I am not buying my bridesmaids jewelry as a gift. We all have such varying tastes in jewelry, so I just decided not to do it.
Should I tell them this? Is jewelry kind of expected? I feel like everyone always give jewelry.
Should I give them guidelines on what kind of jewelry to wear so they don't look sloppy, or not?
2007-12-12 14:21:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am not buying them jewelry nor do i want them to have to buy anything new...
2007-12-12 14:27:30 · update #1
OK...my question is can I give them guidelines on jewelry to wear since I am not purchasing it? or is that rude?
2007-12-12 14:30:35 · update #2
You do not have to give jewelry... not at all!!!
You don't need to tell them either... it should be a surprise... get them something that really fits their personalities as individuals, and you know that they would really enjoy... it is meant to be a thank you to them for keeping you grounded, and supporting you through the whole wedding planning process, not a way to show how you spend $xxxx on them...
don't over think it... trust me! I spent weeks freaking out about not spending enough, or getting them something flashy enough, or what was expected...
The number one lesson I learnt through the whole wedding process, is that you do not have to do what is expected of you... for anything!!
A good source, for me at least, what the "kvetch" board at www.indiebride.com.
Good luck, and congratulations!
Hope this helps!
:)
2007-12-12 14:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by chrissielicious 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I as a bridesmaid HATE getting jewelry. It is often something not my style that I will NEVER wear again. I would much rather receive perfume or something personal from the bride.
Definitely give them guidelines. If you are giving them guidelines for shoes, then simply tell them to stay with jewelry in the line of whatever you like best. For example have them all wear silver, gold, pearls, crystal or whatever you decide.
I directed my bridesmaids not to wear necklaces because of the neckline of their dresses.
2007-12-12 23:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by oy vey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a requirement that your bridal party gift MUST be jewelry..I think people kind of expect it because it usually is what you get. I did get my girls jewelry, but the actual gift was wristlets from Coach. Trust me, they WAY liked the wristlets more! Definitely give guidelines for the jewelry though, such as all gold or silver tone, no loud clunky type jewelry or..well whatever it is you think would look best.
2007-12-13 17:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most everyone so far, giving a general guideline (clear vs. color gems and gold vs. silver tone) is perfectly fine. Asking them to "keep it simple" would also be a good idea. This way there is not a mismatch of jewelry.
As far as gifts, creativity is key. You seem to want a bit out of the traditional, so anything is fair game. You could pay for thier hairdo, manicure/pedicure and makeup for the big day (if you're not doing so already). A giftbag of body sprays and lotions is always a great gift.
2007-12-12 18:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by Genie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that they need to have their own jewelry, just like you told them about their shoes. No guidelines, though. If you want them to wear specific types of jewelry, then you need to buy it for them.
They won't look sloppy. They're wearing nice dresses, so they'll wear nice jewelry.
2007-12-13 07:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your point and I was just going to have my girls buy their own jewelry but I felt like it was something that didn't cost that much and it would work out for my benefit too. I got their jewelry for about $20 bucks and they all loved it and it looked great on them since it all matched. I was a little nervous about them picking out their own since i didnt know what it would look like so this eliminated this problem. Hope this helps!
2007-12-12 14:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would let them know you have plans for their gifts to be other than jewelry so they can plan to get their own.
i think ppl give jewelry bcse it's easy to just pick up x # of earrings or necklaces for the girls to wear.
i'm all for creative gifts
i do think that after you tell them they aren't getting jewelry from you you should tell them what sort of jewely you would prefer for them to wear. so not to have a mish mash of stuff on them on your big day
2007-12-12 15:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that this sounds really cheesy but I got most of my wedding stuff at swap meets including the brisemaid gifts. A dollar for a really elegant necklace with matching earrings. You buy them what matches the dress. And they can keep it as a keepsake to remind them of the time they had.
2007-12-12 15:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is your wedding and it is a token you are giving to your bridesmaids to show your appreciation so feel free to pick your gifts for them and not give the usual stuff. When I had my wedding, I gave out beauty bags to my bridesmaids - I gave a set of Victoria Secret bag to my bridesmaids. The bag contained a lotion, splash, body butter and shower gel and like a bath sponge. They loved it! :) Its something they were able to use and enjoy and its also practical.
2007-12-12 14:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by pinayinpenn 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it's ok if you don't want to get them jewelry. my friend gave her bm's a tote with all kinds of goodies in it and they loved it.
as for telling your maids what jewelry to wear, i would say something like, "a simple silver necklace." or "nothing too bold"
2007-12-12 23:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋