like should i tell her dont have sex or what?
2007-12-13 03:03:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by sending her to my house!!!!
2007-12-13 03:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think you should first take a look at your perspective. She may very well be addicted to sex, but where are you on the same scale? If you're at the conservative end, her activities may seem extreme to you although they fall within a quite normal range for people of her age. The higher up the scale you are, the more likely it is that your friend does have some issues in this area.
But assuming that your point of view is accurate, there are a couple of things you can do. Addiction is a serious illness, no matter what the chosen obsession is. Chances are that there are some deep psychological reasons for your cousin's behavior, and it will take time and her willingness to explore those issues before she will be able to do anything about them. She would need a professional to work with her. She would need a therapist.
What you can do is talk to her and tell her of your concerns. It's not up to you to tell her what to do, and she probably won't stop just because you say so. But she may listen if you can lay out the dangers of her addiction and offer some possible paths for her to take toward getting past her risky behavior.
You can provide her some resources (see links.) You can help her find a therapist with expertise in this area. You can accompany her to a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting or other self help group if she's embarrassed to go on her own. You can support her attempts to understand why sex has become such an important issue in her life, and cheer her progress if she chooses to change her lifestyle. You can provide her with alternative activities to keep her away from seeking sexual activities. There is a lot you can do.
So, if you do feel she is at risk (there's a test you can take "for" her on the sexaddictionhelp site to see how severe her condition may be), talk to her.
You've got a beautiful heart to care for your cousin so much. Good luck!
2007-12-13 11:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Chris C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive read alot about ADD (attention deficit disorder) because i have it.. and it seems girls with ADD seem to be sex addicts.
She may or may not have ADD, but read some info online and see if the other symptoms checkout, stuff like:
-thrill-seeking personality
-gets bored easy
-easily distractible
-starts things without completing them
-does things last minute
Being a sex addict is dangerous if she doesnt protect herself from stds or pregnancy. The root of the problem may be caused by the way ADDers are constantly seeking pleasure. If you solve that, you not only solve her addiction, you also may end up helping her in her other areas of her life that are suffering from her undiagnosed ADD.
and if she doesnt have ADD, then she may just really love sex... educate her on the things to guard against (stds and unwanted pregnancies). Tell her how her life will suck if those things happen and how they will affect her specifically.
2007-12-13 11:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by KC T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes her a sex addict in your mind? Has she been diagnosed as a sex addict? Is she having sex with random people? Is she an adult? You left out details. You should have written some background information. There is nothing wrong with having a healthy sexual appetite. That being said, if she is truly endangering herself with her behavior, she needs to go to therapy.
2007-12-14 12:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are support groups for sex addicts so you should try taking her to one of those. But she is going to have to admit that she has a problem.. LOL Sorry don't mean to laugh but really I don't understand, how do you know if you have a sex addiction?? Because maybe I have one...
2007-12-13 11:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kassie D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all.. what makes you think she is a sex addict? Has she been diagnosed as such? Or does she just have too much sex IN YOUR OPINION? I think you need to clarify this point.
Otherwise.. you really cant help her unles it is you she is wanting to have sex with.. then help her by refusing..
2007-12-13 11:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave your cousin alone because nothing is wrong with sex additions.After all, is your cousin life not yours.
2007-12-13 11:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mario Vinny D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking her into going to a support group.
2007-12-13 11:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by J.B. Holiday 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does she really need help? or are you just jealous you aren't getting any? If she is happy why aren't you?
2007-12-13 11:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by DT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a vibrator for christmas.
2007-12-13 11:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋