this is regarding planning for a wedding, what can I do because I have no idea what to do. And my fiance thinks that I do not care.
2007-12-13 00:46:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
ask her what you can do to be apart of planing the wedding ask her if you two can go tasteing for wedding cake or some thing ask to do the plans to gether just show that you want the wedding to happen
2007-12-13 00:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sam T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her questions regularly about the status of different plans in process such as the menu, flowers, tuxes, etc...
Make positive comments if you can such as
"That "shrimp appetizer" on the menu is going to be so good". : "I really like the colors you're picking."; etc...
Ask her what she could use help with. Does she need anything picked up, dropped off...
The truth is that during a wedding there really isn't much for a groom to do other than make sure he shows up on time for the ceremony and sober. This is especially so, if the Bride's family is paying for everything as they traditionally do.
Keep in mind that a wedding is an important event but it is just the gateway to your marriage which is far more important than the guests, food, etc...
You could also plan a spa day or a day for her to have her nails/hair/massage done as a surprise. Tell her that she has been working so hard on the wedding plans that you really appreciate all she's doing and want to pamper her. In this way she should perceive you recognize the diligent efforts it takes to plan a wedding.
2007-12-13 00:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For many grooms once the bride says yes everything else is gravy. Some are not good with colors and flowers.... But grooms usually do well with the DJ and the Limo as they are nuts and bolts kind of things. Although the play list is a together kind of thing. My grooms are usually participatory in the choosing of a photographer because style and price vary greatly and they weigh in well with their opinions. I have also been contacted by grooms who it was their job to find an officiant.
The Knot
http://www.theknot.com
has awesome planning tools. Just make a new yahoo or gmail address to sign on with as all of the big wedding websites generate a ton of bulk mail.
If you work it in to conversation that you even looked at the knot time frames I'm sure your beautiful bride will be pleased. Tell her that you want to show interest but it all seems big and overwhelming. Ask if there's somewhere she wants you to start. If she's an over planner, bring home a rose and a bottle of champagne every now and then to make her stop and enjoy all the reasons why you love one another and to celebrate what you have accomplished and just for a few hours revel in that rather than looking to what's next.
2007-12-13 07:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by bountifiles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing you must do is LISTEN when SHE talks about planning the wedding. The groom does has specific duties like choosing the groomsmen--you need an equal number to her bridesmaids. You also have input into what you and the groomsmen wear. It is your or your family's responsibility to plan and host the rehersal dinner. Show interest in the planning by looking at flowers, cakes, type of ceremony, all the details. Yes, you need to let her make the final decisions, but do make some suggestions on things that matter to you. Planning a wedding together is an excellent indicator of how the marriage will work. Remember marriage is a partnership and sharing of responsibilities throughout your life together.
2007-12-13 01:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by sursumcorda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her where/when she wants the ceremony to take place if you haven't already. Get invitations and a list made together, get a wedding planner together maybe, they can help with the decor like what kind of flowers or other decorations you want displayed. Also come up with a list of food for catering for the reception. Decide with her on who are going to be the bridesmaids, best man, flower girl, etc. Set up seating arrangements for family at the ceremony and reception (you want people that will get along to sit together). Transportation - limos or whatever you both want to use to the wedding ,after the wedding, help set up where the guests are going to stay - make hotel reservations. Photographer - professional - or maybe a friend - research a good professional at a reasonable price in your area. There are lots of things to do to plan for a wedding... even talking about the different things she wants you to handle with her will probalby give you more ideas... decide on where you will be purchasing the dresses, tuxes, etc. Lots more to do - get a wedding magazine or go to a wedding planning website and im sure they will give you lots of things to 'plan/STRESS' over
2007-12-13 00:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by ecko_b1tch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing. I'm sorry about this, yes! most women think that you guys do not care , when in reality you are just being GUYS !!!
This is what you have to do before both of you lose your minds.
Telll her that you will take over of some of the duties, Tell her that you will take care of the Menu, music, groomsmen, groomen gifts, liquor and ofciante/courthouse fees and appoitments, transportation (limo or whatever you are using), entretainment for the reception, honeymoon, wedding night and rehearsal dinner. That's plenty of duties in which you can help and show genuine interest and knowledge.
tell her you she can take care of anything that ahs to do with dresses, shoes, flowers, make up, centerpieces and all other girly girl things. Telll her that you do not have any fashion sense anyway adn that she has much better taste than you anyway. That will boost her confidence and she'll know what to ask for yoru opinion and what not.
Good luck and congrats
2007-12-13 02:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, how cute (sorry, couldn't help it, lol).
Well first you can talk with your fiancee about how you can help, but it may be good to have some suggestions in how you can help, such as:
helping in finding a photographer, also deciding places you'd like to have your wedding pictures taken if in addition to the ceremony and reception;
finding a place for the reception (going to appointments to check out the halls;
whatever you need to do to setup and schedule where the wedding will be (church, etc.);
picking out and ordering wedding invitations;
making up the guest list;
food planning, tasting;
deciding what kind of cake you want -- going cake tasting and ordering the cake;
everything that has to do with the tuxedos -- the choice of style, going to have them fitted and rented/ordered -- organizing the schedule of this with the groomsmen and fathers and whoever else may be wearing tuxes;
ask her if she'd like you to come along in picking out the flowers, decorations, centerpieces;
looking into limo rentals;
honeymoon planning;
Even going to a bookstore for books, magazines or searching online for planning weddings -- there are tons of guides and checklists out there. You could get ideas for how you can help, and you could also gather these things up and share them with your fiancee -- that alone would help a lot.
That's great you do want to help -- have fun, and help her relax, too :) Take breaks from it and go out and have some good time together away from all the planning, ok!
2007-12-13 01:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Fauna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really so sweet of you that you want to do something for your fiance. If she thinks that you dont care then give her time, go out with her, enjoy your life before wedding. Take your fiance to her favourite place or buy something for her or the best idea that clicked my head right at this moment is... buy something (her favourite) and gift her on your wedding night. It will be very sweet and romantic. It will be a surprise for her and for a while let her think that you dont care for her. She will really like your idea of giving gift on wedding night.
HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGED LIFE!!!
GOD BLESS YOU BOTH...
2007-12-13 00:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I can help.. =) I am going to be a wedding planner.. First off, explain to her you probably or honestly do not know what is involved with the planning of a wedding. But that doesnt mean the plans are unimportant to you, your big day together is just as important to her as it is to you. I would recommend using a timeline for the wedding, that I can provide for you, or that you can get my doing a "google search", also consider working in a hired Wedding Planner.. That can relieve the stress of BOTH of you =) Best of wishes. Mcbreezy440@yahoo.com if you need me...
2007-12-13 06:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by mcbreezy440 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know what her favorite flowers are, find a nice table setting idea and ask what she thinks. Since planning a wedding is a lot more fun if the two of you participate, make sure you sincerely listen to her ideas and give her some type of feedback, don't be afraid to let her know you don't or do like something, part of being married (happily) is about compromise, give and take.
2007-12-13 00:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by bored worker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weddings aren't really a man's thing, anyway. Men care more about the marriage than the weddings. I have seen SOOOO many bridezillas, where the wedding has to be PERFECT, or they go nuts over the stupidest things. Break it off if your gal is like this.
2007-12-13 00:59:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋