My long-time boyfriend, J, and I broke up a few weeks ago and I rebounded and ended up sleeping with someone, C (an ex), soon after. Now though, it seems like I might be getting back together with J. Do I need to tell him I slept with C? It would devastate him. I definitely didn't pick up any STDs.
2007-12-12 13:40:32 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To the person who said someone else will, nobody knows but C and I know he won't tell. They don't know anybody in common, anyway, and C goes to school in another state.
2007-12-12 13:46:13 · update #1
whats in the past should stay in the past. if he finds out you tell him that you were just friends and nothing more. some times everyone doesn't need all the information. I'm sure that he did things that you don't need to know either, frankly its not your business either.hope that things work out for you. the old saying is let sleeping dog lie. it could cause more problems between you if you start clearing your conscience. at that point in time it was your business that you were doing what you were. and what he did is his business. love each other and go on with life. hope everything works out for the both of you. believe me i do believe honesty is the best policy but some times its just not to bring things up that may cause more problems. Good Luck
2007-12-12 13:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by bobbytjones1933 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to you,you guys took a break because you were depressed and "wanted to find yourself again" and become a better girlfriend . Instead,you took it as a license to do things you may have wanted to do within yourself but did not do.You went and got drunk,threw yourself at every guy you saw,kissed a kid at a party,and then you were going to have sex with a dorm mate (but you were both too drunk to complete the act)and all within the space of a couple of nights.After dating for almost four years ,it took this two days experience to make you realize that you loved and wanted to be with him only.I will suggest that you tell him the truth and the whole truth.Answer any and all of the questions he has,give him your reasons for your actions and do it honestly,tell him how you feel about him,and then ask for his forgiveness.If you want to start afresh,then you can not build it on a foundation of lies and dishonesty.The rest is up to him and how he feels.As an aside,since you say that you are depressed,you need to consult a therapist or psychiatrist (if you haven't done so already),let him evaluate you,and come up with a treatment protocol to help you with the issues responsible for your depression.
2016-04-08 23:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO STD, U sure? l0l
Seriously though, U should not tell him. You 2 were NOT together when U got (U know) by C. He could have gone and tagged another slimmy as well when U 2 were NOT together. So the past is THE PAST. LET IT GO. Move on. If you are back with this dude then be faithful to him now (or not, it's your choice) BUT decide on what to now from now on, DO NOT DWELL in the past, because TRUST ME it can be quite haunting...TRUST ME
2007-12-12 13:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by ID 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should. But sounds like you two should stay broke up. Getting back together will prove to be a bad idea. You will find your relationship filled with no respect and distrust. You should find a fresh new relationship.
2007-12-12 13:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by amber s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should. or at least let him know that you did see someone else. even though you guys werent together at the time. its still something you should let him know about it. if you were in his position, wouldnt you want to know if he slept with another girl during the time you guys werent together? you should just tell him and talk about it. because in the future it can come up and just create more problems.
2007-12-12 13:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by j yanks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. There is no reason he needs to know what occurred while you guys were apart. Unless you cheated it is none of his business.
I think it would only hurt him. Keep it to yourself and try to work on the issues that caused you to break up in the first place.
2007-12-12 13:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by clj02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD TELL HIM!! REGUARDLESS IF U WERE 2GETHER OR NOT CUZ EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO KNOW WHO THEY ARE SLEEPING WITH (THAT INCLUDES ALL THE PPL THEIR PARTNER SLEPT WITH) BECAUSE LIKE THEY SAY: U DIDNT JUST DO THAT ONE PERSON, YOU ALSO DID IT WITH EVERYONE THEY BEEN WITH REGUARDLESS OF STD'S OR NO STD'S. WE STILL RESERVE THAT RIGHT. PLUS, IF UR NOT HONEST IN THE RELATIONSHIT, THEN YOU ARE HEADED DOWN A BUMPY AND JAGGED DOWNHILL SLOPE AND INTO DISASTER AFTER SCRAPING AND GASHING YOUR FLESH AND CRUSHING EVERY SINGLE BONE IN YOU ******** BODY!!
-THINK ABOUT IT-
2007-12-12 13:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by BuddyRoach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me I am still battling the question but I haven't told him. You were not together at the time so its really none of his business things would probably be better if you didn't.
2007-12-12 13:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't unless he asks, and then say, "I won't ask you; we were broken up, and I was free to pursue other relationships."
How do you know you didn't pick up an STD, though? Condoms don't always work. Unless you were both tested for EVERYTHING (blood and urine tests), you can never assume.
2007-12-12 13:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends, if u guys weren't really having a deep, serious relationship, then shut up! Lol...otherwise, if ur going to "start over", start with honesty and make sure h's aware that you are willing to have trust, since honesty is there(your telling him is honesty! [= )...try putting urself in his shoes
2007-12-12 13:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by stripes=HOT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋