take him back, and asked me to marry him, He promised things would be different this time.
It's really hard to trust him since he cheated on me so many times in the past, but, I promised myself that the only way this could work out, is to trust him again. today he was in the shower and he left his phone on the bed, I had the chance to go through it, but I didn't. Actually, I wasn't even curious to know. However I was curious to know if our relationship really was getting more serious and i waited untill he was in front of me and started to look through his phone just to see his reaction, and he imediatley snatched the phone from me and started going off on me, telling me that is was his phone and i had no right to go through it, that i need to respect his things and that since he doesn't go throught my phone i shouldn't go through his. His reation made me wonder, If he really has changed, why would he mind if i looked through his phone in front of him?
2007-12-12 15:56:02 · 12 answers · asked by lisame 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really trusted him, then you wouldn't feel the need to look through his phone and if he wasn't keeping any secrets, then he wouldn't try to keep the phone away from you. Maybe you should do a little investigating and see if he is cheating on you. If he is, then you should leave because a cheater will just keep cheating. I know it hurts to leave, but your heart will repair itself. After I left my cheating ex, I found someone who I could trust. I had trust issues for a while, but my heart is healing. I hope you too can find someone great and your heart will make a full recovery.
If you feel that you must give him another chance, try to get to the root of the problem and find out why he cheats. I've heard many reasons why someone may cheat, such as the thrill of not getting caught, sex addiction, indecisiveness, etc... If the two of you are truly in love, maybe you can work through it together.
2007-12-12 16:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Science vs. Romance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Of course he's gonna say everything is different now and he wont do it again. But im sure when u guys started dating he said he would never hurt u. It seems like hes not being faithful, if he has a problem with you going through his phone, even if hes not cheating at the moment, hes most likely got something to hide. The only reason he doesnt go through your phone is because u are faithful. From what you have posted it does not seem like he has changed
2007-12-12 16:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hiding things from you. I would not trust him and if I were you I would cut my losses now while there isn't a terrible amount invested in him or while you can.
Think about this scenario. Your married to him now and you have 2 kids, you don't work because it's more expensive for daycare then to just stay home. One day he is in the shower and de ja vu. His phone is on the bed, you go through it this time and there are at least 2 girls numbers of whom you don't know. He works late sometimes, you now feel sad, alone, stressed and unappreciated and worse there are now kids involved.
You now feel trapped stay in a horrible relationship or become a single working full time mom.
This could be you in like 3 years if not sooner. Do yourself a favor and run far away from this relationship
2007-12-12 16:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Time To Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first and foremost, having been there done that and bought the tshirt...once a cheater always a cheater. with that said, on his behalf, you really had no right to go through is phone, in front of him, behind his back, whatever--without his prior consent. just because you might not mind if he search your phone does not give you the right to assume he feels the same way, or to try and use your reactions as a base test for what his reactions should be.
2007-12-12 16:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by Christine M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old expression...once a cheater always a cheater. His reaction is probably a good indicator that he has not changed. If he wants to be with you after HE has cheated then it is HIS responsibility to talk to you when you have a concern. Since HE did something wrong HE needs to regain and earn your trust back. This may not take days or weeks it could take months or years but he needs to prove himself. You need to tell him that and if he is not willing to prove himself you should leave him.
2007-12-12 16:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably hasn't changed. Never take a known cheater back, it's not worth it. Get out while you still can.
2007-12-12 15:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes definatly hiding something.
If he wasnt doing anything wrong
why would he get so defensive?
You should wait til hes asleep
and then check his phone.
2007-12-12 16:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by Gaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, for the first time and last time. Let him embrace some other woman whose heart he will break/
2007-12-12 16:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's got something to hide. I think you answered your question in your own words.
2007-12-12 16:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by flesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
havent u heard cheaters never change.
2007-12-12 15:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by :'I 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋