I have been with the same guy for 6 yrs now and we really dont have plans to marry. He has issues and I think he hasnt gotten over his past and didnt ever really cope with his divorce. He still has his ex in all his financial business and in all his personal business. Together, they have actually made me pretty unhappy early on. He would like for me to turn a blind eye to his shinnanigans and pretend like I am either stupid or desperate which I am neither. I think my eyes are wide open here.
I am financially on very solid ground and make an excellent salary. He is the same, but money is not everything. We have sex, but not the good kind.
I have no desire to date any more, so I suppose thats why I am still giving him the time of day. I am sick of the way men use and abuse my kindness and think the dating thing is behind me. I dont want to hang out in the singles group and all my friends are married. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Are you single and happy and 40?
2007-12-12 18:46:31 · 7 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
love is not about age or anything it is only about you!
2007-12-12 18:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by profootballergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can fall in or out of love at any age. I am 41 and find that I am perfectly able to fall in love at this age and have. Don't settle whatever you do, because the minuet you do, wham, and then you say, "where we you about a year ago before I made this dreaded decision." Keep the faith, be smart, and remember, just b/c people take advantage of you b/c you are kind, I am very nice and it happens all of the time, someone will come along who does not. Put your foot down and look for someone else. Darlin there is an entire world out there.
2007-12-13 09:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by bck2liberty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can fall in love at any age, I have seen on television stories of people 100+ falling in love and getting married, love is unconditional, believe me, you would be happier single and looking for dating than spending the rest of your life with someone who doesn't make you happy. And the longer you wait the older you get, it is a lot easier to get out and date and look for that right guy now than it is when your 50 or 60, the longer you wait the more time you lose. Less time with that right person, and more time with this one who doesn't make you happy. Everyone deserves to be happy, reguardless of sex, race, AND age, so go be happy, dont not go and be miserable. :-D.
2007-12-13 03:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by Dan. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am definatly not 40 but I still think its possible to find someone at your age and fall in love. I know I personally love women who are older then myself, try younger men there are some helpless romantics out there trust me.
whatever you do, be happy!
2007-12-13 02:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by Soap Box Preacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love has nothing to do with your age. You can fall in love at any age!
I would much prefer to be single and happy rather than be with somebody I am unsatisfied with, and besides how can you ever truly fall in love without giving yourself the opportunity.
2007-12-13 02:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by Meggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen I am 43, don't give up yet. There are plenty of good men still out there. I don't consider myself old, and have had decent relationships at over 40.
2007-12-13 03:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can fall in love at any age you sound like your happy with him other than his ex tell him how you feel adn see where things go im not 40 but i do know you can still fall in love
2007-12-13 10:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by psycho bitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋