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back in march or april i had sex with a guy. it was my choice. he went in unprotected. i asked him if he was going to pull out. he ignored me. i asked him again. he ignored me. i asked him to stop. he kept going. i didnt do anything about it because i got pregnant. now the baby's gone. no i didnt give him away or abort him. i would never.

2007-12-12 14:05:53 · 20 answers · asked by Baby Jewels 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Well, IDK if it's rape or not. But even if he did pull out it doesn't mean that you will be 100% safe. That's why there are condoms, pills...... Too late for that now. If you are looking for someone to blame you have to include yourself because you consented to unprotected sex. There are NO certainties that if you pull out before full ejaculation you won't get preagnet, that's just not true. Did you fully reasearch before you partook?

It will be something you will have to follow up legally anyways, much more info is required and it's up to your local laws as well - They differ slightly depending on where you are.

I AM IN NO WAY CONDONING THIS GUYS BEHAVOIR IN ANY WAY AT ALL

There is a distinct difference in asking him if he will or telling him to pull out.

He should have stopped when you asked him to, you need to check your local laws.

2007-12-12 14:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by tony s 2 · 1 0

No its not rape...once you give the go-ahead for the guy to go in and start laying pipe....after that no is no longer an option and the action of rape has long gone! Anyway, you got pregnant, wheres the baby? Gone...gone where and how? Now , after you gave the go-ahead for sex to commence and while into you decide you no longer want to continue, that may be assault if he does not quit when you wish to call it quits! Rape....no! Should that be rape and women could say her husband raped her soon after giving permission to have sex and he went one more stroke in her than she desired while getting to carried away to stop in the heat of the moment and action, our jails would be over-crowded with rapist husbands who had no control at the time the alleged rape took place! What happened would not be considered rape...assault maybe!

2007-12-12 14:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No it is not rape. The moment you agreed to have sex with him it was a "choice". To be raped it has to be forced. However because he didn't pull out like you asked him to it may seem as though from that moment on he forced sex on you. But really what he did was disrespect you and your wishes. You probably would not have enough evidence to substantiate your claim in court. Yes it was definately wrong but it would never stand if you tried to do something about it like charge him for rape.

2007-12-12 14:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No. You allowed it to start. Although, if he had respected you he should have stopped. If you weren't physically seen by a doctor for a rape exam, immediately following the intercourse, there is no one to tell if it was forced , this would be very hard to prove in a court of law.

2007-12-12 14:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by sexyredheadedtiger 2 · 1 0

yes after the first STOP its considered Rape but you must know there is a statue of limitations law you only have a short time to report a Rape. you should contact the Police/ school counsler as soon as you can

2007-12-12 14:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by james_stailey@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1 0

rape is if you had said no before sex was started... although he should have stopped when you asked him to.. and i do know it is a very hard task for a guy to just stop in the middle of sex,, and pulling out is not a effective method of birth control so you may have still got pregnant even if he had pulled out.

2007-12-12 14:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by donna 3 · 1 2

It's hard. Technically after you said stop that makes it rape, however it is impossible for a lot of guys to stop once they are into it and are committed to finish.

2007-12-12 14:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I take it you had a miscarriage! and I am sorry for you! But no that is not considered rape because you were the willing party! You should of demanded he use protection the very first thing, and if he had none then you should of not had the sex....

2007-12-12 14:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by kim v 1 · 0 1

well rape is pretty much if someone forces sex on you without your consent. Your second statement is "it was my choice" so no it's not rape. But I think if you told him to pull out he should have. But also you say you didn't do anything when he "ignored" you. So to some it's not rape.

2007-12-12 14:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by girlnpink1218 2 · 1 2

It defiantly was very wrong of him, but because you started out that you agreed to have sex, I think you would have a hell of a time trying to convict him of rape. You can try, but I do not think it will go to court.

2007-12-12 14:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 1 0

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