Overweight husband?

Question

My husband got fat on our honeymoon, and he has put on weight again since we got back, yet he doesn't particularly care. He was quite fit and athletic previously. He admits that he has become fat and says he had never been fat before he met me but he doesn't even care about it. He is only 22. What should I do?

Answer 1

Honeymoon?....Uh, that means recently you probably said something like "for better and for worst, in sickness and in health, etc." I think getting fat falls in that category of for better and for worst. Guys have weird ways of showing true love and gaining weight is one of them. You just got married! If this gets to be a big problem early on, imagine what will happen when you get into a REAL arguement. Don't make a big deal out of it. Have fun you love birds.

Answer 2

The only one who can do anything is your husband. There's more going on here than a few pounds.

You omitted how you determine that he's fat. Did he go from 150 pounds to 153? That's inconsequential. However, if he's put on two pounds a month since your honeymoon three years ago, that's lifestyle and that's up to him to modify his behavior.

You are included in the changes to his life. You're aware of this or you wouldn't be here asking. I can make guesses, but where things matter is with you and between you and your husband.

You might try scheduling a counseling session with a therapist. If your husband doesn't like this, do it for yourself because this is affecting you. A counselor might be able to either soothe you (if the weight gain is minimal) or find a way to modify your husband's behavior. Losing weight is much harder than gaining weight. He'll need to get familiar with a sense of being hungry. That's the nutritional, not psychological part.

And don't forget, 22-year-old guys share a sense of "I'm bullet-proof" and "I can do anything" that might be unfamiliar to a gal. Be well ...

Answer 3

Does he know he doesn't have to be middle aged or old to
have a heart attack? Does he know that all of that weight
around his middle puts pressure on his other organs, including his heart? If he was fit and trim before you married,
ask him why he's given up trying to take good care of himself? Young kids even in highschool have heart attacks
these days. If you don't take care of your body, it won't take
care of you. Allowing yourself to get overweight at such a
young age, is more than being lazy. Is he eating junk food
now, that he didn't allow himself when he was working out?
I would suggest the two of you start a walking regimen after
dinner or before if you can. You can go to the mall and walk
around the place a couple times an evening. Or you can find
a pool you can use for a few laps or just water aerobics. If
he allows himself to get in a slump now, how will he be once
he reaches 35 and the weight goes on even easier? And
it does. He needs to get into a continual program that gets
him exercising three times a week, for no less than 45 min.
each time. This is common knowlege now with people who
know how to take care of themselves. Believe me, he needs
to get started before he packs on any more weight. Espec-
ially if being overweight and heart attacks run in his family.
And there's always the chance he can develop Diabetes
also. A Type 2 Diabetic is almost always overweight when
they are diagnosed. And they have to follow a strict diet after
that. And it's not easy to willfully give up the foods you enjoy,
or are allowed to eat in small amounts. Ever notice on
packages, how many calories or fats are in a half a cup of
anything? Even cereal? No one can get satisfied on a half
cup of anything. But if your calories, and carbs and fats are
restricted, that's what you have to do. So you starve or learn
to eat a balanced meal and not comfort foods often.
He probably does care, but he's not wanting to give
something up to get back to his original weight. No one
looks good in their clothes when they start to bulge. And
they don't feel as good either. He already knows that. He
needs to open up to what's bothering him that he doesn't
care about how he looks, or feels, or worries about developing future diseases, all because of being overweight
or just plain fat. The life he saves, will be his very own.

Answer 4

i've got been in a similar subject and the only ingredient that style of appeared to artwork at one factor replaced into to get on a intense eating regimen with him. maximum possibly you do the grocery procuring at residing house, if it is so, empty the kitchen and depart basically healthful stuff in there. provide your babies some funds so as that they do no longer would desire to be afflicted by this eating regimen too and enable your husband parent something out. Oh.. and don't even attempt the intercourse. it extremely is going to easily proceed to make u depressing as you will comprehend that each and every time you preserve attempting it extremely is yet another frustration.

Answer 5

you need to have a conversation with him, it's not fair that he doesn't care about his physical appearance for you. tell him that you will love him no matter how he looks but your worried about his weight. also, why don't you secretly get him exercising and eating healthy? how about you be the one who does the grocery shopping, so that you can pick out healthy foods. and also go for walks with him and do things like tennis and exercising things to get him moving. this will help =) all you need to do is tell him you want to do these things so you two can spend qaulity time together! he probably is becoming overweight and being lazy because he thinks that because your married, you won't leave him or judge him if hes overweight. but please try these things out.

Answer 6

Exercise together, and also eat healthier together, and maybe re-evaluate your relationship.

Answer 7

make him a little jealous, that would motivate him. lol