well this started cause i HAND MADE a gift for her and gave it to her at the end of the class and i left. when i left she threw it in the trash. i left my lunch in there so i had to go back and when i got my lunch i looked and saw it in the trash and i thought to myself that she a ungrateful ***** so what shoudl i do should i tell her
2007-12-12 12:49:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you just call her ungrateful, you are being honest. If you call her an ungrateful "Korean lady", you sound racist, and she will ignore why you are calling her ungrateful and just hear that you are being racist. After all, what does her being Korean or a lady have to do with her being ungrateful?
2007-12-12 12:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by wendy08010 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
She should not have done that. But, two wrongs don't make a right. You be the bigger person. I know it hurt, that she actually threw your homemade gift in the trash. Yes, she is very ungrateful, it is not necessary to bring her race into the picture.
You can simply tell her, that you saw what she did with your gift, and how much it hurt your feeling. That she should have found out who accidentally left their lunch before she threw it in the trash.
2007-12-12 20:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by That one 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
be cool,don't say that she's an ungrateful korean lady,just go up to her and say something like "Mrs -insertnamehere-,i happened to see something really similar looking to the gift i HAND MADE for you in the trash.You know,I really put lots of effort in that gift,and if you don't appreciate it,YOUR LOSS." Say it at the end of the day after class ends,and walk off before she can say anything.
2007-12-12 21:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't label her ungrateful "Korean" lady; maybe just ungrateful but her ethnicity doesn't have anything to do with it. If you feel that offended, just go up to her and ask her nicely why she threw your gift away. Maybe someone put it in there or it got knocked. If not, just wrap up some dog or cat poo in a small box and leave it on her desk when no one else is in the room and don't leave a gift tag on it.
2007-12-12 20:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by RJ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A gift is what it is ....a gift. Whatever someone chooses to do with it after it is gifted is up to them. Sorry the teacher chose to trash it, but you have no issue with her just as you wouldn't with a best friend or family member. Just because you thought it was a great gift does not mean the receiver did. They can do with it what they please or not.
2007-12-12 21:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does her being Korean have to do with it?
If she's ungrateful tell her how you felt. There's no reason to bring in her nationality.
Glenn O.
2007-12-12 21:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Glenn O. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
awww, I'm so sorry!
That must have hurt!
How about you go about asking her/telling her, in a bit more subtle way...ask her, "So, Ms. So-and-so, I came to get my lunch the other day, and I saw that the gift I had given you was in the trash. What happened to it?"
When I was a teacher, my students often gave me gifts (bless their hearts!). Regardless of what I thought of those gifts, I never tossed them into the garbage because I loved them and appreciated them :)
2007-12-12 20:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by docj 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her it was hurtful of her....she could've atleast waited til the end of the day Or thrown it out at home.....OR put stuff over it so you wouldnt see it in the trash...geez
2007-12-12 21:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Princess Consuela B. Hammock 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have this teacher that is like this. anyways today she was being the biggest ***** and before i kinda liked her but now i just wanna tell her to **** off with her always eyelined eyes that make her eyes look smaller not any bigger. she just does it cuz all us cool preppy high school kids do it... gag me now. want to be blond hair *more like wanna be caucasian* and since she thinks she is actually young she is always trying to dress like us kids in high school but she still doesnt have a man now does she?
2007-12-12 21:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by A_doll_rable 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand why you would be upset but sometimes it's better to just learn from it and let it go. I don't see how it would help you by confronting her. It just might cause more tension. Choose your battles in life and don't let everything get to you.
2007-12-12 20:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by No Christmas Grinch 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋