hi. my bf really wants to have a threesome. he is 27 and i am 21. he said we will do it just for fun and he said i dont have to worry about it because he loves me so much and that he wont ever leave me. i love him so much and i know that he will be very happy if i will say "yes" and do it. but the problem is, i am very sensitive person and i cant dare to see another girl touching my man and i cant dare to see my man touching another girl. what should i do?
2007-12-13 02:43:40 · 62 answers · asked by iamwhoam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you dont feel comfortable, then DONT do it
2007-12-13 02:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by MayMay 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Girl PLEASE do not do this!! I have seen so many girls who have given in to this and regretted it and it pretty much tore their relationships apart. He can totally have this fantasy but it is not YOUR fantasy and unless he is cool with having a threesome with another man for you ... then he is being selfish! He would say no for the exact reason you should ... because he does not want to see another man touch you!
If you decide to go through with this for him you seriously need to lay some ground rules down. Will it make you feel better if he does not kiss the other woman or what? You need to realize what you are getting into before you do this ...
Remember that after you do this ... you can not change it! You can not stop the thoughts and the insecurities and while yes it is not cheating because you are there ... it is going to affect you the same way as if he did. You will have the image burned in your brain .. and you gotta know if you can be ok with that!
Believe me this is what I have heard them all tell me ... they ended up in counseling ... fighting all the time ... or just breaking up! One couple fought so much the GUY said he regretted doing it because it caused so many problems with their relationship.
Think it through and I hope you make the right choice for YOU.
2007-12-13 02:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if this is the man you want to be with. If you tell him no and you stay together, he is still going to have the desire to have a threesome. He may just find someone else to have it with. If you decide to do it my suggestion is to do it with a stranger. Someone you both don't know personally . I know it sounds bad but if you pick an ex or a family member, chances are the affair will continue behind your back. If you are really too sensitive and cant take doing something like this, you should probably consider taking a break and seeing other people. Let him get it out of his system and if you decide that you want to get back together in the future things might be even better. Whatever you decide to do don't be pressured. Make the decision that is best for you!
2007-12-13 03:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by SexeeLuv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DON'T do it. It may only be one night and over after awhile, but if you know you are sensitive and you KNOW it's going to drive you crazy, this could cause some serious problems in your relationship.
I know I'd turn into a jealous mess. I'd probably be secretly wondering, even though i know he loves me, if he was into the other girl. If i wasn't "good" enough for him, etc...
If you have a secure, happy relationship now....I think one night of threesome fun could be a threat to it....The only way I would say to go for it, is if you are completely into the idea as much as he is and have no doubts about the feelings that may arise from seeing your man with another woman. That doesn't seem like it's the case though....so even though he may be into it, if he really loves you, i'm sure he'll understand if you pass....
Why dont you try to come up wit another fun way to spice up your love life? he mihgt not get the threesome he wanted but another kinky surprise would be just as exiciting.
2007-12-13 02:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by autumn 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every man I've ever talked to wants to have a threesome. I've never done it personally, but I am curious about it and have asked a few questions. I've been told that you should not have one with someone you're serious about, because it often changes things in the relationship. Unless you're a very open-minded person.
If you're not comfortable doing this, it won't work. I understand your wanting to make him happy, but if you have any reservations about it at all then it will cause a strain in your relationship with him, and lots of hurt feelings for you. If you can't get past your sensitivity towards seeing him with another woman (and I'm not saying you should), then don't do it. It will only hurt you. If he loves you, he will understand and be ok with leaving it as a fantasy.
2007-12-13 02:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth! Thats about every mans fantasy really, but if you don't feel comfortable with it, why go on? Tell him how you feel honestly. Also tell him "Well how would you feel if i had sex with another man in front of you?" See how he reacts, if his reaction isn't so great tell him thats the same way you feel about the whole situation.
You shouldn't be forced to anything you don't want to do. If he really does love you he will wait or not mention it again. Maybe now in your relationship is not the time to perform such a fantasy. That takes a lot of trust and no room for "sensitivity"
2007-12-13 02:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should do it, obviously he's been thinking about another girl. He promises now he'll never leave you, but what about after the fact? Guys are very good about making promises they can't keep. It's like a kid in a pet store. "I'll take good care of it mommy, I'll walk it, feed it, pet it, hold it, and you won't have to do anything!" Yeah, right....Also, he's your man! You shouldn't have to let another girl touch him or have to share him with anyone else...My view of a threesome is this, he's cheating on you with you in the same room in the same bed...who wants to be apart of that?!?!
2007-12-13 02:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by SJW44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its not a bad idea. Make sure it is not with either of your friends though cos i did that and it was weird after wards its OK now though. However, suggest to him that it could be with another guy and see his reaction cos if he's not comfortable with another guy touching you then how are you meant to be comfortable with him touching another girl. Also no kissing its a golden rule. Discuss how far both of you want to go as well. Is it a one off or is it the start of something.
2007-12-13 02:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You will be doing both of you a favor by not doing it. I talked my wife into a threesome and then a foursome several times when we were young. Now that we are older, I look back at her and the memories of the times bothers me. I see my wife with these other guys and wish it had never happened. I know that I would have more respect for her if she had not gone through with it.
2007-12-13 02:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg hell no girll
dont u dare say yes just to make him happy
YOU come first and your feelings should be more important to him then a little bit of excitement.
if he wants to be in bed with girls other then you then obviously you should leave him
trust yourself and dont let him degrade you like that
say no! and if he doesnt like it he can get f u c k ed
btw my personal opinion - i think its so wrong if a guy asks for a threesome with another girl. It should be up to the girl to offer him that only if she feels comfortable.
goodluck sweetie xo
2007-12-13 02:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him if you can have a threesome too with him and another guy? See how he feels about that. If he's not ok with it then maybe he will understand how you feel. If he is ok with it then you just need to decide if you could get into that type of lifestyle because if you do it once he'll want to do it again.
2007-12-13 02:49:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋