My girlfriend wants me to tickle her because she said her last boyfriend would do it and she liked it, but I can't because that's something her last boyfriend did, it would feel weird doing something her last boyfriend did, is there any way to get over this?
2007-12-12 17:10:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to intrude as you requested advice from the ladies but I do want to offer my 2 cents here.
For many people, myself included, tickling is the same kind of affection as a back scratch or a massage.
If her ex-boyfriend gave her massages, would it be wrong for you to give her a massage? If your ex-girlfriend gave you massages, would it be wrong for her to give you massages? I don't think so.
We are not talking about songs, dances, restaurants or other things with sentimental value to them. We are talking about satisfying a physical desire. Don't you want to fulfill her physical desires?
There is a reason that some people love to be tickled. When they are laughing, their brains are flooding their bodies with endorphins which promote healing and reduce stress. Your girlfriend probably loves to laugh and she probably loves the way she feels during and after a fun tickling. Why not oblige her?
When you tickle her, do not dig in too deeply and start slow and gentle. Build up the speed slowly and always respect her desires. Just be careful, you may find yourself sexually aroused by this.
I would love to have a girlfriend who loves to be tickled. Consider yourself lucky!
All the best to you both.
2007-12-12 20:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As other people have said, she maybe didn't ask you for this in the best way possible, but my guess is she probably kissed her ex bf too. I bet they held hands too. They also probably talked on the phone and watched movies and ate out.
A woman that has not done these things with anyone is a hard thing to come by.
Therefore, it's really a bit silly not to tickle this girl just cause he did. However, if tickling her makes you uncomfortable and makes you feel like you are being asked to do something out of your true nature, then don't.
2007-12-13 03:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It is important (and a GOOD thing) for two people to talk about what they like. From what kind of hobbies, to food, and especially what they like romantically and sexually. I personally hate to be tickled, and tell my partners that so they don't try it out and find out too late that I really can't stand it. It's cool she told you something she's into.
2. It can be hard to hear about what a partner did with a former lover. It may be awkward, or even make you feel jealous or question how much she's into you. Don't let it get to you or mess up the relationship. If she tends to talk about her former boyfriend a lot, let her know that it makes you feel uncomfortable.
that said, as far as getting over it - that's an individual thing. i would tell yourself that she's with you now, and the two of you can figure out what you both like to do TOGETHER. explore sexually and find out what turns you on, and what turns her on. she CHOSE YOU, after all. the other guy is long gone, and not worth getting upset about.
((peace))
2007-12-12 17:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by lunaticxxcalm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes apple pie, and her ex bought her an apple pie, would you never buy her an apple pie because he did? Tickling for a person who enjoys it can be very pleasurable and erotic and very very stimulating in a great many ways. By indulging her pleasure your not only proving her pleasure, your accepting her trust. People who enjoy being tickled down usually take it from just anyone, but from something that there very comfortable with and feel that they can let down some of those intimate walls with. Please don't think of her ex when tickling comes up. Think about how much she trusts you and how comfortable she is with you to ask you to do something so intimate. By sharing something with her that really can be very erotic and intimate your only going to bring you closer. And if you do it right, I guarantee that she will never think of what her ex could do. She will only want YOU for the job.
2007-12-12 17:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try not to think about it as something that her last boyfriend did. Think of it as something that she enjoys, and something that the two of you can enjoy together. Tickle fights can be a lot of fun ;)
She probably didn't bring it up in the most tactful way, but if you don't do things with her because they're things that "her last boyfriend did" then you're limiting yourself pretty harshly as far as basic contact is concerned.
2007-12-12 17:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't ask you to do something her ex-boyfriend did just because she likes it because that is their memories and you have every right not to want to do it.
Meanwhile, I really hate being tickled. I feel like I have to pee myself everytime someone tickles me.. so yeah, not fun for me.
2007-12-12 17:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate being tickled.
I agree with you. Why would she ask you to do something an ex did? There are nicer ways to go about asking you to tickle her.
2007-12-12 17:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by Keep on Truckin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. its just like having sex.. if she isnt a virgin and tries something new and fun, do you not want to do it because she probly did it with the last guy? no because its still fun. just get over it. have her tickle you too. make it a tickle fight! that is a fun time!!!!!
2007-12-12 17:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by miamichick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, it's wierd to be asked to be tickled... second of all it's rude for her to even say she wants you to because her ex did. You are totally right, you shouldn't. You should think of your own little thing to do to her. one thing that i find cute is if you sniff her in her ear (i know sounds wierd) like how dogs do. It tickles really bad, but it's different than what her ex did.
2007-12-12 17:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by hayleey30 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do a tickle surprise like outta nowhere jus tickle her
its cute wen guys do that to grls
my bf does that to me
2007-12-12 17:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋