We are looking at moving my son into a much more structured daycare. I have found one that I really like that I would put him in to in a heart beat....however, his current daycare's director (she's leaving, that's why we're moving him) has told us that the daycare we like flick's a child's ear to get their attention (like when they misbehave and the teacher is trying to discipline). I know that daycare facilities aren't allowed to discipline past timeout, but I just don't know about flicking someone's ear. Anyone heard of anything like this?
2007-12-13 02:09:08 · 17 answers · asked by Jen-Jen 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like a good way to go to me. I would not mind at all if they did that to my little girl and she is 2 1/2.
2007-12-13 06:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask the new daycare. Right now you are basing this on someone else's word - who happens to be a competitor to them.
I've never heard of a daycare doing something like but I'm not sure it's as terrible as some people may make it sound. You are trusting other adults to care for your child in all sorts of ways - why can't you trust them to discipline your child when it is needed? If you prefer they do something else, tell them that. Really the worst thing is for an adult to do nothing when a child is misbehaving.
2007-12-13 09:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by J W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds absurd and inappropriate. Ask the new daycare for references from past and current families that went/go there. When you call them, ask if that ever happened to their knowledge. If you don't get your answers there, ask the new place point blank if they do that. I don't know why your old daycare director would say that? You just need to decide I guess which you like best- your current daycare sans director (is she all thats holding the place together or what?) or take a risk at the new place where they could flick your sons ear to get him to pay attention...which sounds really weird but you know, he might start paying attention more- lol.
2007-12-13 02:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Ren 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
most daycares will let you spend time in the school prior to enrolling your child. pop in there one day and take a peek to see what kind of discipline they use. do it frequently for a couple of weeks prior to making your decision. go in around the end of the day also so you meet some of the other parents and ask them about that. if you find that this is their practice.....run....do not walk....away from that place. i'd probably end up in jail if someone put their hands on my child like that!!!!
2007-12-13 02:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by 4Xthe fun 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that is illegal. We'll for a childcare facility I mean. As a form of attention getting if you choose that is fine. I wouldn't want someone else putting their hands on MY child in any type of forceful manner. If they are having difficulties with my child that they can't handle within the state regulated guidelines; then call me I'll come and take care of it.
Uhh, swish19, you did it to yourself, you were expecting it, therefore I bet you did it lightly. I just whammied the hell out myself and wouldn't of considered it too much force. My ear is still tingling a little. Every person's perception of what is too forceful is going to be different, I wouldn't want that definition left up to some sadistic physcho.
2007-12-13 02:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
So what does that teach a child?Be physical if you want attention! Thats not sending the right message to a child,Also, It shows the daycare really doesnt have patience for kids,So if your child gets his ear flicked,imagine how he feels,He might be scared to go back.He needs to be able to trust the people watching him.Not be afraid.I would report this.Do not send him there!
2007-12-13 02:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by am 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
positioned some style of barrier between the youngster and the canine. you could save them in separate rooms, or gate off a play section for the youngster. If achieveable, make the youngster's section seem greater constrained than the canine's; you have the prefer to make it sparkling that it is the youngster who's being stored away.
2016-11-26 19:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't heard of this, but I just tried it and it didn't hurt. On the one hand, you might want to consider whether you think that this is a respectful way to communicate with a child. But on the other hand, realize that it can be very hard to get a child's attention, and if it stops at ear-flicking, maybe it doesn't really matter.
2007-12-13 02:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by sqwish1984 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Ask the day care possibly there is a lil competition between the 2 and something happened once or a mother thought something that changed their child to your current one just be up front and ask.
2007-12-13 03:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never heard of that being done in daycare. Then again i dont agree with modern day abandonment places.
Take your risk and dont complain. If there is no reason for your son to be in daycare other then the selfish reason of i have to work. Well then it's your fault if your child is abused.
And now let the thumbs down fly
2007-12-13 03:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋