Why do I get so shy sometimes when I see women aproach me?

Question

Has there ever been a guy that had that feeling,but over came it?
When I'm not around them I try to act like this macho man,but as soon as they see me aproach with smiles saying hello,I start to blush,
and get butter flies in my stomach.I hate that feeling,I wish I could
be like other guys who are brave,in where shyness does not exist to them.I don't know how to do that.I need help,so that I could have better luck with women.

Answer 1

so why is your display name "the king"? haha im just kidding

but seriously, i like guys who are shy because im shy too...it makes me feel more comfortable when the guy is shy. just make lots of eye contact and you'll be fine.

Answer 2

We all feel a bit shy, but go ahead anyway. Ladies are not offended by a bit of poorly concealed shyness if it is masked by any display of interest. When they approach you smiling instead of forcing you to initiate, all you really have to do is force a smile, step a bit closer, and listen carefully to what they have to say, then reply in a sincere manner. Let them control the flow of conversation to learn where they are coming from, and for goodness sakes keep on blushing and smiling.

Answer 3

I got news for you. All us guys have it. It's just that some are better at hiding it than others. OK. Are you at least reasonably good looking and presentable? Are you clean and dressed well enough? Do you have things to talk about?
Of course you are and you do. So, what you have to realise is that these ladies probably feel just as shy as you do, and that, as you come up to them, they are feeling exactly the same as you.
I guess that there is also a matter of male pride - "What if she doesn't like me/want to talk to me?" I'm afraid that that comes with the territory . Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Sweetheart, reads this carefully..........women love shy, sensitive men.

But i will give u some advice, you lack self confidence, that is all it is and women, do not like macho men, we want, just men who behave like themselves and not put on a great big dumb act.

Try when a women approaches you to look her straight in the eyes. Force your self. DON'T BACK DOWN, and tell yourself repeatedly that you are hot and you can do this.

Answer 5

are you a kid or are you a man? usually kids get afraid when they see beautiful women coming their way and now days the same happens to a man when they see a girl underage coming their way. in any case only confront what you can handle and specially when it's about relationships, time will tell if it's just a temporary situation.

Answer 6

I'm not a guy, but I've had a lot of experience as a woman, if that helps!

Remember that first and foremost, women are people. Most of the time, women are worrying about many of the same things you are: doing ok in school, their future, their job, their budget, etc.

Try practicing talking to women who you aren't that interested in, so you aren't so intimidated by them. Don't think you should only talk to women who turn you on. That throws anybody. Try to see how much fun you can have just talking, nothing more. Good things to talk about in the beginning are the setting you're in (the party, the event, your surroundings, believe it or not, the weather, people you know in common, funny stories about your family (if that's possible). Instead of rating yourself on how many women you asked out, rate yourself on how many women you managed to strike up a conversation with.

Then work up to more and more intimidating women. With women you think of as "hotties," try talking to them as if it doesn't matter whether they like you or not. I'm not saying to be rude or anything; the myth that women like to be mistreated is just that (at least for sane women). What I mean is this: if there is a women that you are very anxious to have like you, you might tell yourself, she'll never go out with me. Then maybe you can be relaxed and worry less about impressing her. Trust me, if the woman is going to like you at all, she will find that impressive.

Remember this: a woman is going to like you or she isn't. It's a matter of matching temperaments. If she is not the right person for you, there isn't much you can do about it, so you don't have to strain yourself being "perfect," whatever that is. And if your personalities are a good fit, she's going to figure that out as long as you can manage to be relaxed enough to make some sort of communication, so again, no need to strain yourself. Remember that both of you are going to make your judgements based on how you feel in the other's presence, so your words don't have to be perfect.

The other thing to remember is that nobody wants to establish contact with someone who is too needy. Well, of course as human beings we're all needy. But imagine, if you see a panhandler on the street begging for money, whether or not you give them anything, their neediness makes you want to avoid them. The last thing you want is to be their friend. Likewise, I'm sure you've seen women who are so emotionally needy that your instinctive reaction to them is, "Yuk!" OK, so you're a nice healthy guy, and of course you have sexual needs. But if a woman senses too much sexual neediness out of you, if she thinks you just want "one thing," her reaction to you will be like yours would be to the panhandler--ewww, go away, I don't feel like servicing you. Now I have no idea if you are coming across that way, I'm just letting you know from the "other side" what a woman's mindset is.

Here's a positive thought to keep in mind: if you're a financially independent, emotionally stable, affectionate guy, please don't buy into the myth that you have to look like a comic book superhero with cartoony muscles and 0% fat. You can have quite mediocre looks and still find women who will wind up liking and loving you. Trust me, sane women are looking for quality guys! Being a loving, affection person with a good sense of humor counts for a lot.

My final thought is, don't think you have to act like a macho man. I'm sure that women figure out that you are a man right off the bat. Straight women like men inherently, so why make a giant effort trying to prove what you already are? Even if you did manage to act macho around a woman, her reaction may range from, "How insecure!" to "Yuk, he's going to try to dominate me!" That doesn't mean that women like wusses either. To me, both are an act. Men who come off as wusses are also trying to act like something they're not. The more you can accept yourself for who you are, the better you will come across.

Buen suerte!

Answer 7

just treat them like a person. i think you are concerned with how they see you, not who you are. don't try to act macho to women, too much of it is a turn off. try to get to know them before you start thinking they might be your girlfriend. you may find out through conversation that she is not right for you, but may be a great friend to hang with. relax. you are putting too much pressure on yourself.

Answer 8

Go for uglier chicks. You wont get nervious cause it dont matter if they shoot you down.

especially when they are in groups. If you go for the pretty one, get shot down, then you may hook up with the ugly one. If you go for the ugly one, you usualy don't get shot down, and if you do the pretty one may take pitty on you.

Answer 9

maybe being like that will make you approachable. just look them in the eyes alot and youll be alright.

Answer 10

ohh how sweeet ...i would like a guy like that lool....i think that you just have to practice a litle more.....practice makes perfect ;)