as I am a bit shy and in the past have always let the man do the running. I just really dont want to face possible outright rejection. I dont even know if he has a girlfriend (in which case I would not be interested) and I dont have anyone to find out for me.
I think that he may be interested in me as he always seems to cheer up when I am around (or else he is permanantly buzzing!). I don't know how to make our professional relationship go into a social setting so we can get to know each other without asking him out directly. Currently I am just flirting a little with him when I get the opportunity and I suppose there is time for this to pay dividends.
However can anyone think of any novel way to cross this professional/personal barrier / break the ice (and no we have no mutual friends in common to help). Yes I know its a silly question but I need some advice before I end up old and alone. Or worse old and with someone I wish I wasnt!
2007-12-12 10:11:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your problem is a common one which , unfortunately, does not have a common solution.Since each situation is fundamentally unique, the answer also has to be a tailored one. Hence, you can try any or all of the following:1)take advantage of those occasions when he seems to cheer up on seeing you. If you can, make them situations where you can be alone since this is more conducive to an open, honest, and freer conversation2)Increase the frequency and variety of your flirting antics so it is clear to him yet very demurr and mysterious3)be ready to engage in a conversation that is personal,intimate,and direct with no game playing4)since you already have a professional relationship, the ice is broken.I am sure he is interested in you based on his reactions to your presence.Your flirting actions(though I am not sure what form they take) makes me believe that you're not as shy as you may think you are.5) With the emphasis today on work place sexual harrassment , especially between unequals, he may be afraid of a romance with you.This is where number 1 above comes in handy for it lets you guys talk privately. 6) finally you may just have to take a chance, risk rejection, and ask him out. After all that is the same chance that you are asking him to take.While you may know that were he to approach you, you will not reject him, he does not know that.There is an old saying that goes something like"anything worth having is worth fighting for".All you have to do is ask.I wish you both tons of luck.
2007-12-12 11:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him out!
Most guys would respond in a positive manner, even if they didn't like you!
As a guy, it's pretty annoying to have to always be the one to get rejected if things don't go as planned. The fact that you are willing to ask him out will show how confident you are.
If he doesn't want a strong-minded woman, he doesn't deserve you.
2007-12-12 18:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Grant G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make the first move. I know some guys freak out when girls are too forward about dating.
2007-12-12 18:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dreamer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way around it. you will have to put yourself out there.
2007-12-12 18:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋