I feel so worthless and pathetic that I'm almost 20 and haven't dated or had a girlfriend yet, and I'm in my second year in college. Almost everyone has had a boyfriend/girlfriend in high school and while as a teenager, before the age of 20. I refuse to get a hooker, they don't count for me. I am afraid to approach girls because I don't want to appear like a stalker or clingy, how do I approach girls without giving that negative impression?, and I'm afraid I might ask too many questions even though I am just trying to be social, I am more ashamed and depressed that I have not had a girlfriend or dated than have had sex, because there are a lot of people who save their virginity for marriage, but that doesn't mean they make their first boyfriend/girlfriend their husband/wife!!!. So in some ways I feel that being a virgin is ok, but never having a girlfriend or dated, that's a different story.
2007-12-12 14:46:57 · 7 answers · asked by introvertedguy06 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why do us boys/males have to make the first move?, why do we have to be the ones to ask them out?, girls have it the easy way when it comes to dating because all they have to do is just wait around to be approached and say yes to the guy and then BINGO!!!, she has a boyfriend. So who else is 20 and older and has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend or dated?, probably none or not a lot.
2007-12-12 15:11:38 · update #1
SO SO PROUD of you for not sleeping with a hooker. Do you know how happy the woman who finally finds you is going to be that you have not been around? I bet she will feel like a million dollars when she finally meets you. Waiting is the key to your situation. Also, try to loosen up a little bit and just start talking to gals who you think may have something good going for themselves. Just strike up casual conversation like a friend would. You are not pathetic but if you are setting off those vibes, people pick that stuff up instinctively-and it's a major turn-off. You have got to work on your self-esteem everyday. When you start feeling better about yourself, that's when all the magic will happen.
2007-12-12 15:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT a loser. You just need some confidence. Be yourself, talk to a girl, ask her out on a casual date. BELIEVE ME, most guys DON'T ask girls out because they are afraid, but if they would, they would have more dates! Being a virgin is more than OK, it's great! Girls get sick of the same old player guys. If you are still afraid of asking girls out, start small and get into a conversation with a girl you are interested in. Keep it light and friendly. Ask if she wants to get some coffee, or ice cream or even study together for exams. The more practice you get taking baby steps, the easier it will become for you to ask a girl out on a date! And if she happens to say "no" so what! There are plenty of fish in the sea! Whatever you do, don't wait for a girl to ask you out (old fashioned as it may sound, you are the gentleman.)
2007-12-12 14:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by lisa_nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by caspersen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not worthless and pathetic. You just need to give it some time the right girl will come around soon enough. And no we girls don't have it easy every guy hates me, I always have to ask them out and they always say "Hell no" or "f*ck no" and it really hurts me because I like them so much when I ask them out. So... NO we don't have it all EASY and EVERYTHING!!! I haven't had a boyfriend myself and I am 16. I hope you will get a girlfriend that will love you for who you are and will treat you right.
2007-12-13 13:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Cheyenna T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want a GF at 20?
don't you know that GFs at 20 are dream killers?
as they beg and cannot stand the competition a education and career will take in a man
if anything you should see them a PITA, most successfull guys will not even seriously date until 30 or so
by then they are well establish in career and possibly have a house that they are making payments on
if you feel pressure at 20
then you lack self esteem
as girls should come to you
and not the other way around
you definitely lack confidence
you need a game plan in life
get that
and you'll get game
as women will chase a man who has ambition and vision
you come off as a stalker or creepy because you have not made anything of yourself nor have you have a steeled goal in which you are on track for
when you get confidence
you know it
and females will not be a problem
dodging them will
2007-12-12 14:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 18 and am in the same case as you. It is more common than you would think. People just don't admit it. Don't worry, you will find the right girl to be your girlfriend, just give it time.
2007-12-12 14:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there are alot of people like you. Just get up the courage and go up to a girl. What could it hurt?
2007-12-12 14:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by girlwithoutaname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋