I have been dating a girl for 9 months now, and we are arguing currently about our weekend plans. On Friday, I will be going out for my brother’s birthday and she will be going out to chill with one her friends (who is also one of her x-bf's). I was planning to crash at my parents place since I will be getting drunk rather than driving home, I asked her to sleep there with me also but she tell me she is going to sleep at her friends house (x-bf) instead. I never met the guy so for all I know he could be a good guy, but I am still uncomfortable with her sleeping there considering they dated a long time ago and that I have never really met him in 9 months. I told her that and it started a big argument.....am i in the wrong?
2007-12-13 02:45:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to add I trust her, but I never met the guy so I don't know how he is consider he is an x, thats what make me unfortable
2007-12-13 03:03:22 · update #1
Drop her like a bad habit. She is clearly not telling you the whole story. Once she starts disrespecting you. Game over. DO you seriously think she would be cool with the reversal of the situation where you were sleeping over your ex's. Please. I think not. Keep your pride and your balls. She is just making excuses.
2007-12-13 02:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have been seeing each other for TWO WEEKS and already you want sex? I'm not gonna sit here and say "your too young for that" knowing that I was around your age when I started having sex , but I'll say that it's really stupid to start thinking about sex when it's just been two weeks already. Your a smart girl though, you think before you take actions and I like that. I'll be honest with you and say "don't do it". You want to lose your virginity to someone who will make the moment last, someone that after years have past you'll smile thinking that you've made a good choice. Atleaste if your going to do it, wait a couple of months until you really know this guy. Two weeks is too early to know anything about him. What ever you do, make sure you make the right decision!
2016-05-23 09:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would make me uncomfortable as well, and I wouldnt accept it...AT ALL. For me an ex is an ex, once you split up you have no ties unless you share a child together and even then you don't spend that much time or sleep over at their place. That is crazy! Stand up for yourself and don't take any crap if she choses him over you it wasnt meant to be in the first place.
2007-12-13 02:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Amber *~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absoulutely not! I would never in a million years, even if we were only dating for 1 week, allow a boyfriend of mine to sleep at an ex girlfriends house.
2007-12-13 02:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by ~*shea*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not in the wrong.. your girlfriend should a see that the event your going to is way more important, she can hang out with some guy anytime?? she should be going with you to your brothers party and staying with you..
confront her with the facts that you have in your expalination tell her that its your brothers birthday and you would like her to accompany you to this. that she can hang out with her mates anytime so it should be too much to ask from her and then ask why she would be staying in her x bfs house. she was honest with you bout staying there so so far i dont think she is hiding to much tell her its not cool with you. and then suggest that if she comes to ur bros bday youl go meet her friend with her and get to now the guy...
2007-12-13 02:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Pepsi cola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has her priorities confused. You are her boyfirend now and if you two sleep together, what is the need for the ex?
The "big argument" is not a good sign!
2007-12-13 02:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you know about your girl. The question is not that can you trust him. Its can you trust her. By 9 months you should know. If you can't trust her then you have bigger problems than this weekend.
2007-12-13 02:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by averagegolfer3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her to think about it the other way around. if she really cared about you and your feelings then she wouldn't do that. even if they are just friends now, it's the fact of the matter that they used to date in the past. if she doesn't see why you're uncomfortable about it then maybe she isn't being very loyal to you.
2007-12-13 02:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong you should tell her to put herself in your postion. Would she be comfortable with it? Although you should trust your girlfriend it is completely normal that this would bother you. personnaly if it was me and my boyfriend in the situation and he wanted tosleep at an exs I would lose it, if he did it would probably ruin our relationship. tell her you are not comfortable with it and if she still does it you know she doesnt respect your feelings
2007-12-13 02:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by crazylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope u r right. that is kinda awkward that she is trying to sleep in her ex's house. r u sure they r not planning to share the same bed?
2007-12-13 02:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Niel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋