My girlfriend of 2 and a half years is mad at me, and is not talking to me because today my therapist diagnosed me with anxiety disorder and depression. The reasons for these are that I was mentally abused as a teenager, and my father punched me face and threw me on the gound untill my brother and mother pulled him off. That happened twice when I was 16 (I am 18 now). I have had depression issuses since I was 13 years old. I have been going to my therapist since my dad hit me. My girlfriend was with me at this time and knows that all of this happened and worsened my depression. Because of my sleep issues my therapist suspected that I had anxiety disorder as well. He is now sending me to a psychiatrist who can perscribe me medicine to help with this. That is why my girlfriend is mad, because I am going to the psychiatrist. I need to go to help how I feel. My job, schooling, and life in general is all going down the drain. Why wont she support me when I need her the most?
2007-12-12 18:12:18 · 13 answers · asked by Maxwell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your girlfriend is such a *****.... Why can't she understand that you are getting help and that she needs to be more supporting instead of acting like everything gotta be about her... You don't need a girlfriend who is going to put down you and make your life miserable. Why she doesn't she want you to a psychiatrist? Only you, her, and the psychiatrist will know that you seeking help. Is she is ashamed of you? You need to move on and continue working to making yourself well and happy, because you don't need somebody who is going to treat you like ****.... The beginning of happiness starts with you...
2007-12-12 18:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that she is having a hard time accepting something like that happening. I don't think she really expected it and she's probably still thinking about everything. Nothing that you went through with your parents is your fault and she should be able to understand that, I think it might even help if you talk to her about it. Tell her how it makes you feel that she feels that way about it. This is the time where you both need to show eachother that you are here for one another. You should try to help her understand your side of the situation. Don't let it get you down you will move forward you just have to stick with it and do what's best for YOU. Take the advice from your doctors and your girlfriend should understand and be there for you. Best of luck.
2007-12-13 02:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by musicmachine66 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, sorry to hear about your situation!!
Although I haven't been in your same situation, my boyfriend suffers/suffered from depression and has been on antidepressants for a few years now (we're both 19 and have been together just over 3 years). I might be able to give you a little bit of insight into some reasons why she's acting the way she is, as I have almost been in her situation...
Occassionally my boyfriend would still get down and depressed and I'd almost feel like it was my fault that he was getting that way. As i'd never been through depression personally I didnt quite understand how it is a sickness and can't just go away with a few cuddles and loving words from me, which i didnt understand at the beginning. I would blame myself for him getting depressed again, and wonder what i had done, or hadn't done, to make him that way again. I thought that I should be able to make him better by being a good girlfriend, and the fact that he wasnt made me feel like a faliure.
Perhaps your girlfriend feels that you shouldnt need to go to a psychiatrist or need medication, as she feels like she should be the one to help you. As you are turning to someone else for help it may hurt her as she doesn't quite understand the real severity and extense of how bad depression and anxiety disorders can be, and how sometimes professional help is needed in order to overcome whatever was in your past...
Maybe you could try talking to her about how its not her that is failing or not able to help you out, but that the things you have been through need professional help.
As you've been together for 2.5 years you probably would have been through a lot already. If talking it through with her doesn't make her understand, then perhaps it's time to move on, to find someone who won't get angry at you for something that you cannot help. I know this last bit of advice isn't much help, whenever i have problems with my partner and people tell me to move on I dont even listen to their suggestion, it seems so out of the question. But if she's going to ignore you at your time of need then perhaps she's not the one for you? :(
I'm sure you'll both be able to work things out tho, and the best of luck! :)
Love jojo
2007-12-13 03:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure why your girlfriend is having a problem with this. Perhaps she really cares about you, and is having a hard time seeing someone that she loves go through a hard time. I mean, when you get an actual diagnosis sometimes that's hard to deal with because there's no longer a chance that everything is okay. Perhaps your girlfriend just needs time to adjust to your new understanding of your situation. I think it's wonderful that you've been seeking help for your psychological problems and I hope you have a wonderful future.
2007-12-13 02:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask yourself a question... how do you really feel about this girl? it does not seem like she is very understanding of what you have to go through...maybe right now, a girlfriend is the last thing you need in your life. it could be adding to your anxiety. talk it out with her and let her know how you feel....she is not supporting you because she is either scared and confused, or she is a dumb selfish b*tch. good luck mate.
2007-12-13 02:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by ryan 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her that. Tell her you really need her support right now and want to talk about it all, and want to know why she's so upset. The last part you typed "I need to go to help how I feel. My job, schooling, and life in general is all going down the drain. Why wont she support me when I need her the most?" Voice to her how important this is to you and ask her for her support. You said it perfect right here.
2007-12-13 02:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by PerpetualKathy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's probably just worried and confused. This is probably something that is scaring her a bit and the way she's dealing with it is being "mad" at you. I think that you should ask her over for dinner and cook for her etc. and when you're sitting down just talk it through with her, try and answer any questions she has and try and be patient and understanding. I'm sure you'll work it out.
Good luck!
2007-12-13 02:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
From what your saying i think that you need to talk to her about this. I don't see that she is mad because your going to a psychiatrist, but because your not going to her for help. It seems that she has been there for you forever and is probably hurt that she wasn't able to help you as much as you needed. Let her know that she has helped you a lot dealing with your past, and that you still need her there for you.
2007-12-13 02:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by jhunter 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know honey you don't need her, you're jst 18 you have all your life in front of you to eenjoy it with a girl friend who diserve you. for now you should just focus first on your health, and then your job. It's good to have someone with us to support us when we need theem the most, but the worst thing is having someone who sresses us when we need it the least
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. and don't woory about her behavior. and remember, YOU DON'T NEED HER you just think so
2007-12-13 02:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow what a b*tch. I thought the only disease a girl could get mad at a guy for having was alcoholism lol. hope things work out for ya man.
2007-12-13 02:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by Derrick Q 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋