Broke-up with me. She says that she just wants me to relax, Unsure feelings. Will she coime back??

Question

I am 29 she 25. We were together for 3 months. We were really into eachother and things went way to fast. We had sex within 2 days of knowing eachother and things skyrocketted. She expressed to me sometime that she needed space but was doing it so things didnt get messed up in the future. Then she told me that she felt that things went to fast and kinda freaked her out. She had just got out a a verbally abusive relationship one month before we got together. She states that she was messed up by her ex. She broke up with me telling me she lost the spark, and does not know why. She stated to me that she still wanted to talk to me and hang out and she will probably regret the decision to break up with me. My quest is she still thinking of me? Never had any problems in therelationship she stated she wanted to marry me etc and she told me we had a good relaton..She states today that this is not easy for her either and she would like to stay friends with me and to be cool and let her think?

Answer 1

Things moved to fast for her and freaked her out like she said.

Don't hold your breath waiting for things to get back to the way they were, if you want to remain friends with her and she's cool with it, then that would be fine.

She's just gotten out of an abusive relationship and she needs a little time to herself to sort things out. She may have moved too fast with you because subconsciously she was trying to prove to herself that she is worthy of a man or that someone would like/want/love her.

Often in abusive relationships, the abuser will tell the victim that the abuser is the only person who loves them and no one else could ever want them. The victim is usually so battered emotionally, psychologically, and physically that they start to believe what they are being told.

It's also good that she wants a bit of time to herself. Women who leave long term abusive relationships often jump into a relationship too soon and find either they are with another abuser or that they are with a nice guy who they then don't respect (because they think they don't deserve him, or see nice as weak and unmanly or equate violence with passion--this stuff really messes with their heads) and then sometimes, the woman will become the abuser.

I'm sorry but most likely you were rebound guy. And it really is important for her to get her head on straight if she's going to be in a healthy relationship. So give her the time and space she needs.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Here is my thinking... She doesnt want you to leave because you are a good security blanket, if you stick around and talk and she KNOWS you like her then she will just go behind your back and do the same things with you that she is doing with other guys or option 2 she will be dating other guys and jsut ahve simply a friendship with you and when something goes wrong with her relationship she always knows that you are there for her. DOnt give her that satisfaction, either be her friend and you find someone or be nothing at all.... its gotta be one or the other or you WILL end up getting hurt. =0) good luck and stay strong

Answer 4

sound's like the young lady wasn't sure of her intentions with you , and jumped into a rebound situation with out considering your feelings, and here you are messed up. she may be cool , she just has to sort somethings out , but definately needs time to let her past go first, you could still be friend's and see what happens if you care that much for her you can wait, if not move on, and be friends, plenty of women out there my friend , just finding the right one is the key, good luck.

Answer 5

Just dont alow that to happen

She might not come back


She want check if you can accept living life without her.
If you can so that means you dont care about her.

Take a look at that

Answer 6

she hit it and quit it, HAHAHAH