I asked her out she said yes but then no!?

Question

i knew this girl since a week, afew days ago i asked her out she said yes why not then .. after two days sha gace me a date and i called her then at the time then she said "i am tired maybe tomorrow we will go..." and then i let it go to tomorrow and then i called her then she said "i am sorry i got my friends here at home and i am also tires ....... blah blah" . and it was yesterday. today i saw her at work and i only said Hi .. and nothing else ! we're about to finish working now ,, i really dont know what to do i still didnt talked to her since the morning ! ... i really really start liking her and want to date .. ! :-(

any ideas ? help plz?
does all of that mean that she regreted it when she said Yes why not for going out and she just want to leave it like it!

thank you

Answer 1

Time will tell on this one and I would only give it a week and then give up.
Have you thought that she may actually be playing hard to get some girls play games thinking this is kool?

Answer 2

If you have only known her a week, yes it is possible she wishes she had waited until she knew you better before she said yes, this time of year is a very busy and stressful time of year for many people and she may have been having a Happy Holidays moment when she said yes and then realized she doesn't know you well enough yet to be comfortable. This does NOT mean she does not like you our that you will never be friends and date, it just means she is second guessing herself and wants to get to know you better before she brings you into her circle of friends.
Continue to be nice, saying "HI" and chatting a minute any time that is appropriate and get to know her better and let her get to know you better.
You might even say something like why don't we try lunch some time since this is such a busy time of year and we do have to eat any way and I would like to know you better. Is one of you new to this job, is that how you just met her??
If so exchanging information about the job is a safe topic and non threatening, non pushy. Her first impression of you was probably good , she did say yes, and now it is up to you to make that impression stick. You don't want to come off like a stalker so keep things low key, and friendly and after a couple of weeks, including a Christmas Party, probably you will have a better idea of whether she is for real worth pursueing and if she wants to be pursued. Since this is a work place thing avoid anything that could be misconstrued as bothering her or harrassing her. It is the Christmas Season so up beat Happy Holidays and remarks like that are expected and will open conversation oppurtunities that other times of year might not.
It is way to soon to just give up unless she really gives you a cold shoulder.... and even that shouldn't affect friendly Good Mornings and, have a good day remarks.
she may think you are too eager and intimidating, she may just over booked for the Holidays.
Stay Friendly and hopeful but don't let it blind you to other people right under your nose......
Good Luck, I hope she warms up to you but just be nice and stay nice date or no date.....Merry Christmas......if she is worth having she is wort waiting for.....

Answer 3

I thought you had a challenge for me. This is WAY too simple. Are you ready? Wait 2 days then call her. Tell her you'd love to hang out but you're busy with a friend. Ask her some advice on where to take a different girl -- make her jealous ------ Finally, tell her, maybe some other time you and her can hang out.

It is better to become friends first.

The problem is: You're being way too needy. You're calling her everyday. STOP THAT!! You freaked her out. Now you have to lay low and let her come to you. It will happen but it's up to you not me.

Neediness is very obvious to women.

Answer 4

I know this is going to kill you but you have to leave her alone for 2 weeks. Tell her that you want to date her but she can call you/contact you when she has time. You definitely wont be able to get her by continuing to ask her over and over like Now? no? Now? how about Now? Believe me I know how hard this is but you have to let people come to you on thier own terms and if they dont come then move on. That is why I am saying 2 weeks. If she dosent make time then its time to move on to the next interesting person. Sometimes things just dont go the way we want them to. You dont have to hate her just move on. Ok, good luck hun. -Rachel.

Answer 5

Hey don't let her do that to you. You tried and it didn't work out.
Move on she not worth it. there's so many other females who have a crush on you an you might not even know that. and bro keep your head up. I understand i went through that . let time go by and you will find the one who will love you. Also you deserve the best. Good luck n keep your head up!!!!!
u say you have no life yea you do i wud like to chat with you. but i don't have your email.

Answer 6

Yea ...here's a great idea.


Move on. She is a wast of your valuable time and angry.

She is not interested. Period. If you were Brad Pitt do you think he would put up with her phony excuses ?

Never.

Like Eve says, girls don't like to be suffocated, just tied up.

Just love life and keep up the search.

Happy Hunting !

Wood

Answer 7

forget her.

you have tried twice, so if she wants to go out with you, she knows she can just say- hey today is good

She must have changed her mind, maybe someone told her something bad about you, ect ect... Or maybe she said yes to be nice, but always had planned on saying no and making up reasons.

just move on, find a better one.

she is no good, because she can't even tell you she doesn't want to go out.

IF YOU MUST try again ( I don't recomend it, but if you must), then ask her... "hey, so why don't you just tell me what day and time would be good for you"

Answer 8

Mate, my advice to you is to let it go for a few days. If she really cares she will come back and talk to you. If she doesn't then move on. I've been there before. Not healthy to obsess about anything.

Answer 9

Sorry, she is being too polite, but the fact is she has no interest. She's hoping you'll get the hint and give up. Don't feel too badly though, it happens to all players. Good luck.

Answer 10

Shes not worth your time. Go out and get someone better. Don't talk to her for a couple days. See what she says.