Me and my neighbor were talking this afternoon and a couple came down the street walking and the two were holding hands but the woman's arm was in front of the man's while the man's arm was underneath her in the submissive position !! I was really "weirded out" by this and I pointed it out to my neighbor and she said nothing was wrong with it. (She doesn't believe in the Bible though) I want to know what others think!! I was ALWAYS taught the man's arm goes in front and he is supposed to be leading the woman, you know?
2007-12-12 11:34:56 · 50 answers · asked by Little Angel 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You would of done much better to post this in the etiquette section of Y!A.
But anyhow while I dont see anything "wrong" with it, it would feel kinda weird. I always hold hands with my wife with my hand or arm in front. Never thought about why I do it, but thats just the way we always do it.
As far as etiquette goes, in ballroom dancing when leading a woman onto the dance floor the mans hand should be underneath the woman's with her hand lyng in your palm
(I just realized that sleep on the right side of the bed. When I did the first time when we first got married I didnt know I was committing to that side of the bed for the rest of my life.)
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WHOA, I cannot believe how many people got bent out of shape over this question. I read it as a simple, non threatening question and yet this question really brought out the Judgemental Patrol. If asking this kind of question really upsets you, then it aint the asker that needs to get a life.
2007-12-12 11:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by WhatsYourProblem 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Are you kidding? This is loony. Who cares? LOL, What in the heck does this have to do with the Bible?
I have never heard this. The only thing I've heard is that the man walks on the outside, towards the street, so if a car runs off the road, he gets hit and not the woman....you know, to protect her....
But this??
LOL.....what a hoot!
I guess you think the man always has to be on top, too.
2007-12-12 11:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by batgirl2good 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
1. Generally, it's a matter of who's taller, and the awkward angle the arms & hands have to take if the taller one's hand is behind. For people about the same height, both work.
2. Get a hobby.
2007-12-12 13:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right way is whichever way feels comfortable to them. When I sprained my wrist, my husband and I had to change our usual way of doing it. No big deal. If they are happy, we should all be happy for them and not worry about it. I think the Bible is focused on more important stuff. And I'm confused why you say that either way is submissive. My husbands arm is behind me as we walk even when he's guiding me, so maybe that was the case here.
2007-12-12 11:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Abigail 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
little angel i dont mean here to be critical in any way ,, the majority here say their is no rule of how to hold hands.. . for once i will have to totally agree ,, it is irrevelant , . . its so beautiful to have them holding hands period not to judge who is being the submisive one here,
crimeny is it not enough to see that they love one anonther enough too hold hands in public rather to judge who is or who is not the dominate one in their relationship by seeing in your own mind how they hold hands??
I wasnt aware of a fact their was a way to tell by holding hands its being submissive if u do it in a ceratin way ? does it really matter all that much??
is their a biblical mandate on this too?? when walking down the street a man should be protective of his mate meaning he walks on the outside with her on the inside generally speaking ., this to though is just a custom a form of protection and not a mandate .. , that is how i see it ,, bro murray
2007-12-13 03:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by mjbrightergem33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always thought it was just which way was more comfortable for the people. If I am holding hands on my left side then my arm is in the front, and on the right side, his is. How old are you?
2007-12-12 11:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Grendel 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It makes absolutely no difference whatsoever. There is no reason that a stranger should care what position another couple holds hands, and there is no reason that a man should have to "lead the woman."
2007-12-12 11:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by N 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter?
Look, I'm a Christian, and I'm sorry, but nowhere in the Bible does it instruct us on how a couple is supposed to hold hands.
2007-12-12 11:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
O-k-a-y......
What does it matter?
I think however is the most comfy way to hold hands is the right way....
Man, some people need to get a hobby!
BTW I don't think holding hands shows who has dominance. I hold my husband's hand because I LOVE him, not to show dominance or submission either one.
2007-12-12 11:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Thrice Blessed 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think it's strange that you even noticed something that unimportant ? Not one in a thousand would notice or care . One arm being in front or behind does not , in any way suggest leading or following .
I admire your observation , but not your distorted imagination .
2007-12-12 11:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋