Is this Verbal ABuse?

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Is this a form of verbal abuse?
My first memory in life is when I was 3 years old, i was at my aunts house, she was having a big party and it was dark, i remember feeling scared and crying for my mother,, my mom picked me up and everyone including my aunt was lauging on the top of their lungs, my aunt said "WOW You shouldnt have picked her up, shes 3 too old and your babying her"
I remember feeling awful..
Then when my aunt used to drive to our neighborhood, shed start laughing out loud and making fun of our neighborhood, (we lived in a lower income area of the city shes from an affluent area)she say ""like "HAHAH OMG look at these shops, Johns Fried Chicken,HAHA do you eat there"? or "OMG I SEE A WHITE PERSON"" "OMG look how filthy the streets are,, OMG Joses Pizza, HAHAHAHAHA"

It took a major toll on my self esteem.. Then everytime id go to her house shed say "DONT YOU WANT TO LIVE HERE"?
Also when i was 7 yrs old i was chubby, she made me get on a scale in front of the whole family, they all laughed and called me

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fat, ever since then ive had an eating disorder my entire life..

Was that verbal abuse?

Answer 1

I don't think it's verbal abuse, she is just strange and embarases you it sounds like. your fine, she sounds a little off.

Answer 2

well the thing here is that your aunt never quite learnt the art of putting her brain in to gear before opening her mouth. People are entitled to think and feel what they like and even say it, but there is a thing called thinking before you speak and sometimes knowing when its best to just simply think it and not say it.
Sometimes the best answer is to say nothing.I often say if your answer does not improve on silence then don't speak lol.All of the above with the exception of one comment which I shall address in a moment, were thoughtless and selfish and opinionated.Not meant in any way to affect you as a person just sometimes people do not realise the consiquences of what they say without thinking, and the effect it may have upon a person.
However that said ,what she did with you as regard the scales was bang out of order, maybe she thought she was doing the right thing and it would shock you into doing something. Well it did dint it, but for all the wrong reasons. 7 years old is a time in a childs life when stunts like that can have a profound impact upon a child and it did.Today you are still suffering because of a thoughless act on her part. People who behave like this often have issues themselves of low self esteem and such like, so they draw attention away from this by directing it towards others.She made you a scape goat from her own insecurities basically for which I am very sorry.
Now you have to see that this was her problem that she made your problem, give it her back, its not yours, she has to own it not you.You make today the day when you mentally give her back HER problem and you disown it ok, the only way to predict your future is to create it, and fear is nothing more than a mental monster you have created in your mind, you can remove it as fast as you put it there. Remember what lies behind you and what lies in front of you is nothing compared to what lies within you.
Good luck.

Answer 3

I would think that she is just kind of ignorant, sorry, but that is the answer...and you just happen to be a little senstitive person, who shouldn't have been subjected to this..don't blame her for your eating disorder however,...she is also a mean person..and your mom or whoever was there, should have explained that to you...there is nothing worse than ignorant and mean...in a way, it was abusive,...but mostly stupid...sorry, not to insult her...the best thing for you, is to forgive and forget..her word certainly isn't the last one, have faith in yourself, and ignore her idiotic comments now...some day, you can tell her that the only thing you remember about her growing up, is her cruel comments to you and your family..she'll probably laugh at that also...so consider the source and pray for her....

Answer 4

verbal abuse not too sure could be but, definitely crude behavior on her part if she's the only family member that does this then SHE'S THE PROBLEM NOT YOU, SHE'S JUST A SNOBBY *@#! I CAN'T STAND PEEPS LIKE THAT, LIKE THEIR CRAP DON'T STINK...
RICH PEOPLE ARE JUST AS SCREWED UP AS US MIDDLE CLASS/LOWER CLASS R, SOMETIMES WORSE.

I TRULY BELIEVE IN THE THEORY OF WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. PEOPLE LIKE HER HAVE IT COMING TO THEM. SOMEDAY, SOMEWAY THEY'LL GET A SWIFT KICK IN THE BUTT AND A BIG DOSE OF REALITY.

I'M SORRY, THAT YOU'VE HAD TO DEAL WITH THIS CRAP AND HOPE THAT YOU GET HEALTHY AGAIN EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY. MENTALLY!!!!

I'D TELL HER OFF AND LET HER KNOW THAT HER SHALLOW, CRUDE REMARKS SCREWED YOU UP BIG TIME AND THAT YOU DEMAND AN APOLOGY.
CONSIDERING HOW SHE IS IT'S DOUBTFUL THAT YOU GET ONE BUT, IT'S WORTH THROWING IT OUT THERE IF ANYTHING IF SHE APOLOGIZES SHE AT LEAST ACKNOWLEDGES THAT SHE DID WRONG. EVEN IF IT DOESN'T HELP YOU NOW THAT THE DAMAGE IS DONE.

Answer 5

I would love to slap your aunt right across her smart *** face .she is an ignorant human being she is petty and some one need to put her in her place .not you but she needs a reality check.do not let her get to you think of one thing you are so much better Than her because you feel and you hurt people like your aunt are selfish and only care about themselves ,your mom or dad need to know the harm she is causing they need to shut her big fat mouth ......listen to me you are so smart because you care about you and your eating well let's just say when she's around you eat more this is normal hint try to stay away when she is around she may very well be jealous of the attention you get .don't ever ever let her embarrass you ever again. speak up yourgoing to be fine bless you kara

Answer 6

It's not verbal abuse as much as it's cruel treatment. You could have had it much worse...

It's not she called you fat every day or called you worthless and said you'd never be good enough or anything like that.

Answer 7

It's mental and emotional abuse. Your aunt sounds to be a MAJOR *****!!

Answer 8

I am so sorry that these comments have affected you so much. I strongly recommend that you discuss this with your psychologist. If you don't already have one, get one.

Answer 9

LoL No that's not verbal abuse. That's just funny!

Answer 10

no its not ,it just means that u have a very inconsiderate and incredibly shallow aunt