So I was thinking..what would be the right time to sleep with a guy?
there's alaways those thoughts in the back of your head, will he take me seriously after this? will this work out?
and I dont mean for a fling thing kinda relationship, but for someone you are really intrested in.
assumeing there's a guy i talk too(there isnt but just for the record) and im really into him. i want a serious relationship with him, and no games by any means. keep in mind im not a virgin, so I know what sex is, and I need( want, love, adore, etc..) it too! it goes both ways. execpt guys tend to think oh she's easy or some shyt like that.
so what would be the right time after starting to date?
I mean, heck! if you ask me i'll do it first day and ive done the before, and we stayed together for a while after that. fell inlove after. but yet, putting that aside? what are your thoughts about this kind of situation? have him wait? do it because im horny no less than him? other?
please share.
2007-12-12 17:56:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends, but if you want a serious relationship with him, than you should wait to have sex. A good amount (but not all) of guys only want sex. They want it as quick as possible. Once they get it from one girl, they move on to the next (I'm sure you know what a player is). If you do not give a player sex right away, he will move on to another girl. But this is good, because you find out right away he is a player instead of falling in love than getting heart-broken. But true guys will respect your decision to wait. Now no guy is going to turn down sex, even at the beginning of the relationship. However, only half the guys (the non-players), will stick around once they get it. So I guess the decision is up to you, are you a risk taker, or would you rather be safe than sorry?
2007-12-12 18:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion you should wait at least 6 months before having sex (yes I know that is a long time) it allows you to outgrow the puppy love stage and see if you and that person are really compatible.
According to what you say for you I guess it would just be whenever, sometimes that does give off the signal that your easy and the guy (assuming he wants a serious relationship) might doubt your ability to stay loyal, maybe it's just me but I have done that before. It all really depends on the people, It doesn't really mean your easy, it just means your a closet nympho :-). Iv'e had sex with a girl I just met before so I can't say your easy lol.
2007-12-12 18:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by Dan. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited 6 months. He was good about it and it helped us both feel secure in our relationship. Needless to say it worked out great because after 3 years of being together we're getting married! It takes time to get to know someone and if you jump right into the physical parts of a relationship the mental and emotional parts tend to get neglected thus resulting in break ups. Take your time, if he cares about you he'll wait. Guys who won't wait were looking for a lay, they don't want a relationship.
2007-12-12 18:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thrill of the chase is sometimes what keeps a guy around.if you feel like he cares about you and would stay with you even through the worst circumstances, then maybe he is the one ,but if he is all about getting down your pants then hold off for a while, he is obviously out to get one thing ,and its not your respect ,If you could wait until you are 100% sure he is for real then the wait will be worth your while.
2007-12-12 18:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jeng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't put a standard time fram on something like that. If you like the person and feel that they respect you enough to have sex with them then go for it. Just make sure that you both are ready for it! It will most definatly change your relationship. And if you not going out, well hey its fun! It just whatever YOU think is right and what YOU want to do
2007-12-12 18:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by nickole m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait long enough to be sure that he is not just looking for sex. Guys have two ways of looking at women. She is either a potential mate, or a potential piece of booty. He already knows what is on his mind. He needs to show you how he feels.
2007-12-12 18:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Min wait until the 5th date! But 2 months is better that way if you are broken up you wont have regrets.
2007-12-12 18:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Linda S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard question..there is a girl I like, but I feel like if I sleep with her I might lose interest...so I am taking my time, because I trully care for her...u should try the same..WAIT..
2007-12-12 18:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by ThatGuy88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to wait. Guys like the chase. They look at it like" if she gave it to me that fast, she will anybody".Plus it is so much more intense. I would wait, maybe two weeks.
2007-12-12 18:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mommyx2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think let him take a move first
2007-12-12 18:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by girliexo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋