i am asking because my boyfriend has decided to go for lunch (he is a junior in high school). i don't really care, but i do feel a little uncomfortable with it. i am only 15 so yeah... should i not care? it makes me feel bad about myself... (sorry that sounds bad, but it really is true.)
2007-12-12 16:28:47 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
sorry i meant to put this is adolescence! i'm sorry!
2007-12-12 16:34:03 · update #1
what does this have to do with pregnancy??
Anyway, I think if you have a problem with it, he shouldn't go....by doing something that hurts you, he is telling you that your feelings don't matter that much to him.
2007-12-12 16:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's just a bar/restaurant that has girls serve in short skirts and tank tops! As you get older you will see that theres nothing to worry about The guy has chosen to be with you so you don't have to worry! I know it makes you uncomfortable but hey it's just lunch and if you show jealousy now he will think less of you and not want to be with you! But don't look down on yourself at all! You are 10 times better then those girls and you have one thing they all don't have..You have the love and care of your boyfriend!
2007-12-12 16:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by autum_mist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well people go there for there wonderful chicken wangs and even more wonderful breasts! No but really its a really fun place , i go just with my friends. You said you are only in JR.high so its totaly normal to feel that way! Sexuality is new to you at that age, and its a hard age as well.I think as you get older youll understand thats its just fun. Feeling uncomfortable right now is not somthing you should worry about
have fun!
peace and love
2007-12-12 16:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kaylyn L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love hooters. They really do have good wings there, lol. Young men are always going to stare at boobs...haha...it's just part of them growing up. If he's fifteen too, then he's got alot of growing up to do. And you'll have lots of insecurities, and not all of them will go away with age, but with experience. Don't be too worried about it...most of the girls that work there are older anyway...I'm sure it'll be fine.
2007-12-12 16:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by still waiting 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is good for you at your age because this is going to happen alot as you date. Your going to find many things with your partner that you don't agree on. You can either deal with it, compromise, or leave it.
My view on it all is it's just eye candy. Bunch of girls in short shorts and tight shirts serving food. I go there for kicks with my friends, and my girlfriend often times goes with me. It doesn't bother her because she knows who I'm going home with at the end of the night (her). She also knows that if she ever wanted to go out dancing that I would let her take one of her male friends out (because I suck at dancing) without hesitation.
That's our compromise. She knows I harmlessly flirt, and I know that if she strays I can always find someone else. Life rolls on by and no matter what drama pops up along the way, it'll keep going so why fret about it is my motto.
But that's a deeper philosphy than your question so we'll focus back on your question about hooters.
If it does truly bother you, ask yourself why. Is it because you don't trust him? Or is it because your jealous how these girls in the Hooters establishment look compared to you? You may be dealing with trust issues or you may even be faced with the age old girl problem that your not pretty enough blah blah blah.
Either way, you have to come to a decision whether it is really worth getting upset over your boyfriend going to hooters or if it's just a harmless guys night out to drool over girls that are twice their age.
My advice is to let him go and take a girls night out of your own. Go see a movie with some of your friends or go out dancing.
Hope this helps put things into perspective.
2007-12-12 16:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by untamed_soul 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 39 years old (female) and I took my daughter when she was 10. The women are very respectful there and most of them are working to go to college. Try not to feel bad about yourself, most of the women that I have met that work there are just average girls who are very nice and don't look down on others.
However, if it does make you uncomfortable you can request that he not go and explain that it makes you uncomfortable. You do risk looking insecure with yourself but as long as you don't mind him seeing that part of you, tell him.
2007-12-12 16:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
why? next time offer to go with him. Theres nothing bad about it. Some of the girls at some Hooters aren't even that hot. WHo knows maybe you can get a job there.
2007-12-12 16:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl and I love hooters!! Their chicken is great, and don't worry too much about your boyfriend, when I go the waitresses always seem to give better attention to the women then the men--LOL he probably only wants to go so he can brag that he went their to his buddies!! Don't sweat it!!
2007-12-12 16:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by nervousenergy73 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's demeaning to women, so yes naturally you would care.
Oh they have good food? Yes and I'm sure you all read Playboy for the articles.
Nobody can tell you that it doesn't exploit women and their bodies for the gratification of the base desires of men. That's just what it is, so why do people pretend otherwise?
If he wants to go to hooters, he shouldn't have your permission. Make him hide it, so that when you catch him, you can rightfully give him an earful. There's nothing that says you have to agree with him going.
2007-12-12 16:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I will go to hooters anytime, ask them "ladies" a couple of intellegent questions and then you will feel much better about yourself. Just kidding, they just wanna make a buck to go to college or something. Their Airline was a great flop if that makes you feel better.
2007-12-12 16:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel bad about yourself. It is just a place to eat. Every woman he sees everyday has hooters.
2007-12-12 16:32:24 · answer #11 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋