Would You Change Your Wedding Date IF...?

Question

1. It was the same date as a friend who has been married 5 years, and they object, saying that is their date,

2. It is the same date as your grandparents and they say they would prefer you change it.

Are there any circumstances you would easily switch it, or any circumstances you would stand firm, no matter what?

PS I am not the one getting married, I know of someone getting hassled over the date, this way and that. It is only an ordinary Saturday, but both friend and grandparent are acting like theirs was the last wedding that can take place on that day.

Answer 1

Nobody owns any date. Your friend should tell her friend and her grandparents that the world stopped revolving around them at about age 2. There may be reasons to change a date, but not because it's someone else's anniversary.

Answer 2

I wouldn't change for reasons 1 or 2. Those people are just being petty and ridiculous. They need to get over it. Why in the world would it matter that someone else has your same wedding date?? I don't get it...

As far as changing a date: it really depends on how far along in the planning stages you are. If you're just getting started and a very close friend or immediate family member says that he/she cannot attend without missing another already-planned event, I would change the date. Farther along in the planning process - i.e. after booking a venue, officiant, and making other arrangements for the original date - I would only change the date for extenuating circumstances. These would include a serious illness or death in either family, illness or injury of bride or groom, or some other unexpected event or emergency. After you've made bookings, it's hard to reschedule without pushing the date out several months.

Answer 3

Well, if the date doesn't mean anything to them, and they haven't booked anything, why are they keeping it? Personally, I think you need to pick and choose your battles with weddings. If this is important to them, and the date they want, then stand firm. If it's just another Sat., and nothings been booked, why deal with the hassle?
If they choose the date bsed on the venue avalibility, then the other couples should be told this. I can understand the friends getting a little miffed (everyone like to think no one else got, or will get married on their wedding day), but I would think the grandparents would be honored that their grandchild is getting married on the same day X years later.
Also, they might want to have couples as honored guests with a special tribute to celebrate their anniversary during the reception.

Answer 4

1. No to the friends. They are just going to have to get over it. They have been married 5 years, but they don't own the date. If they are off somewhere celebrating their anniversary and are unable to attend the wedding, that is okay by me.

2. This one I find unbelievable. The majority of grandparents are going to be absolutely thrilled that you want to marry on their anniversary. I think marrying on your grandparents' anniversary is a wonderful idea. You can surprise them with an anniversary cake at the reception.

Answer 5

Hi. Your friend should tell both her friend and the grandparents to get over it.

To be honest, I am very surprised that the grandparents would put up a stink. I would think that they would be honored to share the date with their granddaughter/grandson.

As far as the friends....they can just get over it. If that is the date this couple wants....they can have it! Wow...it's only a date on a calendar! I don't understand people making a big deal over it.

Answer 6

I would stand firm no matter what. If that's the date me and my fiance decided on and want, that is the date. Unless there was some huge tragedy or something really horrible associated with it that would ruin the happiness of the date for me and my fiance, I would not change it.
Others arguing it's "THEIR" anniversary are being ridiculous. No one owns a day of the year. Besides, their dates ARE different, by the year they were married. And we can't control when we're born -- would they argue about having a kid on one of their kid's birthdays? That's what it sounds like to me.

Answer 7

I chose my wedding day b/c my grandparents married on that day and were married until my grandfather died this year. They think nit is awesome. I really don't understand why people get jealous about a date. Just think they can celebrate their anniversary together and no I would not change my date.

Answer 8

NO NO NO, I had to change my date because the venue was not available after hurricane Katrina, then again because the divorce did not go through. but I would never let some one pick my date. I originally picket 07/07/07. then when I had tho change it I found out that more ppl got married on 07/07/07 than any other day of that year combined for 2007 I was happy I choose and got married on 09/01/07. It's your date. keep it

Answer 9

I would not change it for either. It's a bit rude of your friend to be upset, b/c your wedding day falls on her 5th anniversary. That' so silly and selfish.

As for the grandparents, same deal. I find this very odd, I would thing most grandparents would be a bit honored for one of their grandchildren to be married on the same date.

Forget your friend and talk to your grandparents about keeping the date.

Answer 10

No one OWNS a date. Thats silly. Whats wrong with those people?
I would not change the date just because someone else had the same date (different year).
We have the same date as one of my cousins (didnt know that when we planned it) and we can send Anniversary cards to each other and its no problem!