Ok, me and my bf were doing great, and then he tells me, when things started to get a lil rocky between us, that he wanted to ask me to be his fiancee but was worried about me being afraid of commitment and how early it was in the relationship.Then he asks 4 a break, coz he thought it would make us closer.I told him it would make us further apart and it did.he started to get angry at me for no reason and now we r split. he has not told his m8s yet, and he wants to still try and work things out. However, every time we try n spend sum quality time together, he tells me just b4 we go out that he needs to be back 4 a certain time, coz of going to the pub with mates or sport. So i say, well dont worry going out with me then, coz i dont want to rush our time 2gether.Does that make sense?His bday is coming up and he still hasnt told his friends yet. Ive asked him whats going on in his head, but i dont get a clear answer. He answers my questions with questions.Any1 have an idea wot hes thinkin
2007-12-12 22:38:52 · 11 answers · asked by louise 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know but from reading that I got a strong vibe that he's cheating.
If he keeps flaking on you though, leave him. He's the one with the cold feet.
2007-12-12 22:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First if he's telling you at the start of an encounter that he will be able to spend x hours with you, I find that rather polite.
That said, if he is spending the majority of his social time with his pals instead of you then I think that tells you who is more important in his life.
Who know what he is thinking. I've learned that leaving mind reading to the psychics is much less frustrating.
It's time to think about you and not what pleases him.
How about telling him you can spend 3 hours with him on Thursday between 6 and 9 pm? or something like that. What I mean is that you start calling the shots on this.
If he won't answer your questions then maybe you should ask him to call you when he's ready to answer your questions as you deserve better.
And don't buy him a birthday gift.
2007-12-13 06:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by pinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion he sounds like an over controlling idiot. Get rid of him and get on with your life, he not worth the trouble and problems that will follow. A marriage is not something you jump into when you already have a rocky relationship that is not going anywhere. Apparently, he thinks he can treat you like SH__ while you stay home and he is out parting with his friends.
2007-12-13 06:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by jay_d_skinner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me he might be playing games a lil. You might want to be a lil more distance to him until he start acting like he wants more of you. Let him make the steps and you just back up and see where that goes. Because right now he knows your going to be there and he is treating things with careless ways.
2007-12-13 06:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by deeliyah20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like that you two are simply talking past each other. Do you feel like he really loves you? If so, then the problem lies in your communication. The two of you seem to be talking in circles and not getting anywhere. No one is making any headway in this relationship. Either he wants to take this relationship to the next level but neither of you is entirely sure how to go about this or he's really not ready to go to the next level and wants things to remain as they are. You need to ferret out what is truly going on in his head. Perhaps he is simply happy the way things are and doesn't feel the need to get more serious. There are many guys that feel this way. Or, as I said, he would like to, but, he's not sure how to go about it.
2007-12-13 06:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He's not into you, he's just using you when he feels lonely. You're like a companion. He tells you he wants to marry you to keep you on the "hook". If he really loved you, he would treat you like you were a princess. Men do that when they are in love with you. He doesn't love you and probably never will! Get a good man to love you right.
2007-12-13 06:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_sandy_79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't say what he is thinking but what it sounds like to me is he may have someone else in his life and he doesn't want you to kind out. I do think that his mates know that you are not together and they may know more than that. He might be asking them to keep quite.
Good Luck
2007-12-13 06:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
put the smile back on and the best dress of yours! walk with your head high, hum your favorite tune and feel the sun on your cheeks! life is about changes... feel good about it... you are dwelling in the anticipation of the worst... its better to think of how wonderful a relation it has been so far and let it be that way for ever... go out, meet ppl and make friends. trust the ppl closest to you and pour your heart out to them.... smile and feel good about your life... when HE sees you living life, he will come up with a decision sooner than you can possibly imagine.
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2007-12-13 06:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by rony 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry' He's done. The best thing you can do is brace yourself for the complete break up of you and he. Go ahead and break it off now before he does. He is working up to it. Beat him to the punch.
2007-12-13 06:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't dedicate one complete night to you, then he does not deserve you. Tell him to call you when he is serious and not playing games!!
2007-12-13 06:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋