Is God mad at me?

Question

I left my husband almost a year ago because of his drinking and I had to give my daughters a better life.He has already met someone else and now they are having a baby in a month.I know in my heart I did everything but he always lived a seperate life from me.I left him so he could get better but we are getting a divorce for sure now because he has someone else in his life.I feel like I let the Lord down because I am supposed to be by my husbands side at all times.I left so my daughters could live a normal life and I just hope the Lord will not be mad at me for that.What do you think?

He was very abusive when he would drink. He would hit me in front of the kids and call me every name you can think of.

Answer 1

Sweetie, you acted in your daughters' best interest. Don't beat yourself so much. You did what you had to do to give them a decent life.

((((HUGS))))

Hang in there. I'm sure you'll meet someone too, just take time to heal first.
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Answer 2

Why would you assume that you let God down because you left your alcoholic husband? You have some very valid reasons for leaving him. Yes, he happened to have met someone new and they are due to have a child. Would you really want to go back to him knowing that he probably still has the same issues and that they could possibly be worse? I can only hope that he has learned for his past experiences and that maybe he got some help for his addiction. There is a part of me that doubts this though. Granted when we get married we say the vow about standing by your husband through good times and that bad and sickness and through health. However, you know that you did everything and tried to make things better and he chose to live a separate life. Did he not stand by you? No because he preferred to live in his own world and that did not include you. You do not say whether he even attempted to work with you in order to make a positive change. It really sounds like he gave up and would rather go out drinking than anything else. Your marriage vows are a contract between you, your husband, and God. Your husband broke that compact quite awhile ago by his own actions and his steadfast refusal to make a change in order to uphold his side of the contract. I say go with a clear conscious and forage ahead. It may be tough right now, but a wise friend of mind always said that "God never gives us more than we can handle though it may seem otherwise." Just focus on what you have to do in order to get your life on the right track and don't spare another thought about your ex-husband.

Answer 3

God can never be mad at you. So many people in this world do so many dreadful things like killing, raping, being extremely selfish, if God got mad at people he would have destroyed this earth by now looking at the crime and sin rate. God is very kind, forgiving and hopeful. Besides you didn't do anything wrong and you are his wife that doesn't mean you have to stay by his side all the time even when hes doing something wrong. You and him were just not meant to be together that is why this relationship didn't work out. You will get someone else very nice to be the father of your daughters and your husband. If a story didn't have a happy ending, it didn't reach the end yet.

Answer 4

Look at the timing of events. You left him a year ago and within a very few months he already had someone else pregnant. It sounds like he left the gate running. You say he's always led a separate life from you and drank a lot, I bet he was also carousing a lot too. You and your daughters are better off and if your god is the benevolent, loving being people are always saying he is then you have nothing to worry about. It's time for you to close that chapter of your life and focus on your and your daughters' futures, your husband has already closed it. Forget about him and move forward.

Answer 5

Think about this God is your creation and everyone else god watches over all of us and loves all of us he probably even loves the bad people in the world because they can always change if they wanted to. Do you think God would be mad at you just because you wanted to do best for your daughters by leaving your husband because he was always drinking it was best for your children ask yourself is God made at me because I did what's best for my children. Now if you put it that way it doesn't seem bad I mean why would God be mad at you if all you did was what's best for you daughters. I hope that helped you and trust me God still loves you no matter what

Answer 6

Wow. I'm so sorry that you have had to go through this. I am soooo proud of you for taking care of your children. My mother should have left her husband to protect us and she didn't. I had a terrible childhood because of it. It would have been nice if your husband had chosen to get well and reunite with his wife. Unfortunately, he didn't. That was not your choice and it isn't your fault. Now that he has joined himself to another woman, you are free. Please know that God has held you in His hand throughout this whole thing and that He LOVES you soo very much. He knows how to pick up the broken pieces and make your life better than ever. Not only do I not believe that He is angry with you, I believe that He wants to bless you and your girls. Trust Him.

Answer 7

It might seem that you have made a mistake but actually you did the right thing. A person who drinks kills millions of memory and mind cells not the mention 50 other things. But I believe that God has the right person waiting for you. One who will love you and not be apart and also someone who doesn't drink and teach your daughters bad habits. I'm sure He is waiting for you to learn to love and respect yourself and be secure in you. Just knowing that you did the right thing is the first step to loving yourself and your daughters. Be calm and patient, your turn will come.

Answer 8

He won't be mad at you .. he'll forgive you, but why leave over his drinking? Was he an abusive drunk? Well my grand grandmother's husband died after 60 years of marriage and he was a heavy drinker, but a sweat man when he was sober. My grandmother turned out fine and had an okay childhood. No wounder the divorce rate is so high, Some people just give up.

Answer 9

Not being religious, I can't give you a religious answer. But since you're a believer, let me offer that I think if God would be mad at anyone in this situation, it would be your husband.

Now that you know that he's really living separately from you, go make a new life for yourself and free yourself from your husband. Spare yourself the pain and heartache of worrying about his life and go on with your own.

Answer 10

Maybe I'm just a 19 years old boy, but you read my answer carefuly, and you might find something. First of all, please do not put God in your life, we are free humans, we are notbeing controlled or watched by God or other being. Once you are free from this myth, then you can arrange your life wholly. You are RESPONSIBLE for your own life. Remember this. It is fully in your power to make what you want. Please be happy, and take actions base on that. If you have to divorce then do it. This is a matter of you become happy or not. Not about God angry or not. It's time for us to be freed from this GOD thing. Humans have the power in them. Nam-myoho-renge-kyo is the key.

Answer 11

Jennifer, although I do not believe in a god(s) I cannot help but think that if you have faith surely you do not believe in a wrathful or vengeful deity ! You must begin by loving yourself and treating yourself respectfully. Be cautious of your decisions in this vulnerable time and get the assistance of people in your life whom you trust and whom you know to want the very best for you and your children. When you know in your heart that you are doing the "right" thing as difficult as it may be you will have peace. If your religion brings you solace and comfort (as it does for my religous friends) turn to that, but if it makes you feel tortured you may want to talk to your pastor about that. Best wishes, I am truly sorry that this is happening to you.