should i look for an apartment?

Question

i been 4 yrs together me and my boyfriend and we had said that we were going to get married next year...last time we where talking and my boyfriend said what did i think of just moving in together and i told him i would i don't know about you when u feel you're ready...but i have a concern after that conversation we never said anything nomore but every time we talk about ...like i would like to buy a bed and he say's just wait until we have our own apartment....but i want to move out i live with my parents.. but my question is should i look for an apartment or what should i do... what i know is that he's not going to do it right away... he always thinks twice before doing something like we re not going to make it we don't have enough money... and im not scared we always could make it and work hard for what we have...should i just tell him that i been looking but i feel kind of weird cause im the girl and he's the men...i need help//// thanx,,,

sorry i forgot to said that should i tell him that im looking for an apartment...

and also i don't make enough money i only can efford for the apartment and the things for the apt like the bills should i just go fot it ....i think he's waiting to much if i was a man i wouldn't wait to long if im still like this because im the girl and i don't want to loook like the one whos rushing

Answer 1

wait till your married!
trust me!
i lived with my boyfriend for a couple of months! he was the love of my life!
turned out to be my enemy at the end!

wait till you guys are fully committed! being with someone every single day living in the same house can be a difficult task especially after you guys were so close to eachother!
all hell breaks loose! just as what happened to me! i regret it so bad..i wish i could have waited till we were more matured adults and 1000% sure that we were gonna spend the rest of our lives together

Answer 2

DON'T move in with him, because before you know it, it will be another 4 years & you'll still be living together. Ever heard the expression, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Ask yourself what happens to all the furniture you buy together if things don't work out. It's very different to be with someone for 4 years & actually live with them. I was involved with someone @ a young age (early 20's). We were also together for 4 years, we moved in together & things didn't work out for us. Think about what YOU want for your future. Do you go to school? Do you want a career or go to college? Can you afford an apartment on your own? I hope this helps & good luck.

Answer 3

Never put your life on hold while you wait around for a man to decide what he wants to do. Go looking for an apartment. You can move in together later, if and when he's sure he's ready.

Answer 4

Yes, you should, but not for the two of you. Get your own place. He is not making an effort, and is making excuses. If you are not afraid, go on and get yourself an apartment. He may be just making excuses. Often, once a guy moves in with you, it is longer (maybe even never) before they marry you.