I have been seeing a guy for a year. I was under the impression we had a committed relationship. I loved him, he said he loved me. I'm 25, we had even talked about marriage the the bomb dropped!! Six weeks ago he told me he was having a fling on the side & the girl is pregnant... 5 months pregnant. My heart was broken and my pride damaged. I found out a week later I was pregnant. Not only am I pregnant, I'm having twins. I told him and he responded he just wants his son. We have talked since then and he seems to be coming around but I haven't seen him in person since I told him. He suggested a name... thats all the interest he has shown. I personally fell in love with these babies when I saw them for the first time on the ultrasound. But Travis, well, He lies to me constantly.. what to do?!? I have a great job and can do this financially but I can't believe he has done this or is being this way. This is a man I loved and have been friends with for 15 years...
2007-12-12 14:45:22 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Did I mention is myspace page... which i dont understand... says hes a swinger plus has all these girls i believe hes sleeping with... i am a very succesful woman and have a great job... i just am at a lose. I never thought anything like this would happen to me or us.
2007-12-12 15:11:33 · update #1
if you can raise your children financially on your own then do it because most women do not have that luxury. travis will not change once a cheater always a cheater and it doesn't sound like he cares about your future children and you don't want someone like that in your babies lives trust me i know its hard but try to move on, and congratulations on your twins be happy be a mom don't waste your time with that man you will already have two babies to look after you don't need another one
2007-12-12 14:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were friends for 15 years and you didn't see his "jerk" tendancies?
I think right now you have to concentrate on your health and these babies. Seems like you are keeping them, so that decision is made and you can proceed with some other steps.
It does not matter if you have a great job and can support these babies, he has a legal and moral obligation and I strongly suggest you speak to an attorney at once before the other mother beats you to the punch. You get what is rightfully yours and the childrens money from him and don't back down.
Guys like this need to be shown how to be responsible if they won't do it themselves.
You have learned a lesson here, please learn to really look at who people are and use birth control from now on. Concentrate on raising your children.
2007-12-12 23:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You now know where he stands, so you have to separate yourself from the situation emotionally as best as you can. I know it seems almost impossible to try, but you have to. You need to cut him off from you at an emotional level or he will take advantage of your weakend emotional state whether it be for a sexual or financial need that arises for him. Do not make yourself available to him-at all. Keep your eyes on the prize you have to get ready to bring your babies into the world and stress that you feel will not be beneficial for them. From this point on until the babies are here I would research your state laws for child support information. If this guy has another child on the way there is no telling what he is willing to contribute financially to support these children he seems to be so readily to make. I wish you the best of luck. Be Strong!
2007-12-12 23:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by kam727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say forget the jerk. I know it will be hard to walk away but it will be the best for you and your babies. I had a very similar situation happen with the father of my twins and couldn't be happier now raising them on my own.
2007-12-14 10:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by mom2twinboys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he wasnt tending to get you pregnant and your a woman were alll strong be indepent you dont need him you have your two babies to love and they will love you back he doesnt have to be in your babies life thats his choice to be there for them or not so let him be its true to see that he wasnt careing for your emotions when he cheated so move on make a better life for you and your twins congrats and have a happy life
2007-12-12 22:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋