My sex life with my boyfriend is on the rocks at the moment and I find it's hard to initiate sex with him because I'm afraid he will reject my advances. (he's done it a few times before and I take it really hard when he does.) Now when we have sex he seems so disinterested in me and lately doesn't even finish!! What can I do to spice things up so he will be more interested again?? Any ideas on what would rev his engine??
He has a foot fetish and likes to look at my feet but I'm talking about the sex part here. I want him to have fun making love/having sex with me again.
Any ideas? I really appreciate it!
2007-12-12 09:59:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do the outfit thing all the time with him and I always let him do what ever he wants to me....literally. Getting naked in front of him isn't enough any more. He says he wants it all to himself (me to only concentrate on him) because he 'waits too long' to please me. I told him it wouldn't take so long if I thought he was interested. It's hard to have a good time when your lover just has a blank stare on their face. We have talked about it today and came to the conclusion that we need to communicate more about what and when we want it. I'm just trying to do my part and be confident about it. Thanks for all the answers so far!! I appreciate them!
2007-12-12 10:35:48 · update #1
It sounds like it's not your sex life that's on the rocks but your relationship in general. Settle down and talk with him; tell him his rejections of your advances hurt and ask him what you can do to better that. (Believe it or not, guys aren't always in the mood.) But based on what you said, it's not that you want to initiate sex but to get him to have fun in bed again. That's a relationship issue at the core.
2007-12-12 10:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm a girl, but I'm gonna give you a little advise anyway! The bedroom scene is lacking a little spice, so shake things up! You are obviously interested in sex, you aren't the problem, the problem is getting him interested again! Relax, this one's a lot easier than you think, you're putting way too much pressure on yourself! Put on a little sexy outfit, turn off the tv, put some music on, and then simply whisper in his ear... "Baby, tonight is all about you, tell me what you want!" That gives him the control, but you're getting what you want out of it too! You might have to do a few favors, some you might not be thrilled about, but that'll get him interested again! Maybe there's something he wants but is embarrassed to tell you about it! Get him to open up!!! Guy's like to hold all the cards, so let him think that its all his ideas...Good luck!!!
2007-12-12 18:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe come out in some langeria, u know turn him on! Walk up to him n kiss him then touch him litely...then while your kissing ask him for it...if he agrees (he will because u probably turned him on) then just say ok..when your having sex then take it slow then rough!! Build his orgasm up till it's so big for him to hold then let him go! Let him feel what you want from him! Hope that helped!
2007-12-12 18:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know i'm not a guy but maybe set the mood, a relaxing massage or buy a cute little outfit that will drive him nuts.
2007-12-12 18:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may need the foot fetish to get him in the mood --- maybe more of that to begin with --- but then im think WTF --- if a lady wants to initiate sex with me im only too pleased to oblige so there may be other factors that you are unware of --- maybe talk to him find out what the problem is and try to solve it (it may have nothing to do with sex) ---- best wishes
2007-12-12 18:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously he didnt like it that u wanted to do that so bad. let him ask u. let him want it ok. sounds like u want it more the he does.
2007-12-12 18:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by Pooh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋