My BF can be so great - he is very funny, smart, sexy.. He says I love you, can say sweet things - but he can be very subtlely manipulative and abusive. He makes comments that make me feel insecure -- he says we will break up, he wants to have sex with other people, if he worked out more he would leave me, etc. -- these are always told as jokes, always with a smile. I don't find any humor in any of that -- it has left me feeling constantly insecure. I hate the feeling and my behavior has become suspicious too. He is friendly with all of his exes; they have dinner, etc. I have never met any of them -- I like to share my feelings and thoughts honestly -- when I express concern (in a gentle way), he says I am insecure. He came on very strong at first and is a beautiful guy but I can't tell if my insecurity stems from him or from me -- I have never felt like this (insecure) in any other relationship.....but this is my longest.
2007-12-12 16:24:57 · 3 answers · asked by seeksadvice28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is called emotional abuse, and will easily lead to other more serious incidents. Have enough respect for yourself not to let someone else control you like this. Call him on it when he says he's going to break up with you...tell him to go ahead then! Jackass! You deserve to be treated better than that! There are plenty of men out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve! Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone manipulative, who makes you feel guilty all the time, and insecure about yourself....girl, find someone else...be confident enough to know that you deserve better, and don't have to stay with someone like this.
People who hit and abuse their spouses tell them they love them too right after punching them in the face and calling them fat...is that "love"? I don't think so. Love yourself first, and then you'll find the right person who will love you the right way. The fact is, he is insecure about you and himself...and it's rubbing off on you...
2007-12-12 16:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's controlling and playing a game. Why are you putting up with it?
2007-12-12 16:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel about the things he dose
2007-12-12 16:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by OBASAM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋