My questions are how do i bring faith back into my life?

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My questions are how do i bring faith back into my life? If the lord loves his children why would he put them through so much stuff?? Before you go and answer that let me tell you why its not in my life and what i have tried....

I have tried going back to church and talking to people it just does not seem to work.. A little bit about my past I have been sexual abused by three different family members many times. from when i was 5 till i was 17 i'm now 22... I was physical and emotionally abused by an ex boyfriend. my parents got divorced which was not to bad but i was in the middle of it and it was really nasty... My mom is extremlly suicidal and keeps telling me she no longer want to be around..... I use to be a Sunday school teacher and have been in a church for most of my childhood... I just would like to have the lord back in my life but its hard and im not sure how to get through it or who to talk to...

I DONT want sympathy from anyone.. thats not why im writing this.. You tell me to pray i have i still do some days... But when your 13 and sitting in your bed prayin that you hope your dad cant get into your room you kind of give up on praying to that higher power...
You tell me to look pass it i do. I have forgive everone. I let my dad walk me down the isle in my wedding last month.. Yes i was married in a church but i cant bring myself to talk to anyone... The one person i could talk to is dead and has been for six years now. though i still find myself talking to him...

Answer 1

Prayerfully read your scriptures and try to forgive those who abused you or manipulated you over the years. It's a long, hard struggle, especially when you feel low.

Is there anything that you have been prompted to do but haven't? Sometimes when we feel spiritually distant, it is because we have ignored spiritual promptings to do things that seem hard to us and our lack of action can cause the Spirit to draw back.

If there isn't anything pressing, then study and prayer will help.

Answer 2

There are many things that happen to which we ask God why He has allowed them to happen, and there are seemingly no answers, such as why is it that the innocent suffer so much at the hands of the wicked?

I grew up in an abusive household myself, not sexual abuse as you were, but with an alcoholic step-mother and a father who didn't seem to understand the difference between a spanking and a beating with a maple paddle that usually left bruises. Sometimes he didn't seem to know when to stop, and my step-mother had to intervene to make him stop.

How we handle the aftermath of this determines how we live our own lives. The weak continue the cycle and blame their parents. The strong break the cycle, vowing to not be like that themselves and help others who have been in the same type of situations.

I really don't think we'll know why God sometimes allows the innocent to suffer at the hands of the wicked until the Judgment, when all things will be revealed and all questions will finally be answered.

But the big decision for us is, what do we do from here? Do we become bitter and cynical, being angry with God and reject Him because He allowed this to happen to us? Or do we use it to become stronger, and be able to help others in similar situations?

It is here that our faith will shine the brightest, if we can trust God to heal our hearts and spirits, and trust that there was a purpose in what happened to us, maintaining our faith even in times of adversity.

So the first and hardest step is to trust that God had a purpose for what happened in your life. We may not understand that purpose, but we need to believe that He had a reason for it.

The second step is to not be angry or bitter against God for what happened. Talk to Him about how you feel, and ask what you should do from here.

The third step is to be sure that the past doesn't become an anchor that holds you back from growing and enjoying life today. It is in the past - let it remain there.

Sometimes it helps to find someone you can trust, and talk to them about it. Ask the Lord to provide you with someone you can trust and who can help.

And remember above all, Jesus Christ suffered more than any of us ever will. He, of all people, can understand and help.

I hope this helps a bit?

Answer 3

The problem with getting faith back is that you have lost trust. You may feel as if the spiritual forces weren't there for you, didn't guard and protect you, perhaps even abandoned you to the harms of people around you.

Before you can regain faith, you will need trust. But before you can choose to trust, you will need good experiences with people of faith.

So observe how people treat each other and become closer to those who treat others well. You can expecially see if someone is of good character when they are dealing with difficult stuff. Once you are close to people of good character, you will enjoy positive experiences with them, and then you may be able to trust. Then you can reasonably trust a little faith, and more positive experiences will allow you to trust a little more faith.

It takes time. Hang in there!

Answer 4

My my my... You have alot of work to do my dear. To get faith back into your life. You need to read the bible more. The word of God is important. Your spirit is weak and you need to feed it with the word. The bible says to renew your mind, everyday. (Romans 12:1-2) Tapes, Cd's, Church, are faith builders. The right place is important too. The bible also says faith come be hearing and hearing by the work of God. Romans 10:17. So get into your word more. You have too many uneccesary thoughts running around in your head. You get rid of them by reading the word. If you donlt want to read. Get the bible on Cd and make it 1st thing to listen while driving or on spare time. If you watch TV. How many hours you spend doing that, double your word time. Why? becasue you have to renew your mind everyday. Which means constantly remember the word. Keep it dear in your heart. and get in your head till that all you think about. Then your not quick to anger and the thoughts will not reign in your life. Be an example to your family and you will prosper, the end result will your family wanting what you have. And thats the love of God. About you past. Leave it in the past. Life is to precious to think about what happened to you. Instead, think about what you can do to overcome, and be a success.

Galatians 3:2 This is the only thing I want to find out from you: did you receive the Spirit by the works of the Law, or by hearing with faith?

Galatians 3:5 So then, does He who provides you with the Spirit and works miracles among you, do it by the works of the Law, or by hearing with faith?

Colossians 3:16 Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

and more hun...

Faith. 14 1:16 Lu 16:29-31 1Co 1:18-24 Col 1:4-6 1Th 2:13 2Th 2:13,14 Jas 1:18-21 1Pe 1:23-25 2:1,2

and Hearing. Jer 23:28,29 Mr 4:24 Lu 8:11,21 11:28 2Co 2:17 Heb 4:12,13 Re 1:9

I hope this help you. Email me if yo have more questions.

Answer 5

It MUST be clear to you by now that all gods are fictitious. It stands to reason. There was no god looking over you during your life so far. Not one.
Accept the reality of this and push out and away all thoughts about seeking comfort from an imaginary entity. You now need strength of character and determination with a hefty dose of self-confidence. You must get on with a life that YOU make and religion is but a support system for the weak. Be strong and step forward not backward.

Answer 6

I think there is tremendous benefit to the local church. Find a really strong Bible believing, born again spirit filled christian church, speak to a lady who can start to disciple you.
first re dedicate your life. jesus wants your heart.
my mom is no different but that doesn't have to be your life. you are 22, i'm 20 and we are young enough to change the world for God.
if you have a Bible, start reading it.. New Testament would be good to start in.
Most importantly, start worshipping, talking to God and spending time with strong and wonderful christians who will start to walk you through the healing process and through the next seasons of restoration in your life.

it's not going to be easy.. trust me i know. but it doesn't say anywhere in the Word that the christian life will be a piece of cake. no, we are warriors and you are going to have to fight. so put on your armor, get connected, and start moving towards great things in God.

He has INCREDIBLE wild, amazing, wonderful and sooo exciting things planned for your life. YOU'VE gotta hear me on this. Jesus is soo in love with you. You are His beautiful daughter who he's carrying right now. He will never leave you nor forsake you.

If you'd like to chill or talk netime email me at [e-mail] .. i live in Whitby, ontario.

visit citygates.ca for my church info. CGC is the most intimate church family. has helped me soo much in restoration from my past.

anyone else reading this: feel free to visit the site and join a service. We have a young adults group too, that meets Friday nights! WAHOO!

Answer 7

you as a former Sunday teacher made choices, bad choices ; it was by your hand and choice that your life wasn't good; you should know that you can't blame God for free will which you exercised; no matter what God still loves you and wants you back , you know that deep inside but you are too focused on self to let God in; everything is a lesson, not always good but if you learn from it , can't leave it in the past and you can; and move on, you can help others from the pain that you endured; and from helping others and not focusing on me me me ; your heart will grow and be a place that God can find again b/c it isn't overflowing with me me me ; everything you give up to God, he will help you in his way and time , you know that ; you were young and still are young, you grow by helpng others, you think better of yourself and never let anyone steal your thunder again; you have been given one life to live , we all make mistakes, we have to account for our actions and choices , you will never get this hour, minute or second back ; make it count for you not anyone else , you can't change others , only you; you made an investment in a learning experience, don't travel that road again; seek and you shall find but you seek God again for the right reasons; thank you for bringing you out of this, for showing the way, open your heart and share yourself with the world and this will happen; your Mom needs to do the same; suicide is a cope out of needing to do the work and stop focusing on just our needs, you can only help you ; you can't move forward always looking behind; if you always do what you always did then you always get what you always got. Change your thinking, focus on others, give of your talents; give thanks to God in good and bad times; he doesn't cause bad to happen but he promises that he will be there for you if it does ; change your choices and your life will change; give up your pain to God and leave it there ; God bless you and your family and live a long , happy life, SHARE YOU and know that you are important in this world , there is no other like YOU! I felt sorry for myself for not having shoes until I saw a man with no feet.

Merry Christmas and a Happy NEW year!

Answer 8

Paul answers your question in Romans 10;17 which paul writes,"So faith comes from hearing, that is, hearing the Good News about Christ." (NLT) These blind men who cannot see heard of the miracles of Jesus. They could tell in the people's voices that they spoke in awe and excitement about what they seen so I believe that because many people were talking about Jesus' Miracles that they came to faith by hearing over and over the miracles Jesus' done. Jesus healed lepers, cripples, he deaf if he can so that he surely can heal a blind man let's go to Jesus! The blind men probally thought. So faith comes by hearing the word of God.

Answer 9

I wish I could espound on your question but it's 4am and I am starting to lose focus. you don't allow email, but I do so feel free to email me as some of what you are going through I had gone through growing up and I've been struggling too and I would love to talk about what I've been doing and my story and perhaps you might get something out of the sharing.

Answer 10

I have walked in those shoes myself....... the part about sexual abuse, I know first hand about...... I lost my first baby...... almost lost another one at the age of 3...... lost 2 grandmothers in 1 year...... *Sigh*, we all have our stories and trials and tribulations and burdens to bare...... the fact of the matter is we are *tested* in and of our faith.... I do not know the whys of it all..... no one does or can...... all I know, that for me, my faith saw me through it all..... I look back and now have no hate, malice or contempt for those who hurt me..... I can even give that person, the one who abused me, a hug hello...... It took a lot of time, do not get me wrong, and it was HARD, I am human, but with faith and grace from God I did it........ I beat satan !!!!!!!!I began to realize that Jesus is the author of MY life, not those other people, nor satan, I was NOT gonna let anything or anyone rewrite my life or take me from my path of faith God has set out for me.....I would NOT let this world, that is under satans' control beat me down and take away from me what I wanted, and that is Peace in Christ........ I backed up, started from scratch in faith, I got more into the Word of God, listened only to Gospel music, meditated on God and what I saw in my heart as a great and beautiful world through Him, I kept myself seperated, for a while from those who distracted me from God, I looked harder at the circumstances of my past life, and saw how pathetic that person was, the one who hurt me, and I also looked harder at the why behind the lose of my child..... It just was !!! No reason perhaps, nothing I did wrong, it was NOT a punishment for anything I did, It just was...... and my child is with Jesus, so why be sad ?? People around us do bad and ugly things, we are NOT responsible for any of it, THEY have to deal with and face God for their actions, NOT you nor I........ Learn to let it go.... Hard ?? yes... Possible ??? Yes....... I did it....... You can too, with Gods help, and the love of your brothers and sisters in Christ who LOVE you and will pray for you....... go in peace......... God bless
PS...... IF God leads you to, you can contact me anytime you feel the need to........