My 2 year old daughter is watching way to much t.v and even if she don't watch it she still want her show on. And won't let us change the subject show. Her show is only Barney. And if I don't let her see Barney she will throw a big tantrum. We only have one tv in the whole house. I do plan to buy a portable one just for her but I really don't want to spoil her. What should I do?
2007-12-12 14:04:12 · 18 answers · asked by jj1102 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Thanks, for everybody advice. Luckily after I post the question and reading everybody answer I have solve the problem for now. I even taught her the sign language for "no".
2007-12-14 06:40:57 · update #1
let her go without... no kid has died from not being able to watch tv.
and if you get her her own tv then you are just setting her up for a lifetime of couch potato-ness...
break her of it. let her cry it out a couple of times.... she will stop eventually, YOU are the parent not her.
2007-12-12 14:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by This is harder than it looks? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is this magic words more parents need to use with their children. That word is "NO". Letting a two year old control the TV is a really bad idea. Let her tantrum. When she is calm explain the reality that the other people in the house like to watch their shows. Do not, under any circumstances, buy her a TV. She shouldn't be watching more than an hour or so a day anyhow. Leave it off as much as possible and find other interesting things for her to do. You are well on your way to raising a spoiled brat. Now is the time to begin to teach her to consider others' feelings and that she cannot always have her way. Buy her some simple Barney toys and books and spend time playing with her. That will be the best possible use of your time together, not sitting in front of the boob tube.
2007-12-12 22:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her throw a tantrum, it won't hurt her and she'll get over it. She will learn really fast, in a couple days or less, that you are serious and she needs to share. Keeping the TV off might be even more effective (my toddler can turn it on and change the channels so good luck!)
P.S. Letting her have her own portable TV will only cause an even bigger problem later on.
2007-12-12 16:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by twilightnomad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, I feel your pain. My two year old would watch tv all day if I let him!
But I limit him to one thirty minute video per day. In our living room, we have a tv cabinet with doors and I can put a safety latch on it to keep the little guy from opening it. In the play room, we don't have cable or an antenna so he can turn on the tv, but doesn't see anything but snow. And I keep his dvds locked up.
At night time, we don't turn on the tv until after he goes to bed. Works okay for us because the good shows don't start until 8pm anyway!
My suggestion would be to distract her as best you can when she wants to see her show. Get down on the floor with her and show her how great her toys are. Sure, she'll throw tantrums for awhile in the beginning, but it's better to ignore that than to get into a battle with her, "I said no, I said no," and so on. The thing is if you give in to a tantrum once, she'll keep throwing those tantrums every time after that because she will remember that it worked that one time.
And I don't think she needs her own portable tv.
2007-12-12 14:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not mend to sound offensive but here is my advice. You are the parent, you are in charge, not the 2 year old. Also, having a tv in the bedroom is not a good idea, esp for one so young! If it is someone else's turn to watch tv, perhaps you could engage her in an activity. Maybe you could let her color in a coloring book, help you fold the laundry, build a tower with her blocks. She needs to learn that there are other fun things to do besides watch tv. If I were you, I would nip this in the bud and put an end to it now. Good luck!
2007-12-14 04:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age 2 = the terrible 2 as it is often called. Of cource your toddler will try to get her way and if she thinks she can do so with you she will try time and again to do so. But, you are the parent and yours is the responsibility to discipline. What I did with my toddler was make a compromise. I told her she can watch tv in the morning but in the afternoon, it is my time to watch. And I had to stick to that decision. It wouldn't hurt her if you don't let her watch tv nor buy a portable. You might have screaming lessons for a few days but i tell you it will pass and you'll be thankful. In the meantime, when it's your turn to watch tv, give her something to do. That way, you'd have a quiet tv time for yourself.
2007-12-12 17:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by rishe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, it sounds like she is spoiled now. A two year old should not be controlling a television set. Tell her no, you want to watch your program now. If she has a tantrum, send her to her room and tell her to have it there. When she is done, she can come out. You getting her her own TV will not solve the problem.
2007-12-12 16:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely don't think buying her a portable tv is a great idea. Less tv, more interactive games.
I would let her throw the tantrum until she can't scream anymore. It may go on for a really long time and it may happen more than once, but you have to explain to her and teach her early on that she will not always have her way. You are the one who makes the rules.
2007-12-12 14:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by the_lookouts 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you are the parent not her, kids are way smarter than w think, if she throws a tantrum LET her, move things out the way so she don't hurt herself, cut off the TV and tell her to make it a good one. She will make herself tired then once is calm and only then explain to her she needs to share, by buying another TV what is that teaching her? are you helping or hurt her? Tantrum are scary if you are not prepared for them, CONTROL the situation you have the upper hand remember that.
2007-12-12 19:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like the daughter is beginning to train her mother the way she wants. Be the parent be stern and a two year old will always through a temper tantrum the trick is for you to not to give in to her behavior afterall spoiled is a behavior learned.
2007-12-12 14:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by wrathofkahn03 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to wean your daughter off the TV. Instead of encouraging more TV watching by buying her her own TV, help her find other things to do. Read to her. Play games with her. Let her help you do things around the house. And, of course, set a good example for her of appropriate TV consumption by not watching too much TV yourself.
2007-12-13 21:24:55 · answer #11 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋