has a bf ever broken up w/ you and you tried to get them back by pursuing them (calling/texting/e-mailing/ect) only to be shot down... but then when you completly stopped trying and left them alone... they wanted you back??? is this common for guys to do especially after the first breakup?
1. how long were you together
2. how long did it take of you leaving them alone for them to take notice and want you back?
my bf of 2 months broke up w/ me on monday night. i texted him 3 times from the course of monday night-tuesday morning and he has not replied. i am now planning to just totally leave him alone and wonder if he will take notice miss me & want me back. we broke up for a petty reason but i know he thought i was too needy so i also hope this will show him i am not needy.
although... i am VERY tempted to send him a text telling him i miss him. would this do more harm than good?
any input & your experience would be really appreciated
2007-12-12 10:31:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wednesdays are one of "our" nights to spend together so i am really feeling down and missing him tonight!
2007-12-12 10:32:54 · update #1
yeah, we're together for a week and a half and he dumped me! then like a week later, he wants me back and I went out with him again and I found out that he was cheating on me with someone else, so I learn a lesson about boys, never date a jerk ever!
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-12 10:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm probably the wrong person to answer this question, because I'm not a believer in head/heart games.
However, I do think it's early after the breakup for you to try to get him back. You need to deal with the issue of whatever caused the breakup in the first place - within yourself - first.
Don't push him away. If he calls you, talk to him (don't avoid him) and if he txt's you, respond politely and honestly.
Don't try to play games or any of that stuff. If you being "needy" is what the problem was, you need to look at what you said or did that made him feel that way. If it was that you called or txt'd him all the time, then you need to fix that about yourself and there's no better time than the present to do such a thing.
Just let it ride and take it day by day. If it's meant to be, it will happen. With only two months of dating, there's no reason you can't try to be just friends with him and let it develop if it's meant to.
2007-12-12 10:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY what you are going through. This summer i met someone that i REALLY liked. He asked me out and then 4 months later he broke up with me! I was so sad. I tried texting him and doing everything to get him back! So finally when i stopped texting him so much (unless i had a major problem) he came back to me!!!! It was about a month and a half before he did want to get back together with me! But it was the happiest day of my life! I don't think that you should send him a text saying that you miss him YET! Unless he doesn't come up to you within two months just tell him that you miss him and you don't understand why he didn't like you anymore! Look what you got to understand about guys is that they don't know what they have until they lost it!
2007-12-12 10:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going through the exact same thing. Me and my ex bf broke up in August and Im so in love with this guy so of course I text him alot telling him how much I miss and love him etc. Everyone keeps telling me to leave him be and play hard to get and then he will realize that you are doing ok and moving on which will worry him perhaps. Its near impossible for me to leave him alone but if thats what has to be done to maybe someday get him back then so be it. Thats the advice I got, maybe it will work for you as well.
Good Luck to you both, keep me posted, Im here if you need to talk!
2007-12-12 10:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First I want to say that I am sure that there are quite a few people that have decided not to answer this question because they have been in your situation and there is not an honest answer that you will be happy with. But, I will try. She is done with you. Plain and simple. I know that sounds really harsh, but you have to believe it. I have been in your shoes and the hardest thing for me to realize was that I was not in control of her feelings. You guys were 16 when you started dating. You are both 20 now and much different people. At 24 you will be much different than you are now. Let her go, deal with the hurt, move on with your life. You are young and you have so much to experience. Get in your car and get on the road, go see and experience some things for yourself, you will be much happier in the future for it.
2016-05-23 07:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my ex for almost three years before we broke up. It was sort of a mutual thing - I asked him, "Look, do you want to break up?" and he was relieved that I said it first. Anyway, he wanted nothing to do with me until I started dating someone else. (After a couple of months of him flaunting his various girls in my face). Then he decided he wanted me back and had a breakdown - crying, complaining, constantly putting down the new BF (who, by the way, I eventually married) etc. I assume he got over it - I dunno.
Don't text him. Give him a week. Then if you still feel this way, send him ONE text message - no more. Then you won't seem desperate, but you may be able to gage his response...or lack thereof.
2007-12-12 10:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you need to do is DO NOT call or txt him i know how hard this is i went through it myself 7 months ago!!!!!! It will leave him wondering about you and why you arn't txting/calling him anymore. My ex now writes me every 2 weeks to tell me he misses me ect. and now i just told him to leave me alone. I feel it in my gut he is wondering about me and stuff. By calling/txting him all the time makes you look desperate. Be happy, focus on urself, its the greatest revenge!But probably by the time he wants you back, you won't want him anymore.
2007-12-12 10:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel you, just look at my questions and you will know what I am talking about. I am trying to cut my ex off,because you can't get them back by pushiung them into it,you must pull them back to you.My problem is SHE won't leave me alone,but she was the one that left me.On top of that she has a new BF.If he isn't calling you,than you shouldn't call him.And if he wants to try to be your friend,run away,it never brings you back together.
2007-12-12 10:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by saddemon26 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes everything u wrote down is like completely true we were together for two years but when we broke up he saw that i was happy doing my own thing and now he wants me back but my mind wants him but my heart doesn't so i am just going to follow my heart.. and u should do the same
2007-12-12 10:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noo don't text him leave him alone for liek 2 weeks & delete his number from ure phone dnt contact him for a while otherwise he'll get annoyed at you just don't act desperate listen to the song doing to much lmfao it's old though
2007-12-12 10:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by nowayjose67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋