my boyfriend thought i was cheatin on him..which i was not!. So as a result he ended up getting a bl0w j0b by one of his male friends, so my boyfriend.... male friend boyfriend found out an got mad a sexually assaulted my boyfriend anally. he said he was high off of cocaine an weed an liqour when all that happend but he kept going back to the dude that gave him a bl0wj0b. i found out my boyfriend lookd at gay porn on the net...but he told me he was bi curious...then he tol me he thought he was in love wit tha guy an he is not gay anymore....SHOULD i BREAKUP WIT HIM??? i am so confused!
2007-12-12 17:51:57 · 34 answers · asked by Sexii ♥ Mamii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you are confused...I think you are scared to make a change. 5 years is a long time and we tend to accept somethings after a while that we would have never before. you need to figure out what you are afraid of - change, something new, uncertain future?
and if we really love someone, we would want what is best for them. this drama is not best for you.
if someone else told you this happened, what would you tell them to do?
we all know the answer and you just got to get up the courage to do it.
2007-12-12 18:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by #2book 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have to set one thing straight. Why do you think that he broke up with the girl he first left you for just for you go take him back? Does it make any sense to you? From my personal experience, I believed that if he can come up with something equally damaging for the second time, it would have given myself enough reason to leave him and sniff out his true self. Perhaps when he left you for that other girl, he went through a stage of infatuation, when you feel that you lost interest in the person you are with, and always, a new girl is always more attractive. If he trully loved you, would he have done what he did? Think about it. Getting over a breakup is not easy, especially one that has been going on for 5 long years. You just needed some time to think through it and pick yourself up again. After all it is not your fault at all, and its never your loss to lose him, after all that he has done to you. Socialize, organize sleepovers with your gal pals, learn a new sport, learn a new language. The key : keey yourself busy. This is a time for you to make up for the lost time with your gal pals. After all, friends are the most important people besides your family member. Good luck! Cheers!
2016-05-23 08:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all a little confusing, but basically what I read here is a bunch of kids who are trying to find themselves, sexually and any other way. Sounds like your boyfriend is in a quandry right now, and you really don't have to stay around and watch the wreckage of his life. Let go now and move on to a group of people who know who the are and who they want to be with.
2007-12-12 17:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by lochmessy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, your boyfriend is BISEXUAL. You don't go give head to another guy, get anal sex from them, and turn around and say you aren't gay any more, it just doesn't work like that girl.
And he CHEATED ON YOU. It doesnt matter if it was with a girl a guy or an alien from mars, he betrayed your trust, plus if he does weed and coke, he is going to ruin his life and probably take you down with him, he is irresponsible and a liar, break up with him or suffer the consequences on down the road. And believe me, the world has enough heart ache, dont add the the list.
2007-12-12 17:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by Dan. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, you don't need a guy who is going to cheat on you (even out of spite). Secondly, you don't need a guy who does cocaine and weed. When looking for a mate, choose someone who you think could be a good father to your children. Is that what you want your kids growing up around. Yea you should break up with him.
2007-12-12 17:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Leila 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break up with him. If you're confused, he is too with his sexuality. Getting a ******* with a guy is not a joke even he's high drugs. Him getting mad at you it is an excuse so he can do what he wants. I suggest talke to him first and observe.
2007-12-12 17:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by violet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wondered what internet porn and experimenting with drugs at a very young age would do to the next generation... now I know. So sad.
2007-12-12 17:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get away from him. Wouldn't you dump him if he had cheated on you with another girl? He sounds confused. I don't know any straight guys that would do that. Leave him alone. Cheating is always cheating no matter what the gender.
2007-12-12 17:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mommyx2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a no brainer. Time for you to roll. He just isn't bi-curious if he keeps going back. That whole cocaine, weed, and alcohol is a bs excuse.
2007-12-12 17:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by jerome b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cannot compete with the opposite sex.....let him be himself and know that you cannot change him and just let him go and hope for his happiness and safety.....
you need to spare yourself the agony of even trying to hold onto him....this is just the beginning..trust me...he will be with other males again....i promise you this.....especially if he once thought he was in love and that it was not just experimenting......time to let him go and wish him the best without being angry...for he cannot silence his inner desires.
best of luck to you.
2007-12-12 17:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by badazzblondechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋