Ok i was with my boyfriend about an hour ago and we were just making out in the behide his house and he was giving these hickeys on my neck and i guess you could say dry humping then he asked when were we going to have sex? I said idk and he was thinking about 2 weeks from now?? He says he loves me but if he loves me should he be giving me a timeline. I think i have made it clear to him that i didnt want to yet but he keeps insisting. I dont want to lose him i love him but i am not ready?? What should i do??
2007-12-12 12:41:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he really loves you, then he would give you time.
2007-12-12 12:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by serendipidy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it until you're ready. Tell him straight up when you're both not in the heat of passion how you feel. Tell him you don't want to and that you may not be ready for a long time. Reserve your right to come to the decision to have sex whenever you feel comfortable, not by a specific deadline.
Your life and your future are not some date you can reserve. You'll be happy that you stood up for yourself and told him how you feel. If he really loves you, he deserves to know sex is not in the future right now. And if he really loves you, he will respect your wishes.
I know it was hard for me to tell my first boyfriend that I didn't want to. And there were some tempting times where we almost did. But in the end, I waited until I made the decision for myself and I've never regretted it. I enjoyed it to the fullest knowing I was ready.
2007-12-12 12:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by PetRescuer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who truly loves you will not force you are give you a 'timeline' for anything you do not yet feel comfortable doing. Heck, if i were you, I'd tell the little bugger to back off right away. Sex should be a mutual thing, where both parties are comfortable and feel safe. If you don't think you'd feel that way, forget it. Otherwise you're going to have a whole lot of problems on your hand.
2007-12-12 12:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by WisconsinChik 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You tell him exactly what you just said. Just make sure you do it when you're not kissing or whatever. Just take him aside one day and say that you love him, but, you are not ready to have sex. And that if he has a problem with it he needs to get over it because it is your body and until you are ready to, you're not going to have sex.
Granted, my phrasing is a bit blunt, so you may wanna rephrase it some, but that is in essence what you need to say.
2007-12-12 12:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by nobody045 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys will say anything to have sex with you my bf was all like i love you and want to marry you and i inded up having sex with him and then he was just using me for that. So I would just wait until your ready and if you think he is using you for it dont do it.
2007-12-12 12:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What grade are you in?!?!?!?!?
You're joking, right? He ACTUALLY expects you to draw up a timeline - to treat lovemaking like it's a SPREADSHEET...
You will be ready when YOU are ready - and if he tries to force you into something that you do NOT want to do, then you need to dump this selfish prick!!!
Guys like THAT only care about ONE thing - and that is GETTING LAID!
2007-12-12 12:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you don't want to lose him.
If you have sex with him, I assure you, you will lose him or better he will dump you.
Keep sex for marriage. If he is that sincere, he will wait for you till you two get married. If he keeps asking for sex, he is just using you and will dump you once he has sex with you!
You love him so you might not want to believe this, but take it, this is what happens with 99% of the girls!
Take decision with your head not your heart!
2007-12-12 12:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well... gosh... i don't want to give you bad advice because if I tell you go for it that could be bad for you and him both, but if I say hold off I don't want you to loose a boyfriend. Hmmm... hold off until your ready.
2007-12-12 12:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Matt FakeName Jr. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't wait for you and respect your fealings then he doesn't really love you. If he keeps insisting then tell him to **** off. If he doesn't get that your not ready then he is not respecting you.
2007-12-12 12:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you back he will wait just tell him that your not ready to take that big of a step
2007-12-12 12:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about this, if he really loves you, he will wait for you. If he cant wait, then it means that he has a different definition or interpretation of love than you do.
2007-12-12 12:46:32 · answer #11 · answered by bacdafuxup 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋