finished your exams and really talk with one another about what you want out of the relationship and where you would like to see it go.
While you are working on preping for your exams, think about the things that you argue about. Are they silly/stupid little things or are they bigs things. If they are little things why are you wasting energy and your time together arguing over unimportant things? Is it because you are avoiding something that is bigger that you don't want to face? or do you always need to be right? or do you need to be in control?
If they are big things, are they things that can be worked out or are they things that don't need to be worked out and that you can really live with or are they things that MUST be a certain way for the two of you to be together? If it is the last option--and you can't come to a compromise, then maybe you aren't a match and the relationship has run it's course.
It could be any one of hundreds of things. You know your relationship, you know what it is you are fighting about or what you are avoiding. It's possible to have great times with someone and love them and want to be with them and still they aren't right for you. And it still hurts even when you know you need to be apart.
I hope you figure it out and the pair of you are able to make it work out they way you want.
Good Luck!
2007-12-13 03:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I thought my life was messed up. Sorry, that kind of sounded mean, I guess what you really need to do is just get yourself away from these people because they seem to be stressing you out. Your boyfriend is obviously kind of violent if he hit him with his truck and what his stepdad did shouldn't worry you since now he's in jail. As for your best friend, you should try talking to her and telling her to tell the truth but if she doesn't want to then that's her decision if she wants to go to jail. You should just try to be there for your boyfriend while he's in the hospital and then once he's better try and talk to him and figure out if it's worth staying together when he's causing you just as much stress and pain and stuff as your ex boyfriend; or maybe not, I'm not really sure of the whole situation. But yeah, just talk to someone.
2016-05-23 09:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Girlfriend:
Dump his @ss TODAY and think about dying later on!
You are allowing yourself to be his doormat!
When are you gonna get tired of being walked-on?
YOU have the ability to put the brakes on his foolishness!
Here's what you need to do:
1) STOP crying and whining; that accomplishes NOTHING!
2) End ALL communications with him. DO NOT call him, DO NOT text him, DO NOT drop by his place, DO NOT return his calls, DO NOT return his text messages, DO NOT respond to his e-mails, DO NOT open your door if he should just drop by for a chat...to see what's going on with the 'new and improved' you! Tell him that you are in the middle of something and that you'll have to call him/catch -up with him at some other time! (NOTE: I've done this myself and it works like a charm and my ex-bf is wonderin' what's wrong with me (smile)!)
3) Keep YOUR mouth shut!
He does not have to know what you're doing or how you're feeling!
4) Keep YOUR mouth shut!
Become a woman of very few words.
5) Keep your mouth shut!
RESIST the urge to share any more information with him...about anything!
6) Keep YOUR mouth shut!
RESIST the urge to give him a piece of your mind. Keep your mind; it's a terrible thing to waste on a man who doesn't sound like he's worth two dead flies rubbed together.
7) Learn to love yourself so much that you refuse to tolerate this kind of crap in your life.
8) Leave him alone and open your life up to the possibility of meeting a man who is so much more worthy of your time and attention.
9) Love yourself no matter what.
10) Move on with your life. Leave him alone. He'll come back to you. AND...when he does...ask yourself this question "Am I so desperate and pitiful that I need to take a $hit and then step back in it?"
God bless and take care!
Sicnerely,
THE MIDDLEFINGER
2007-12-13 03:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont fall for it. He might just be keeping you on a rope so you dont move on. I would wait around or cry over it cause if he loved you and wanted to be with you, he would do it already. Being confused is just an excuse.
2007-12-13 03:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by solelone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm yea i guess the only thing that u could do at this point is just to give him his space and let him figure out what it is that he wants if he comes back then good and if not then he wasnt for u and ur probably better off without him :) ull find someone else and ull probably be happier who wants to be with someone who really doesnt know if he feels the same, thats not fair to u :)
2007-12-13 03:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys really need to stop playing mind games with each other - it's not really doing you good. Tell your bf you've got no time to waste with him IF he's not clear about wanting a relationship with you. I honestly think he's just messing your head.
2007-12-13 03:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you waited this long, you can wait until after your exams. True love waits, and lasts. ;-)
STOP CRYING! Lord, I wouldn't even talk to or see him until after your exams. He's just going to upset you more and more, and you don't need that.
2007-12-13 03:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Amber May ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop your bitchin and get back together. an easy way to stop the trivial arguements is by not having them come on now
2007-12-13 03:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just get over this guy.. he wants to have his cake and eat it. sounds to me he is keeping you there as a fall back girl... he is probly chasing some other girl,you need to cut contact with this guy. stay waiting and be prepared to be walkover and used again and again by this guy...
2007-12-13 03:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by Pepsi cola 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's buttering you up pretty good. Soon he'll be ready to put you in the oven. Don't let him stick his fork in you.
2007-12-13 03:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋