How do you get a guy back?

Question

I went out with this guy a few times he was really nice. I thought it was goign some where went over to his house to suprise him he wasnt there. called him and he said he didnt want to see each other any more because it just wasnt gonna work out. I barley got to say hi and he didnt realy want to say why. Things were fine so i thought he must be seeing someone else , but he said no. Witch i think he was seeing someone broke up n got back together with them . he has a pink toothbrush n matching razor in his spare drawer. Even so I liked the guy and I think if he knew it would change things. he wants a girlfriends at first i told him lets just date, but now i want to explore the relationship further, n he is randomly called it quits. What should i say if i call, every one is tellng me not to call because ill get my feelings hurt . this isnt me normaly but i would rather get my feeling hurt then not know what might have been. how should i approch. this was like 3-4 days ago

Answer 1

First off, You look like a great looking lady. Now the hard part.....
He isn't interested in you. I know that you may feel that he might change his mind if he knew more about you, but HE has chosen to end this partnership on his terms. Perfectly understandable. I understand that you may have developed some type of emotion for the man, but you need to see that no matter what, HE dropped the ball, not you. You should respect his judgment call, and find yourself a man that will do anything to be your everything. Life is too short to chase guys around that have no interest in you. You deserve better than that. You need to believe that you are worth the time, and effort to get to know better, and find that man that can feel for you what you feel for him. I have also been through the same thing in my past and I'll say that it can get ugly if you keep making moves that aren't reciprocated back. To see for your self, try reversing the roles here. Put yourself in his shoes, and him in yours. Be non-biased in your self observations, as hard as it may be. Your smart enough, and lovely enough to steer through this mess without to much hurt. Prolonging it can only bring more pain to you, and it can taint your future endevors. You deserve the best, and not the rest. I wish you the best of luck, and merry christmas.

Answer 2

Honey, the same thing happened to me and I was crushed about it for like 2 months and about a week ago I decided that he was an a**hole! If this guy is going to leave you and not give any explaination then you can do alot better than him. Im not gonna say just forget about him because I know thats not going to happen but start hanging out with a really good guy friend and you'll have so much fun with him that you will forget about the other loser and realize that your better off without him. Thats what I did. Hope this helps :]

Answer 3

It's not the matter of getting your feelings hurt cuz your ambitions have clearly proven that it's not a concern for you. What you should be concerned about is if a guy like this is good for you. You should be with someone who wants to be with you and not have to pull teeth to be with them. I've been ambitious and took chances thinking I'd see my happy ending, but it's never the outcome in this kind of situation, and it's not me it's the guy. And it's especially crucial that you move on because if you suspect he is/was seeing someone else, then most likely he is. Therefore, he would have every excuse, every reason not to be with you, especially if he's hung up on someone else. You'll just end up looking back and wishing you would've let it go in this moment in time.

Answer 4

I wouldn't call yet because it's annoying to call so soon after he told you he isn't interested. The initial attraction probably wore off and he was faced with the reality of what a relationship may be. If there are other girls in the picture he may just not be sure where he is going with his life at this point. If he really isn't interested you probably should just move on because he will only hurt you. If he is still interested but is just playing games you may try getting together with friends and making sure he's there too. If you can spend time together he may get a better idea of who you are and what you're about.

Answer 5

there are soooooo many other guys out there - you've probably heard this so many times before, because i know i have: but really! think about it: there is probably the most amazing guy youve ever met waiting for someone as caring as you to come and let him sweep you off your feet!! but if you're too busy chasing a guy who'll say "no" , with tunnel vision !!, not looking at the other opportunities -- you're missing what you probably have right underneath your nose!

good luck, and sometimes love comes up when you least expect it. let the guy go -- because any guy who says he doesnt want to be with you ANY day of the week is not worth your precious time -- after all, "Don't squander time - it's the stuff life is made of!"

Answer 6

As someone who has done this, trust me - there's things you'd rather not know. He MIGHT just be sparing your feelings in a very big and important way. Let it go and wish him well - turn the other cheek.

I was with this girl who was h-h-h-hot! And when the clothes came off her body just bulged out - she had no muscle tone, it felt like her body was made out of fat and bone. There were other things that were even more shocking. What could I tell her? - that she was a freak? Should I have destroyed her self-image for life? No, I broke off contact, because that was the only thing I could think of doing that didn't involve lying.

Let it go - you may not like the truth.

Answer 7

okay, so me and my 8 moths bf broke up and i was desperate!! i didnt know what to do and i wanted him back sooo bad bc he was just an amazing guy... well anyway, i tried being cute, sexy and all that crap...didnt work! it just made him feel important... until i called him once and said, "ok, im not gonna be calling as much bc i really wanna move on and get over you" and he somehow realized he didnt wanna lose me... we started talking, he told me he still loved me and that some things were not working out but we'll make it work out... so we got back and it's been three mothns since that happened... we are having the best time of our lives:D hope i helped... getting back a guy does sometimes require that you give up and that first, you love yourself, i did what i did bc i didnt want to keep hurting myself, i prayed and he came back... if you need any help or just talk bc i know its hard... just email me @ [e-mail]

Answer 8

Wow this is a tricky one. There could be alot of reason why he is giving you the cold sholder all of the sudden. All I can tell you is I did the same thing to my boyfriend now. I dated a guy for all most a year on and off (he was a jerk) and on one of our many break ups I met this other guy who I decided to go out on a date with well we hit it off and we dated for about two weeks when the my first boyfriend called me, of couse being stupid I left the new guy and went back. But a few days later he started being a butt agian and I decided to leaver for good. I went back to the new guy and we have been together for a little over two years.

It also could be that he is feeling nervous. A relationship is a big step especially for a guy.

Maybe this is what is going on with your guy. If I was you I would just wait a few days. Give him his space and then when he starts to be friendly agian ask him out but only as friens maybe once he opens up he will be able to talk to you and tell you what really happend.

Best of Luck!

Answer 9

You may never get the answer you want. Often, the answer to why people don't click can't even be put into words. If he called it quits, there is no "might have been" to consider. It's best to just let it go and move on to someone else.

Answer 10

You only went out a few times. After a few dates he decided you were not what he's looking for and you will not be able to change his mind. Don't continue to pursue a worthless cause - he told you he's not interested in seeing you and you should just move on and leave him alone.