Well last night I was kinda drunk, and i was hanging out with one of my sisters and her guy and another guy....well they went up stairs, to u kno....and i was down stairs...I started making out with the guy i was with, and I had sex with him, the first time it was ok....but he kept wanting more....so about an hour later he started again, and in the back of my head i was like no( I wasn't drunk anymore at this point), but I didn't say nething cuz I felt pressure t do it w/ him, then about 2 hrs later he started again this time i was sore and said no wait, but he kept saying c'mon it'll be fine, i promise, and well yeah, i kept mumbling no, but he wouldn't stop, i tried to push him off but not w/ my full force cuz i just felt like i had to, and i was scared....did i just bring this on myself.....or what. I said no......
2007-12-13 02:16:00 · 26 answers · asked by DDsororitychick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
different countries have different laws.
in mine, our laws protect females.
so unless the lady gave her consent, it would be considered as rape even if the guy is her husband.
find out about your country's law. if it's considered as rape, go make a police report.
but then again, you could have be more persistent in saying no.
2007-12-13 02:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you told him no, you tried to fight him off, he forced you, I would say that yes the third encounter was rape.
The first two you did go along and not make any indications that you didn't want to, so he couldn't know you weren't into it.
No you didn't bring it on yourself. Just because you had sex with someone once or even twice doesn't mean you have to have sex with them again.
Definitely contact a rape counseling line, such as RAINN or a local one and find out how you can get counseling to deal with your ordeal. DO NOT be alone with this person ever again for any reason. Consider reporting it to the police and filing charges. He may have done this before. I won't lie to you, it will be difficult to prosecute because you did have sex with him earlier in the evening and his lawyers will use that to say the later sex was also consensual and that you were just having regrets.
This world is full of people who will take advantage of young women when they are vulnerable and I'm sorry you had to meet one of them. Good Luck to you.
2007-12-13 02:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, anytime you are forced to have sex against your will it is rape. With this said, you didn't clearly let him know, so I don't think the police would charge him. If you were to look at this as between a married couple, you wouldn't look at it as rape. You would say he was insensitive. My suggestion is not to get drunk and make love with just "another guy". You should get to know and like a person real well before you take a man to your bed. You should save this act for a committed relationship. I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. God bless.
2007-12-13 02:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, is no,you were raped! I actually have spoken to a officer about a simiilar situation i thought i put myself in, and he told me foreplay is foreplay you can be right in the middle of it and then say no, the man should stop an dif he dont, then its rape! its on ou if you want to report it though,im sure the guy himself dont think its rape because you allowed it the first time drunk or not, why get drunk with a guy you dont know, and your sister apparently thought you would be okay for her to leave you alone like that, she and her guy only assumed the same thing would happen.So, be mad at her as well, especially two hours later!! Geez, thats not cool
2007-12-13 02:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by I DONT CARE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did bring this upon yourself. If your a frist time drinker you should always make sure you have one of your friends with you at all times you never know what could happen. Especially with people you don't know. This is rape don't get me wrong, but you should of stood up for yourself and told him to stop. Maybe he thought you were just playing hard or something
2007-12-13 02:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by Binky :-) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go down to the police and report what had happen tell them just what you wrote here and see if that was. I don't want to say yeah you did bring this on youself because when you said no that means no but because you said yes the first time i just don't know. God i'm sorry that happen to you but go talk to the cops see what they have to say. Good luck
2007-12-13 02:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Toni A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't rape the first two times you had it with him because you didn't say anything. The third time it was definately rape. You need to report him. You said no and that's what it means. He took advantage of you and you didn't deserve it. What he did to you was wrong on so many levels. Don't feel guilty, you didn't bring upon yourself. You tried to defend yourself and what happened he ended up taking advatage of you. Take care and whatever you decide to do I support 100%.
2007-12-13 02:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by smallboyonherbike 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound too traumatic if you didn't even try to push him off with full force. It looks like most people here are trying to persuade you to feel raped. If you're asking if it was rape, then it probably wasn't. It'd be a shame if this guy ended up in jail for pretty much nothing. I've probably raped guys by the same definition. Maybe they were all too scared to say no to me, I dunno.
2007-12-13 02:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The third time when you said no and he forced you to continue in the act was in fact rape. I mean you tried to push him off you and he forced you to keep having sex. Think about it, he was forcefully hurting you which is assault and rape is sexual assault. You should go talk to someone in a position of authority that you trust and tell them about it.
2007-12-13 02:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Athena 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dunknw you law at your state.. But to me, this do look like Raping!! But how and are you ready to bring him to the court and tell your story to the Judge and public??
Worst senario, you gave him a chance, and do keep your distance from him and tell your sis wat a friend she have brought back home.. Dun wan her to bring this frenz to your house or anyone else' house and let history repeat again on you or other innocent gal.. Sorry.
2007-12-13 02:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋