I met this girl innocently at a party. I was sitting in a chair talking to a buddy, and she came over. Her boyfriend was more interested in the drinking games being played than her. I talked to her off and on that night, not knowing she lived with this guy. I left, and had no idea she was interested in me, at the time, or I her really. Our text messages quickly turned into calls, and conversations. I now have been seeing her off and on for a couple months. She says she loves me and I think I may her. The Boyfriend that she lives with is fairly oblivious to her needs, and I get alot of late night crying phone calls. Problem is she wants to pull the plug but feels bad. Is this ever gonna happen? How can I make it happen? I will say she is only 22, but I am only 26, I know what I would like to have happen, but getting her there is tough. I wouldn't care so much, but I date alot of women, and never find one that keeps my interest. She is really different, so I don't want to give up.
2007-12-13 02:34:45 · 30 answers · asked by Mfred 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell the guy. sounds liek shes just using u. if she hasnt left him already then your SOL. if she loves you should would be with you all the time. i think shes just looking for a easy way out, and she needs someone to cling to. ur the other guy, and that doesn't usually last, u have to make ur relationship exclusive
2007-12-13 02:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately you can't push her to leave him, she has to do it on her own. If she is telling you she loves you, what is she telling the other guy? I understand completely what you mean by dating many and here comes that one. Just take your time.. Your only 26.. Talk to her and find out if she is really willing to leave and if so, where is she going. Will she get her own place or will she expect you to take her in? Are you ready to have a woman in your house?
If you believe she is the one, make sure she knows it.
From a gal who cheated on everyone before I met my husband.. And not to mention my husband was just as bad as I was.. People can change if they want to. So this once a cheater always a cheater thing is not always true. You'd be surprised what true love does to the most unfaithful people when they find that right person.
2007-12-13 02:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not gonna happen as long as you are doing exactly what you are doing.
You are enabling her to continue this relationship with her boyfriend plus keep the one with you. It's like a cheating spouse, they won't leave.
There is nothing you can do to make it happen. She's using excuses at this point. And in all honesty i dont think you really want a women who's known for cheating. She will more then likely cheat on you as well.
It's probably wise to start planning to move on. there are better and more stable single women in this world. Time to let her go back to her realy life and not this fantazy she's made for you.
2007-12-13 02:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah, youth. Well, my boy, I can tell you that it's already complicated enough without feelings. She's confused and probably feeling guilty for cheating on her boyfriend. You may think she may be the one since she's holding your interest, that's only because she's not available to you.
You can call her boyfriend and let him know what's up, but that's not a guarantee it will break them up, he may be angry which may cause her to apologize, never do it again and end up staying with him.
Back away from her completely, if she cheated on him, you KNOW for sure, she can cheat on you if she's not happy. Tell her when she's free, you'll talk to her then. You can't make her do anything she isn't prepared to do.
2007-12-13 02:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah man, you gotta have fun while its there, but at your age, its all about what you want. i am 25 and to tell you the truth. i am looking for something more serious. The last girlfiend i had was the SAME EXACT THING. It was all fun and games at first, then she left her BF and things slowly went down hill. It took a couple months, and the sex was great, but we just found ourselves not compatable. Plus the relationship being built on a cheater didnt help either.
2007-12-13 02:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by kevin c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say, realistically, She won't leave. If she really wanted to, she would have done it a long time ago. She still loves that guy whatever you say or do. She's kinda just getting the attention from you temporally.
Besides, if what made you think she won't cheat on you too if and when you're together? She's done it before... you should know... think about it before jumping into something they'll hurt you.
2007-12-13 02:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Oliver Natividad 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, sorry to say this , but if she hasn't left him by now, then you're probably wasting your time.....I mean, if she really loved you, and she's not tied down by a legal document (marriage) she would have just walked out of his life after the first week.....My advice to you is start to pull away....Don't call her anymore....or txt, don't engage in conversation when she does call...She'll see a change and ask why ? then you tell her why, and maybe then she'll make her choice...either you or him.......good luck!
2007-12-13 02:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by uz2bafrk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say give yourselves some space and time alone. Cut off contact with her for awhile. This time apart will make her realize that there is no good reason to stay with her boyfriend if she's not happy. Please don't continue seeing her/sleeping with her, etc. because you're enabling her to stay with her unhappy relationship because she's having her cake and eating it too at the moment.
2007-12-13 02:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by marisa_g1rl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want a woman who cheats? If she does leave him for you, what makes you think she won't cheat on you? Remember "if they'll to it with you, they'll do it to you."
while people can change and not cheat on later partners, this is not the case with this woman. She is cheating on her current partner with you right now. She has yet to show that she regrets it and won't do it again. Don't waste your life on a maybe she will/ maybe she won't situation.
2007-12-13 02:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OFF U dont need to be with that because that kinda girl will cheat on u to so... thats up to u... and ppl wonder how they get STDs they get ****** and u might be screwin what she has been with but if u really want her u need to tell her its either u or him
2007-12-13 02:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by aj a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋