God says to only trust in HIM! What about your significant other?

Question

I'm kinda confused! Here's the situation: My boyfriend tells me he's trusting me 100%. I told him I can't trust in him 100% because GOD says you can only trust him, no one else! He gets sad, and tells me the bible contradicts itself, by saying you should only trust God, but then it says you should trust your husband/wife! Can someone with more knowledge explain to me the trust issue! How much can we trust in our significant other?

I really can him to understand where I'm coming from, that I trust him, but I CAN'T or SHOULD'T trust him completely because my GOD tells me so T_T

Thank You everyone! I guess I was confused about this whole thing! I really appreciate all your answers!

I'm gonna go and tell my boyfriend I do trust him =)

Cya

Answer 1

No, you are misinterpreting what God says.

God wants you to put Him FIRST in your life, but that DOESN't mean that you can't put your trust in your boyfriend. That's a vital part of a relationship.

When you make God your top priority, all the rest will fall into line.

Answer 2

Look at it this way. The oldest copies of the Gospels that exist are at best 4th generation copies written hundreds of years after the death of Christ. There are also no original copies of the Old Testament.

All of those books have been translated from ancient languages to greek, to latin, then to a hundred other languages. Not all languages have all the same words for the same things, plus when people copy stuff its not necessarily a 100% accurate copy.

My point is don't take everything in the bible so completely literally. Do you honestly think that God is so cruel that he will smite you or send you to Hell for having faith and trust in your boyfriend?

You are stressing yourself out over something trivial that probably wasn't even translated correctly to begin with. Just stick with the basics. Follow the 10 commandments and you'll be fine.

Love your boyfriend and trust in him. If he trusts in you 100%, then he loves you. If God is Love, then there can't be anything wrong with that.

Answer 3

He can't understand it because what you are saying makes no sense.

God does not tell you so, it is an message, that place trust in the Kingdom of God before the world of man, it has nothing to do with your interpersonal relationships and handing out 95% trust here, 62 % here. You are suppose to trust your boyfriend completely, if not you have no business being with him. It's about not putting anything else before God spiritually, BUT you don't sacrifice or downgrade people in your life because of it.

So as a child (the most innocent and closest to God) you did not trust your parents or anyone completely? If you did do you now/ If you don't you are breaking a commandment.

For the gazillionth time the Bible is NOT literal people, that is a very very very new and very inaccurate interpretation of what scripture is and means.

EDIT: now all of a sudden because some people pointed out you can trust him, you immediately trust him 100%, but before you didn't. Do YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT TRUST IS? IT IS NOT SOMETHING YOU DON:T HAVE ONE MINUTE AND POOF THEN NEXT. You have alot to learn, if I were him I would dump you.

Answer 4

You can Trust Him to be Him, and trust that he will be what he is, But as you have stated, or indicated, that he does not believe, or is not saved, if that is the case, consider this.

Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" (2 Cor. 6:14-15).


some Christians hope that they can convert the person he/she is dating or marrying. They often think that their spirituality is strong enough and that they can witness to, or motivate the other person to convert through their patience and love. Why do they think this? Three reasons: They love the person and are emotionally blinded, they are naive, and they do not know God's word.
This may sound harsh, but something as serious as marrying an unbeliever needs to be dealt with properly and to-the-point. We are not to compromise the will of God and endanger our spiritual well being. All we need to do is look in the Old Testament to see why God says not to marry unbelievers. This is what God said to the Israelites.

“When the Lord your God shall bring you into the land where you are entering to possess it, and shall clear away many nations before you, the Hittites and the Girgashites and the Amorites and the Canaanites and the Perizzites and the Hivites and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and stronger than you, 2 and when the Lord your God shall deliver them before you, and you shall defeat them, then you shall utterly destroy them. You shall make no covenant with them and show no favor to them. 3 “Furthermore, you shall not intermarry with them; you shall not give your daughters to their sons, nor shall you take their daughters for your sons. 4 “For they will turn your sons away from following Me to serve other gods," (Deut. 7:1-4).

The reason not to marry an unbeliever is that he/she can influence you away from the Lord. Don't be so naive to think that "you" will never fall. It happens all the time.

If you marry an unbeliever and have children, how will it effect their spirituality to have the parents divided over spiritual things? Is it a help or a hindrance to their spiritual health? Obviously, it is a hindrance.
Unfortunately, too many people do not take into account the extremely serious situation of children and their eternal destiny. Yet, because of "love" and because they listen to the hearts over the word of God, many people marry unbelievers anyway...and often suffer dire consequences.

Answer 5

God says trust in him in that he can help you through your life. It's not a literal meaning of trust only him. The bible and it's words are how you interpret them. Your significant other is correct, the bible does contradict itself in some ways.

Answer 6

According to me, one should only trust in oneself and in God. Of course, you might feel that you have met someone you can totally trust, but it's just ur heart. U can trust on very few people, one or two, but not 100% as one never knows when persons or time change.
But ur trust in urself n in the Lord remains the same!!

Answer 7

we are trust God because he does not change and situations cant change his decision, when it comes to man the trust you should have is that accepting the person even though you know they can fall. when i say i trust you , it does not rule out the fact that you can lie to me . the trust in relation to God is called believe. if we agree we can disagree on somethings we don't get so hurt when it happens. it is good to know that God never fails. trust your husband to give him confidence in you but that you know he can fail makes you to be watchful and so him too. trusting each orther gives you a security

Answer 8

Trust implies confidence and confidence in the Almighty is guaranteed as a Christian. Confidence in another is earned.Lets say, for the sake of your question, you have placed your confidence in the Almighty for your eternal life and your confidence in your partner to provide for your earthly needs. St Paul would argue that the responsibility for the woman lies with the man and he is answerable to God. Its a chain with everyone having a role but ultimately God is at the end of it.

Answer 9

Well don't you sound like a fireball of fun. When he dumps you I'll go to the "relationship" column and help you out there. You have a better chance of trusting in the hard body in front of you then the clouds above you.

Answer 10

The Trust that you have with God is totally different than the trust that you have with your significant other.
The worries that you hold in your life, you can let go with God, but some worries you hold to yourself and do not even share with your partner, things like embarrassing things that you did in your past and such, but God knows all and does it bother you that He does know?